Here is my situation. My husband has been at his job for 5 months now. Last month I had this really weird feeling that he was cheating on me, but I had no evidence of it or didn't even know why I would think such a thing.
Well a few weeks ago there were two numbers that showed up on my caller id. One was a cell number and the other was a business. The same girl had answered on both occassions when I had called. She insisted she had the wrong number. Something told me to write those numbers down.
Later found out that my nephew had seen my husband hide a phone number in a place that he knew I would never look. Got the number and a girls name. Called the two numbers from previously and found out that was the girl my husband was talking with.
Furious when I found out I asked my husband what when on....He won't tell me anything. He keeps saying he didn't do anything wrong.
What would you think? What would you do? Do you think they had sex? Help.....Please only serious answers.
2006-07-12 19:25:18 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I have sat down with him and talked, but he still refuses to admit that he talked to her....me knowing good and well. He keeps saying he didn't do anything wrong. That kind of makes me think he did.
2006-07-12 19:43:44 · update #1
i dont believe in divorce unless theirs physical violence or abuse involved...i do believe he's cheating on you already,,,,what an idiot, but remember King David in the bible was a liar , murderer ,and an adulterer YET, the bible said "he was a man after God's own heart" ,, so i do think he is worthy of forgiveness if he puts a stop to it , DEMAND , he spill it,,,tell him you KNOW and your not STUPID, DEMAND THE TRUTH,, there is no way there is nothing going on, no way,,,,,,,if he denies and wont change his story, go visit a relative for a couple of weeks to let him understand you expect the truth and go from there....your instincts are called Womens Intuition couple that with Phone #'s hes been up to something , even if they havent had sex hes emotionally cheated on you,, he needs to come clean..dont accept less.period!
2006-07-12 19:46:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say it, but yes, I'm pretty sure that your husband fully cheated on you. He took great pains to hide the numbers and any evidence of this girl from you, for one, and keeps insisting that he didn't do anything wrong, when in fact, just keeping that from you WAS wrong in itself. Plus, women's intuition is never wrong. If you had a deep feeling that he was fooling around on you, then you were most likely right. Now, it may be hard to get him to admit it, but sooner or later, he might. If you can, try to find more evidence. I had to catch my ex off guard for him to admit to me that he cheated. Maybe that might work. or, just be upfront and blunt about it. Good luck.
2006-07-13 02:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by Maico 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your in real doubt then check it out , does he have a cell phone , if so get the print out on all incoming and outgoing calls, when your not at home and he is try one of those voice recorders some can record for hours or more, place it somewhere he wont see and when you get home listen to it when hes not around, take his milage down on his car,and check it when he gets home, if he only drives 20 miles to work and back and he has 100 miles on it when you check it I would start to worry,, say no more to him about what you think is going on because right now he is covering his tracks, do what I have told you and you will find out something soon, and if not maybe he is telling the truth, play it smart, I will pray for you because I know what your going through
2006-07-13 11:31:45 · answer #3 · answered by missy h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing is for you to try to calmly reason with him, ask him if he is unhappy in the marriage and what is wrong with him. If he admits to know this girl ask him what his relationship with her is about.
It is really hard and is going to take a lot of guts from you to confront him, and remember to keep your cool. Prepare for the worst but also know that not everything is what it seems. This may be a woman that he knows from work and that he likes,but that doesn't mean he'll sleep with her. If he hid it from you it might be because he thought you might react negatively to him having a new female friend.
Then again your fears might be true, so be strong.
I wish you the best.
2006-07-13 02:36:13 · answer #4 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Threaten to raise hell if he doesn't fess up. That's what I would do. I probably would go as far as threaten ALOT OF TROUBLE NOT JUST FOR HIM BUT FOR HIS SLUT TOO. On the other hand, you can just quietly file for divorce because once a cheater always a cheater.
Seriously, your life could be put in jeopardy by his screwing around and you have the right to know if you could possibly get an STD etc.
2006-07-13 02:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I have been the other woman, and let me tell you this. FOLLOW YOUR GUT, THAT FIRST FEELING YOU GET IN THE PIT OF YOUR STOMACH IS ALWAYS RIGHT. Maybe he didn't sleep with her yet, but chances are he will. I have a wonderful FIANCE now. Due to my past situation I question alot of stuff he does, people he talks to, everything. He gets so frustrated sometimes, but like I tell him my gut instinct tells me he is up to something. My gut has never been wrong. Good Luck, and stay strong.
2006-07-13 02:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by totally fed up 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he wasn't doing anything wrong then why would he hide the number? Is he gone alot or spending more money. I would say he is definately having sex with someone other than you. If he aint getting any at home then hes getting it somewhere.
2006-07-13 02:49:36 · answer #7 · answered by dm1003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try getting the evidence you need to support your accusation. In my opinion it is 50-50. I would set him down explain to him how it looks to you and why you feel this way. Deep down you will know by the way he reacts. Actions speak louder than words. I wish you the best......
2006-07-13 02:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by halfpint9701 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to threaten divorce and mean it. He is definitely cheating. Your marriage is in real trouble. Do something before it is beyond repair..........or to the point he won't disentangle himself from her. Put up a big fight , or be prepared to leave him.
2006-07-13 04:02:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try asking again - when you're not furious. He might be more inclined to be honest. It's hard to admit to something when you know you're going to be punished for it.
I think your instincts are, unfortunately, probably right.
2006-07-13 04:02:18 · answer #10 · answered by philosopheria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋