My 13 year old daughter is pregnet what should i do? :'(?

Question

How ShUld I puNIsh Her

SHE WAS ADDOPTED AT 11 YEARS I DID NOT GET TO HER IN TIME!

should i get her a chastity belt?

Answer 1

I'm not sure there is a "punishment" for this. I can't imagine being in your situation, but what's done is done. I'd like to think that if it were me in your shoes that I would find it in myself to love and support my daughter through this terrifying, life changing experience. It doesn't have to be life ruining, just life changing if she has people around to help. Any baby is a blessing. Your grandchild is real and I hope you will love him/her with all your heart.

As far as punishment goes, I think what your daughter is about to endure is punishment enough. She won't need to be told that her freedom to be a kid is gone -- she'll know soon enough.

ADDITION: As for your added information, my answer is still the same. Your committment as Mom and Grandparent is so important. She sounds like a troubled youth - perhaps a foster child turned adopted child. I'm guessing the father is someone much older - or maybe it's a wild guess as to who the father even is. It's not ever too late to love a child - even a teenage, pregnant one - and show her how good life can be if given a chance. You adopted her so you must be trying to give her that chance. Just keep following that path.

Answer 2

Hi do your self a favor and do not look for answers in this format, (internet). talk to your closest friend or relative, who know your situation and have your families best interest at heart there is no need to subject you and your daughter to needless criticism and to be judged.
Talk to her and ask her what she would like to do.Don't play the blame game, it does noone any good, Deal with the issue at hand, Really all the should of , would of , could of's are irrelevant now.
I would however like to share with you my life experience, when
i was 14, i found out i was pregnant. i knew what i was doing and blamed noone but myself for my actions.yes i now have two beautiful daughters. i had noone to talk to or turn to so i really didnt know about my options,( having an abortion) and by the time any one found out it was too late. i was really mature for my age, as i had a hard childhood and had to grow up fast. i had little family support and had to go live with my boyfriends family.
Don't judge or criticize your daughter, she is already in enough misery and loneliness. Be there for her it is important she know what her options are and what she could consider. My road to independance was a very hard road, physically , emotionally and financially. She will be essentially a child raising another child , however if she remains in your home , you will be raising that child and one really cannot expect her to be or act as an adult just because she made the bad decision of having unprotected sex. She is not ready developmentally to deal with raising a child. I cant imagine making her go through a whole pregnancey, have her body change, feel her baby grow only to give that baby to someone else. Educate her and give her the necessary tools to handle a relationship or child if you both decide this is what you want. if that is what she is dealing with. if not help her build her self esteem and keep her busy with many other interests. I sure hope this helps, Good Luck and Best Wishes

Answer 3

You can't even spell pregnant correctly are you sure you should be making life altering decisions? My guess is that you are the 13yr old because a parent would not be trying to think of a punishment after finding out her daughter is pregnant. The parent would be wondering where they went wrong. You should seriously put this baby up for adoption. In the future be the child that you are and not some little girl who all the boys want to be with because you put out. Learn to Like yourself and live a happy healthy childhood. Go get counseling.

Answer 4

This is what you do, let her have the baby and take her to all her prenatal visits. When the baby is born take her to get a job and make her take care of it. The boy that got her pregnant talk to his parents and suggest they do the same. Actually the boy can go to work now and start giving money for the prenatal care and for the baby. They want to have sex and do grown folk things show them what it is all about and hopefully they will lay off each other. Tell her there is no more hanging out with friends because she has a baby to take care of and mom is not gonna do it for her. Never give in to your child as much as you love them, let her learn the hard way. Her childhood is over with. When she gets old enough to drive make her get a license and her own car so she can support her baby. I know she will complain but she should have thought about that before she laid up with a boy.

Answer 5

No you shouldn't punish her, it's a bit late for that. Being 13 & pregnant is punishment enough. What you should be doing now is talking with her about her options & making arrangments for this baby. Is she going to be having it, keeping it, giving it up for adoption, or will she just go get an abortion? If she wants to keep it then she will need to have a plan as to who is going to pay for the needs of this child, arangments for her schooling where she going to live etc... If she is giving it up for adoption than she needs help deciding if this will be an open or closed adoption & work on finding a adoptive family & if she want to get an abortion than the sooner the better. But you need to remember that she is still JUST a child herself & still needs her parent(s) ~ I can understand how upset you must be right now but she really needs you to be there for her at this time.

Answer 6

Why is your 13 year old daughter having sex??? You should be the blame for that for not educating her!!! As far as a chasity belt its to late for that shes pregnant. All you can do now is be there for her and teach her to teach her child not to make the same mistakes she did at 13. I think kids under the age of 18 have no buisness having sex they want to play and once something happens which they know the consequences want to cry because they get knocked up. 13 year old girls should be shopping at the malls going to slumber parties with their girlfriends and working on ther education not playing adult games that will cost them there future

Answer 7

No use punishing her.What is done is done.She is 13 and I m not sure on whether she will be able to cope with the stress and the with the whole pregnancy thing.Its best for you to see a doctor to discuss about her health and then go on to decide on whether you want to keep the child,give it for adoption or go for a abortion.N also talk to your daughter and tell her she is wrong but don't give her any harsh punishments as it will make yr daughter angry and worsen the situation.

Answer 8

No, don't punish her. You need to be there for her right now and help her get through this. I hope you don't make her get an abortion. You can always keep the baby and raise it or let someone adopt it. There is no such thing as an unwanted baby. Please take care and good luck. Talking to family and friends would probably be better then listening to rude comments from people on hear. God Bless. ^j^

Answer 9

Punish her? How about punishing yourself..for not being a Mother! Evidently you did not teach her values and good morals and how to say No. What did you do when she was younger? Say "yes" to everything she asked for?

I think she should have the baby and maybe she can teach it not to screw around when it becomes her age since it's grandmother didn't bother with it.
If that sounds harsh, well the TRUTH hurts! Time to Deal with the mess.


ALSO WHAT'S UP WITH THE LESBIAN ICON FOR YOUR AVATAR? NO WONDER THIS GIRL IS MESSED UP.

Answer 10

it okay to be mad and disappointed but don't do what my mom did to my sister and try to make her get an abortion and then since my sister wouldn't my mom kicked her out of the house .
kicking her out isn't going to help her or your future grand child let her no that it isn't okay what she did and that she will have a lot more restrictions (and i mean a lot ) but support her in what she decides to do.
and any one can get a job at 14 fare-way is every where
just try to help her take responsibility for her actions
and put her on the shot as soon as you can after she has her baby or after she makes any other decisions