Your partner/spouse turns 35 and no longer attracts you physically like she/he does 10 years ago....
2006-07-12 19:25:57 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body
I am sorry to have ask this question, I ought to be cruified, but before that, pls allow me sometime to do some self-reflect...thanks...
2006-07-12 19:40:55 · update #1
Love her/him because you too have aged in ways that aren't really attractive and s/he is putting up with your deterioration too.
2006-07-12 19:37:04 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one of the saddest questions I've seen so far.
Sad that somehow people might believe that Love and Beauty/Appearance are somehow the same thing.
If you truly love someone, then what they look like, what happens to them as the two of you grow older, none of this matters at all.
If your entire relationship was based only on their appearance, and nothing else, then sadly you may want to consider going it alone, because no one of us in life is going to stay good looking for very long. Age will, in the end, take all of us someday and there is no stopping it.
Granted, there are a rare few people out there that age more gracefully than others, but in the end, we all age.
Love as always,
Sebastian
2006-07-12 19:32:49 · answer #2 · answered by octo_boi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the mirror and ask the question. Perhaps you will stay with her only because you realize nobody with your standards will ever want you. But since you have no real love for her and no appearent capacity to love perhaps you should be alone so as to spare others from having to endure a marriage with you. So you should just leave her and let your spouse do better.
2006-07-12 19:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by tenaciousd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have fallen in love with character, and yours/their characters (virtues, qualities) should have grown over the years, so that when the physical fades, the reality (their inner character) would still attract.
Better look deeper than the physical. You'd better both have something going inside, or you're both doomed.
You'd better do some soul searching and find out what life is really about. If you find out, you can save both of you, and develop the inner qualities that make life not only worth living, but joyful living.
2006-07-12 19:38:20 · answer #4 · answered by GypsyGr-ranny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been with your partner/spouse for 10years, then physical attraction should remain kindled by emotional attraction. Before my husband's gastric bypass, he had gotten up to almost 500lbs. I still found him sexy and attractive because who he is has always mattered more than what he looks like. Once you are in love with someone, that love overrides whatever physical (unimportant) changes take place. If after 10years they turn into a jerk, that's another story. LOL
2006-07-12 19:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't either do you? The passion may not be like it was when you first made love, or the second time but you could feel the same way because it is mental and your outlook that also changed.
Good luck, remember you can help her be that woman she once was...if she gained some weight start walking and being more active.
Watch what you buy in the store for groceries...cut out fast foods and soda pop. Eat more lean meats, chicken, and fish. Cut out snacks....make her feel sexy....cause if you don't there may be somebody else that will.
2006-07-12 19:33:23 · answer #6 · answered by Dave 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the looks changes the love, then the love may not be strong enough. Ask yourself what you would expect from your spouse if the situation was reversed. If you promise your lives to each other, how is the same issue of looks going to matter at 65?
2006-07-12 19:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by bebe928 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you for real. Nothing remains the same, if it did she/he would kick you out for getting older looking, I bet you aren't the same to her/him either.
First off, attraction should also come from the heart...not just physical. If you are only in it for the physical, I feel sorry for he/she as they are being taken advantage of.
Try getting into them for the real person not the packaging...sorry, that is where the attraction should have been in the first place and then this bridge would never have to be crossed.
2006-07-12 19:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by teddybearloverus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a very shallow person. Looks aren't everything, what about the bond that you are suppose to share with this person? Have you looked in the mirror lately? Did you not age 10 years as well?
2006-07-12 19:28:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you need to figure out if you married her for her looks, or if your relationship has become a true partnership that goes beyond physical attraction.
If it's the first, then I guess you should do her a favor and move on to some other arm candy.
2006-07-12 19:28:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask that question, you have no idea of the meaning of true love, It's a lot more than a physical attraction and sex, I hope that you experience for yourself one day!
It's a multitude of emotions, that you feel for you partner, they are your other half, If you truly love someone.
2006-07-12 19:59:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋