Is 18 too young to marry?

Question

well i know you adults out there will say yes, but if you know you are ready...then what? just get engaged is that ok? to do..just for a long time until a proper age?

Answer 1

I was 18 when I got married. I am 25 now, have been married for 7 years. My advice to you is to make sure you know the guy really well before you say I do. Use your head and your heart. Not just one.
If I had it to do over with I would have waited. There is no need to rush into something. Because marriage is forever (supposed to be).
If I had of waited and found him out before I got married to him.......I honestly don't think I would have married him.
Just be careful and yes engagement is a great option. Just take it slow.
There is no proper age to get married, just when you are ready. And I do mean to make sure you are ready.

Answer 2

Well when you're 18, you are still growing emotionally, and mentally and alot of times when you marry young you are still growing up, as is he, and you grow apart and realize that you don't even know this person anymore (not always but quite often). Also you might later resent never having been on your own. I married at 23, and now I am 35 and wow that was to young. I am still married, however what I just wrote is my life. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited till I was 30, and lived a little and discovered who I really am. Considering who I was at 23 till now is a different person and so is he. Also went right from my parents house to him and never had a chance to live on my own and I feel like I missed out on that, I often wonder what if. You never want to be married and years later wonder what if.

Answer 3

I agree with what someone else has said - you wouldn't be here asking us if it was the right time for you.

I married at twenty, but would have been happier to have left it a couple more years if it hadn't been for the fact that it was the only way to stay together - my partner's visa to stay in the country was running out. I was surprised - and am still, at 27, surprised - at how much one changes over the years. I am a very different person to the one I was at 18, at 20, or even at 23. It's hard meeting someone so young and always having to wish you'd met them when you were a little older - when you could have had more time for things to be sure - but I do love him still deeply so in our case it was the right decision. 18 is far younger mentally than 20, though, and even though many people warned me not to do it, I'd really say to you don't. You ARE too young. I was possibly too young, but you are.

Answer 4

My mom got married at 18 and said it was the biggest mistake of her life. Just a little insight. So did my best friend. She told me she wished she had lived a little before she settled down. I would say the best thing to do would be to get engaged. That way, you have more time to get to know your partner. Even if you have known that person for years, even intimately, it will give you time to see if you really do work together. Move in together. Try it out. That's what being engaged is for. Don't rush into marriage. Good luck.

Answer 5

no not at all if it were 1920 to 1970

as an adult I would tell you to wait, you're too young, you don't know what love really is, so on and so on

as a friend I don't want you to have any regrets or a string of failed marriages or kids from different men and have dysfunctional relationships which is what happens to uneducated young women

super long engagements usually fail and I really don't think you have had enough exposure to different men to decide to marry. my sister got married at 19 for all the wrong reasons and mainly to get out of the house, get away from mom, to be on her own and seven years later all hell broke loose like you wouldn't believe. It was bad and really dumb. The reason I know most of the details is because she and her two girls came to live with me. And you know what, six months later she said that the one thing she wanted was for her husband to court her because her engagement was so short she never really got courted. So much more to say and not enough room.

So my dear, allow yourself to be courted, don't cheat yourself out of something you can never go back and get. And get yourself educated (not just schooling, get some real smarts) so if anything happens you will always be able to support yourself.

Answer 6

I would say yes. The thing is, when you are 18, you still have alot of changing to do. You will not be the same person 5 years from now. The problem comes when two people grow, and who they become are not as compatible as who they were in the first place. Its not that you dont love him now, its just that you may not love who he is 5 years from now. I recommend a long engagement.

Answer 7

no matter how many times we will say Yes is too early, you will keep saying, no I am ready, and I am sure abt this. And this is ok, bcs at this moment these are your feelings. But, some years after, when you will start seeing life in other colors you could say, well it wasnt such a bad idea to wait.
If you are a silent person and dont have too much requests in life, and it is ok for you a family life with kids, then get engaged and after marry.
But if you care abt your life, and want to be 100% happy, get engaged and keep discovering your life, don't hurry! just a friendly advise.

Answer 8

My first instinct is RUN! Too young!! My parents married at 17 and 19 and love each other dearly. I think that love can happen that young. I also think that they were extremely lucky and what they had is extremely rare. I think that if you thought that you were an adult, and ready two things would be true...
1. You would not be on Yahoo asking us about it
2. You would not have referred to others as adults, but not yourself! If we are adults, what are you? Adults are allowed to marry! Children are not old enough to marry, no matter how old the child is!!

Answer 9

yes and no....I have seen some 18 yr olds that are more mature than some turning 40. Being engaged gives you kind of a stepping stone to marriage. Only you know the decision you want to deal with. Don't sell yourself short on living life after all if this is the marriage that is meant to be then it will be there from here on after....I personally wouldn't rush it....let nature take its coarse.

Answer 10

No your not too young just keep in mind that there is going to be a lot of people waiting for u to fail in any way to tell you i told you soo!!! but if you ask me the age has nothing to do with it its all about how responsible you both are and how much you care for one another.. look in your hear and really think about it.. I was 14and 1/2 wen i got married and we are still happily married am 23 and he is 29 now.. Good luck!!!!