does anyone know the cure for lack of self confidence? besides counselling. Laura?

Answer 1

My next solution to try is Ballet. It makes you feel better about yourself when you get in touch with yourself being, when you improve your posture and stretch yourself out. I think what has helped me a bit to has been achieving things. Running up hills, putting more effort into something than other people and seeing positive results. I know you always just get battered down again when the immediate effects of the achievement ware off but it makes you feel like you can do more things, that you are a capable human being. Getting to know who you are can help, not being such a harsh judge on yourself, accepting your weakensses without condemning them and working on them and identifying your strengths. Doing things for other people to make them feel better can make you feel better about yourself also.

Answer 2

I know it sounds silly but look in a mirror every day and say 10 times im a good person and smile looking at your self.
Its a prooven fact that smiling stimulates the serotonin levels which is a chemical in the brain that if the balance is wrong you will feel more down than up and gives it more of a boost so if you try and smile more and say nicer things to your self in the end it will work.
Try of by starting with im a nice person and think of all the positive things about IE I'm thoughtful for others etc
I hope this has helped

Answer 3

Remind yourself that almost everyone has some sort of lack of confidence. Think of bullies, it's how they feel they can stay on top, think of celebrities wearing outrageous clothes, or very few clothes lol, it's how they feel they can get noticed (always for the wrong reasons!) think of the family member/friend/neighbour who always has to have the biggest, best and most expensive of anything, it's because they're so insecure and yearn to be admired...and a tip someone gave me once, a bit crude but a great leveller - always remember that even the richest and highest in the land have to pull their pants down to go to the toilet sometimes!

Answer 4

it's actually really easy.

1) make up a list of stuff you do well or good things about yourself. It doesn't have to be long it can be as little as one thing.

2) stand in front of a mirror at least once a day and take a few minutes to look at yourself and tell yourself how great you are. Tell yourself about all those things that are great about yourself. Really ham it up like crazy. Exagerate. Strike stupid poses and make faces at yourself. Basically have fun being silly while reinforcing how great you are over and over. Even if you don't believe the thing you're saying to yourself and you feel silly keep it up.

3) Eventually you'll believe it.

Answer 5

everybody is good at something.
find that something and work on it.
achieving goals + targets at the things that u r good at will help to develop confidence in ur self.

often a lack of self confidence is down to external influences.
seek to understand these + this is another step to developing ur own self confidence.

lastly, trying hard at any physical activity will boost endorphin production thus promoting a feeling of well being achievement + confidence.

Answer 6

Always always walk your own path. Decide who you want to be and become that person - consider each day to be the first day of the rest of your life. Don't have regrets, let them go and move on. Smile and put your shoulders back and stand up straight - it works, really. Try to do things every day that have meaning, give you pleasure or challenge you. Don't ever think you are inferior to anyone else - we are all the SAME!!

Answer 7

Consider people you now who you think are confident. Look at what they do, what they say and how they act. Then copy them. It won't feel right at first. You'll be self conscious and think people are thinking awful things about you. But then consider how you think of people that act confidently. You don't think awful things about them. Neither will people think that of you. Soon acting confidently will feel more natural, you will enjoy the positive responses you get form people, will enjoy the attention confidence attracts, and hopefully won;t need to think about 'acting confident'; any more, it will just happen.

Answer 8

There's a book i can recomend you, is by susan jeffers 'feel the fear do it anyway' it really has changed my life, helped me to become a more confident and a happier person ofcourse after reading it you will still have some work to do but will learn to enjoy all your ooops and wows. Give it a try i promise you wont regret it.

Answer 9

a friend of mine lost all his self confidence as he was badly bullied at school. it got to the point where he wouldnt even go to the shops. i advised him to do something very small everyday, and if he succeeded then reward himself with something. he has done this and is now going out doing everything and enjoying himself, with his very pretty new girlfriend ! never let people get you down, and never let bullies win. what right have these big cowards got, to take your life away ?

Answer 10

I can feel like that sometimes....one of the things that helps is making yourself do something ....join a club/group, join a gym it's horrible to start but you feel so pleased with yourself afterwards! I had a holiday in Italy this year and my first purchase (a bottle of milk!!) made me feel smug all day!