Naturally it's all the same problems I was once subjected to. As much as I can relate and want to help her (woman to woman), I've kept my mouth shut. I don't want to anything to jeopardize my daughter's relationship with her father. Now that our daughter is an adult, my Ex's wife calls me more frequent and obviously wants to be my friend. Not only that, but she's using my daughter as a sounding board as well! How do I diplomatically tell her to back off and deal with her own problems, without telling my Ex? It's becoming more and more difficult to avoid her.
2006-07-13 00:24:21 · 8 answers · asked by TCBgirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Be frank enough to tell her that you dont want to involve in your Ex, just because its(EX) an old story, where you yourself could not help!!
Your daughter being an adult( a little mature also, I hope) can understand you as to why you refuse to poke into her dad's matters as someone else is there tto do that.As a dad, she should be concerned but as an ex-wife, its not justifiable!!
2006-07-13 00:35:21 · answer #1 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell the ex to talk to her husband, he's not your problem anymore in a matter of speaking. Tell her I solved my problems my way, now you need to find a solution, not that you're recommending Divorce. Tell her go to counseling with him, but to stop calling you with their problems. It is just that. THEIRS. You don't want or need to be involved. And furthermore, she should never call and speak to your daughter about the problems with her Father. Honestly, she's trying(would be my guess) to see how you handled situations before you got the Divorce. You can be friends (if you want to) with this woman without getting involved with the marriage.
2006-07-13 01:32:01 · answer #2 · answered by Misty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her straight out that you think that any kind of friendship between the two of you should be strictly friendly conversation but nothing more. It's not the best idea to become friends with your husbands Ex. Good luck!
2006-07-13 01:41:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her know. what going on between them two, needs to stay between them two. You ain't no Dr. Phil, you can't help her out with her problems. Let her know, not to be using your kid for it either. I understand she wanted to be your friend. But on the subject of marriage problems. That she is having with him.
Then she need to get therpy with someone other then you. Let her know that. Just don't sit there ,and let her ring the phone blue million times. If she calls and starts talking about it.
Tell her, you don't feel like hearing it. Other wise if it's about your daughter then you will listen to it.
2006-07-13 01:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd tell her I'm not in the marriage counseling businesss and have enough to deal without hearing about someone else's problems. Call a counselor, that's what they're there for. If my hubby found out I told her this, I'd tell him hell yeah I said it and I don't have a problem with it, does he?
2006-07-13 00:48:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ought to nicely be a threat.. what became responsible for the seperation.. call the ex spouse and ask what's the challenge and that you do not prefer to reason a prob., yet favor she ought to include you on your discussions about the toddler because the toddler resides on your loved ones besides...
2016-10-14 10:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by ishman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be direct. Let her know exactly what you think and are saying here without being hateful. This is obviously getting to you, so do something about it.
2006-07-13 00:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know you don't care to be involved in this situation. Period.
2006-07-13 01:27:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋