Age gap between a couple?

Question

Is 18 years too big an age gap between a couple? I am 28 & he is 46. He is very fit & looks like he is in his late 30s.

We get along well as friends & were very close. But that changed when I know of his age. After that, I just do not know if I should just stay away from him or let our feelings continue to develope. He can sense my hesitation & is stupid enough not to try to persuade me to accept him.

Answer 1

I don't think age gap can cause much trouble if it is not more thne 8 or 10 years and when you are both young enough, but I don't think that 18 years is a suitable gap. He will grow older very soon, when you'll be in your late 30s you'll see that you are not with the person you wish to be. Most of all there would be a lot of troubles to accept each other. So, it is a very hard tast for a couple to work things out in such situation. There's a very small possiblity that it might work out.

Answer 2

You know my parents are 20 years apart and me and my husband are 10 yrs apart. I'm 25 and my husband is 35. If anything I just think that maybe later on down the line it may get tougher. Cause he's obviously gonna age a lot faster than you are and he's gonna be less active when your still active. I mean my parents have been married for almost 30 yrs and have never had any problems. It's a big age gap but you know sometimes they do work out. Me and my husband are the best of friends and were both like little kids. We are very close and have been together for 5 yrs. Every situation is different though. Go with your gut

Answer 3

Age is a number - its does not mean much since there are people who behave a lot younger/older than their age. Its ok for older man to have younger women - so why not the other way around?
But its up to you - you must feel comfortable and feel like its the right thing for you. Ignore what others think. It certainly is not easy with such a big age gap. Ask yourself why you are attracted to this man and why he is attracted to you....maybe the answer is there.....ALSO - think of children....if you want to have some at some point and how he age thing will affect you in that matter!!!!

Answer 4

It relies upon on the age. In teenage years, even 3 years can experience like a large hollow (enable's say 13 12 months previous female and 16 12 months previous boy), yet as human beings become old, it would not count a lot, so for example 30 12 months previous female can get on o.k. with a forty 12 months previous guy.

Answer 5

the age gap is a technicality. it's what you feel in your heart and what he feels in his heart. if both of you have the love and trust and respect for each other, the 18 years is just a number. my parents are 18 years apart and they are 60 and 78, both just turned. though i can really understand your concern. i was in a relationship where i was so concerned with the age gap, and it was the reverse situation to you, where i was older. gawd it was a big test of my integrity.

Answer 6

Age should not b a problem in any relationship as long as both of you love each other. I think why the guy did that is because he worried you might be able to accept such a big age gap in your relationship. if you really love him, please don't wotry about the age gap and it is not easy to find someone who love you and you love him too. Hope you could cherish your relationship

Answer 7

i can answer this one from experience. i was 20 and my first husband was 36 when we met. age never mattered in our relationship. we were married until the day he died and i have yet to meet any man who has come close to him. we were best friends and did everything together. never got bored or thought of cheating. i know it can work for you if it is meant to be. don't let an age difference stop something wonderful from happening. he isn't stupid for trying to stop how you are feeling. he is just mature enough to know if you do not figure it out for yourself ,,, he is better off losing you now rather than farther down the road. best of luck to you!!

Answer 8

it doesn't matter how old you are.. there are a few things you need to ask yourself.. can you live with it forgetting about that gap? do you feel it could affect your life?.. i had a proposal from a 38 yr old when i was only 18.. i thought it wouldn't work out right and i felt happy i ended it before it even started.. if you have the slightest doubt then you're not feeling right about it

Answer 9

I have an age gap for you when my friends aunt was born her future husband was already 22. But to me age is just a number, your as young or old as you think you are.

Answer 10

It doesn't matter as long as you enjoy each others company. Who is to judge who should fall in love. There are two types of relationships girls are into "short term" or "long term" In the first case it doesn't matter what the age is since it's only short term. In the later case it makes more sense to be with someone older since they are the one who are willing to settle down.