We've only been married 2 years now and he tells me he doesn't find me attractive anymore. I still love him and he says he loves me, but he gets annoyed if I disagree with him or ask him to pick up his mess. Before we were married, we talked a lot and had sex 2-3 times a day. Now that we're married, he with holds his emotions and then blows up at me for little things like when I ask him to take out the trash or call me if he's going to be late. I try to be patient with him and asked that we do counseling together, but he won't. I feel unloved and I don't think he finds me attractive anymore. All my friends live out of state and my family doesn't want to hear about our problems. I'm only in my 20s and I think I made a huge mistake. Lately, I find myself attracted to this Latino guy who's a construction worker. He always stops and notices me. It's crazy, but I'm fantasizing about having sex with him. I tell my husband he says that I should "do it" with him. Now he's crazy!
2006-07-12 21:19:26 · 7 answers · asked by Jonelle C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't screw a construction worker 'cuz you're not getting attention at home. Keep you're morals, lose your husband. If he's not willing to work on the relationship divorce him. Then if you want to have a fling go for it. The next man you want to marry will appreciate the fact that you weren't having sex with strange men while you were married to your first husband.
2006-07-12 22:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't cheat that will only make things worse. I think that you husband just tells you anything to get you to leave him alone. Don't bother him for a week about any thing and see what happens he might not do anything or he might open up some. I just recently go married and I am going through the same thing. Its a guy thing. You will fall in and out of love through the marriage it is hard to except but it just makes you work that much harder to keep it going. Don't give up just yet!
2006-07-13 04:56:59 · answer #2 · answered by FullofQuestions 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What on earth will you accomplish by staying with your husband , but having sex with other men, who also don't love you, but will be using you. Do you want to risk getting pregnant by some one night stand? Or picking up an STD or expose yourself to the AIDS virus with risky sexual behavior.
You need some counseling. If your husband won't go, go without him. You need to ask yourself if your better off without him, than with him.
You are still young, please do not have any children with this man, until you work out if you are going to stay in this marriage. You didn't say how old your husband is, but it sounds like he is pretty young too.
If your not happy; having an affair with some other guy is not going to fix this, but instead make even more problems in your life. If you want to find someone else, please get a divorce first.
2006-07-13 04:46:16 · answer #3 · answered by pinegreen7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are still with your husband..because.....???
If he says 'do it' to you having sex with another man, he has probably already cheated on you. He wants you to do it so he doesn't feel so guilty about his own indiscretions.
Get a divorce BEFORE its too late and you have children to worry about.
2006-07-13 04:33:10 · answer #4 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very ok. Go ahead and cheat on him.
2006-07-13 05:51:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
start over,too young to be miserable!!!...good luck..
2006-07-13 04:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by outback 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it is not ok to cheat...plain and simple.
2006-07-13 06:37:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋