2006-07-12 22:19:23 · 11 answers · asked by tinkerbell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Why torturing yourself? Move forward!
2006-07-12 22:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by guy in Yemen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste one more moment of your energy on this relationship.
1. Get a good lawyer.
2. Go to a spa and get a complete make-over, shop for a new outfit, etc.
3. Read and research everything you can find to help you get through this.
4. Make a list of everything you have to do in order to move on with your life.
5. Do volunteer work and develop new friendships.
6. Take the time to be alone and discover TRUE self-love (and remember "loneliness" is merely a state of mind.)
Remember, you were "comfortable" and thought you were secure. He broke that trust. The best revenge is to look hot and be happy. Because trust me, one day you'll look back at all this and realize that this little boy (you call your husband) is not worthy of you and he did you a big favor. As for wanting to find out whether or not he and his girlfriend had a kid together? WHO CARES! Look, get passed your way of thinking that having a child is a woman's only power. (Besides, he's not God ... you are Goddess) Having a child is life sentence, and besides she will have to deal with the loser now ... and get comfy & fat, and worry about whether or not he's gonna cheat on her like he cheated on you, etc., etc. & blah, blah. Life is too short, so move on!
I know, because this girl's been there and done that. I would rather live in a cardboard box, in the freezing cold, and eat cereal 24/7, than be in a relationship with someone I don't trust.
Think of this as an opportunity to be accountable and make a better life for yourself. And one day a REAL man will come along and find you genuinely attractive for what you have accomplished. And not only will he fall in love with you but he will respect you too. Isn't this the greatest foundation for a relationship that you would want for yourself?
2006-07-13 05:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by TCBgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband left you for his girlfriend and he's gone, let it be. You are wasting your energy trying to save what should not be. Why would you need to know if they have a child together? Do you think he would only leave you cause he had a child with the other woman? If so, why would you want him anyways? If he cheated on you period, why would you want him back? Move on with your life and find someone that will treat you better. You deserve that much.
2006-07-13 08:51:38 · answer #3 · answered by Misty B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, OUCH, what a terrible thing to have happen to you! If he lied about the affair he is a liar. Liars are not something good they are bad!
If he had a child with her do you rally want to know..does it make you feel better or worse???
I guess I would want to know too. R U back together? Why else whould you need to know? Ask her. Believe me, she'll tell you.
2006-07-13 05:27:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Employ a private eye. But first divorce him and screw him for every cent!! Then get in touch with me and I'll help you spend it before having fun with you ... lol
Seriously ... the PI is your best bet - no-one who's close to them will tell you and you can't really go round and ask, can you?
2006-07-13 05:25:08 · answer #5 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local friend of the court office (childsupport office) enter his social security number, if he has a case then they do, or just ask him, a real man wouldn't denie his child, he has no reason to lie to you now ya'll not together anymore.
2006-07-13 05:50:16 · answer #6 · answered by mznatural30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares?????????????
Change your attitude......YOU are FREE of the cheater.
Don't come across as the victom. Be the victor...you are free of a cheating creep.
Give it up or the pain will destroy your life.
The best revenge is to be hapy.
Be happy!
2006-07-13 05:25:24 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him.....and if he dances around the question.... just let it be and move on with your life.
2006-07-13 06:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by jes81_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sleep with his brother or his best friend.
2006-07-13 05:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask his friends that are honest to you
2006-07-13 05:23:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋