she is my best friend and i am her's best friend too,after i told her that i like her,she wrote this letter,i felt frustration....
i mean sometimes i felt we really like a couple...anyway should i leave?even give up the friendship,b/c i felt jealous after her make a boyfriend
the letter as below
Hmmmmm..........ok.....well that's an interesting email you sent me. I can't say how you feel about me because I'm not you. But I do know that sometimes people feel left out when their best friend starts dating someone. Because before there was just you....and now I have someone else in my life. It happens all the time even with girls. Like when my friend got a boyfriend and I kinda felt sad that we won't spend too much time together anymore. I think that's how you are feeling. But I don't know for sure. Maybe you feel that things may change between us. I guess it depends how you felt before I got a boyfriend? I even kinda felt like how you feel....(the litter too long and cut off)
2006-07-12 23:30:59 · 12 answers · asked by stupid 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
thanks for everyone,but i am not teenage,i am 27 and i am taiwanese her bf too,she is canadian....and the rest letter as below
when Mike told me about his girlfriend. But truth is that things between Mike and I are better then they have ever been. So his relationship with his girlfriend didn't affect our friendship.
You know even one of Elvis's friend (who is a girl) starting liking him after he started dating me. But before that she didn't like him. I don't know why but really it happens often.
And listen Ossy.....OUR friendship won't change because I now have a boyfriend. I just don't have to rely on you all the time...so you should be happy that you don't have to do so many things for me;o) I hate bothering you anyway. And yes you do need to think about your relationship with your girlfriend and your feelings. Be honest with yourself and follow your heart.
I know you have lots to think about.....everyone has doubts about their relationships......just take a
2006-07-13 00:04:00 · update #1
......just take a chance....whatever path you choose. But go with what you feel is RIGHT FOR YOU. And don't worry so much! Maybe you are just thinking too much. But if something is making you unhappy....then maybe it isn't right. I think any relationship should be happy and positive and make you feel good even after all the fights and arguments.
Hope I helped you out. But you are the only one who really knows how you feel. And if you ever want to talk again then just let me know.
2006-07-13 00:05:28 · update #2
i reply the letter to her,b/c i did really wana help her at any reason,but she seen just walk away,and she reply the letter
Hey,
I think you misunderstood what I wrote in my last email. I WAS NEVER ANNOYED BY WHAT YOU DID FOR ME. How could I be? I'm so thankful for everything you do for me all the time! If I didn't meet you.....who would I have? I just meant that I don't like to bother you b/c I should be able to do things on my own right? I hope you understand what I mean! Please don't feel sad!! I never want things to change between us! I adore you as a friend Oswald...you should know that! I still wanna watch baseball games together and go for dinner and go anywhere! I talk about you to Elvis and he doesn't care. He's got lots of friends who are girls. I told him that you are my greatest friend in Taiwan. I met you first and I truly treasure our friendship. Oswald I just called you b/c I felt like I should explain this in person so that there aren't anymore
2006-07-13 00:13:18 · update #3
b/c I felt like I should explain this in person so that there aren't anymore misunderstandings. I'm so sorry that I woke you up! I know it's pretty late. So I guess I'll call you tomorrow maybe during my lunch b/c I know that you have a half day. Bye.
2006-07-13 00:13:36 · update #4
put the rest of the letter in additional information... because if she is saying that she felt the same way too at the end of it... then you shouldn't give up... I know how it is though. I had a guy friend and at first he had feelings for me and never told me, then I had feelings for him and he didn't for me anymore. It was very frustrating for me and made me a bit sad for awhile. He and I are still good friends and our friendship has been pretty rocky... It could be possible that she does like you, because when I told my friend that I liked him that way... He kind of changed the subject and I knew that meant he didn't feel the same. She didn't respond that way, but she and my friend are not the same so I can't tell you for sure. For the longest time I had a small hope in my heart that he would want to be with me, but then I fell for someone else later. So, in your situation I think you should do these things:
- Continue being her friend
- Date some other girls, I'm guessing you are young so get out there!
- Don't interfere with her current relationship, it will just put strain on your friendship
- Just let things unfold, there is a reason for everything!
The upside of her relationship is that she will compare him to you... So, be your best and maybe she'll realize what she's missing...
BEST OF LUCK!
2006-07-12 23:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sh!t man, thats just sad. Theres a couple of paths you can take. You can still be friends and maybe she'll dump her bf later on and you can have your chance. I mean, you're a teen rite? Teenage relationships never work in the long term. Just too much uncertainties and changes waiting to happen. But its gonna be frustratin, it'll probably take months years and even if they broke up, that doesnt mean she'll get with you! Maybe to her you ARE really just a friend who's longing for his old best friend, irregardless of what you trully feel. Plus, its gonna be real painful seein her go with other guys. Always remember, girls just wanna have fun. Theyre not stupid, they're smart. They'll want to try out other merchandises first before setlling on one. Can you handle the risk and the depression? You'll need some very strong conviction, and some maturing up to do. Plus, you have to make sure you're better than the bf's too. Maybe in the future, she'll settle for you, But not in the near future, definitely.
Or, you can just move on as they say. Forget about her. Think: she's a *****, a ho, a slut, she totally doesnt know how i feel, she needs to be raped in all three holes!!! lol, no man, just kidding dont do that, thats self-destructive, but you'll learn to get over it somehow. Painful process. You'll probably want to end your own life if you wanted her that badly. But there ARE always other merchandises too even for us guys. So play around. Be a not-so-nice guy for some time. Play around with girls' hearts, break some. Sooner or later you'll find your match who also happened to find hers in you, and it can go just smoooothly fine.
Your choice :)
Love + peace yo
* after reading details:
oops....
Well, it seems your situation is more complicated than it actually is cuz there are more people involved. Plus all the sh!ts i've said above about teenage relationships and their tendencies no longer hold true. So, just think: its a complicated rumble. Chances are that in the next iteration of events, it will get even more complicated, what with feelings involved and all. Are you that much into her? You're twenty seven. Prime time to check out the other merchandises. Dont lose out on the prime age. The way she sounds she's not too much into you anyway. Leave the rumble and go for something else where you know you can win the game ;) peace
And yea, fix for a good closure first. "..so that there arent any more misunderstandings..." You'll be like: yea sure,best friends if thats what you want, just like before. But its never gonna be the same.
And move on.
2006-07-13 06:43:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel u bro
y u want to give up when u can have her?
the guy she met just came in her life and u have been there all the time
thats y u lost ur importance.
now she nows that u feel that way for her but wht u going to do now
here just dont show it
flirt with other gals in front of her, give other more attention
tease her some times like if she is waering really hot cloths u just say gal i ant going out with u dress like that i have a image to protect wear somthing nice lol
got it act like a player
u have to make an impression
u were always her friend and u never worked hard to look good
thats y she picked someone else
i would really like to help u on this , if u want my help send me a message cheers.
2006-07-13 06:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by ghost13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go! don't feel bad if she loves you she will be back. If not she is not made for u :) ! may be GOD made some one else for you who is more suitable to you and both of you like each other.
2006-07-13 06:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by kumarajayleo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just move on... she'll never like you. I don't know what you said to her, but she's treating you like a 5 year old.
2006-07-13 06:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by smokingun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are better left to be friends. Leave it now that she got the message its her turn to worry. move on.
2006-07-13 06:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think id be too positive if i was you.
2006-07-13 06:34:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget her. Move on and keep your dignity.
2006-07-13 06:33:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she will just be your "friend", look elsewhere if you want any action
2006-07-13 06:34:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying so hard ... that's SO unattractive!
2006-07-13 06:35:34 · answer #10 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋