I an a boy.I feel tormented by the fact that the ugliest of the girls/women are left out and the more beautiful ones are taken up everywhere.To deal with this situaation may be a little easy for a male,he can get absorbed in many activities. How do women cope up with this kind of situation when in a society like ours so much of weihgtage is given to looks.Even uglist of the girls are left out by JK Rowling in Harry potter.Just wonder/curious to that if it happens how do such women feel/cope up with all this.
2006-07-12 18:37:24 · 7 answers · asked by elvis 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You are really underestimating woman. People in general- not just woman- are capable of being of strong character and personality that they are not "left out" by others. There are always going to be knuckleheads that will treat those who are different like dirt- and who wants to be friends with those ppl anyways? If you look at successful ppl- doctors, lawyers, executives, etc. are they all the "beautiful ones"? Nope, they aren't. Successful, happy ppl are those who have good personalities, good attitudes, are motivated and accept and like themselves. As Judge Judy said "Beauty fades- stupid is forever."
2006-07-12 18:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
I feel for you but one thing you said stands out - "I deserve it after all I've been through" Unfortunately nobody deserves anything, that's life. Does the child who dies of cancer at 2 deserve it? Does the murderer who never gets caught and live to a ripe old age deserve it? I understand that you have low self esteem and have a lot of problems. What you need to do is focus on the things that you can change. Do it in small steps, moving to a sunny beach in Spain isn't a small step but making an effort to talk to someone an hold a proper conversation is. Call the Samaritans, they do help. I think we sometimes all feel the things you're feeling but not as extremely as you feel those things. I'd be more than happy for you to email me so we can talk further if you like. I've never been down as far as you but I've been a little way along your road. Also why a computer job? Is a warehouse job not good enough - I've done that more than once in my life and worse jobs than that too. Isn't a job good enough, one that pays money? If you get one of those you could look into a bit more training for the computer job maybe? Anyway this answer looks at risk of becoming as long as your answer so if you'd like to send me a message so we can talk further please do so. I would really like to help. Kind regards, R!
2016-03-27 03:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that most really out of the way beautiful people are always instantly popular. But really interesting people (and not necessarily gorgeous people) always have company too!
Look in your own circle. Are the popular people you know popular because they are interesting or only because they are good looking. And by the way, I have also found that loads of guys prefer interesting women to really beautiful women. Because then they wont have to look over their shoulders all the time if their girl friends are being chased after by someone else!
2006-07-12 20:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by jennifer m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, most "ugly" women end up married, just like the pretty ones.
The ones that don't are often single by choice. They get involved in their careers or have other interests to fulfil them.
They don't need your pity, so you can relax and cross this off your list of things to worry about.
2006-07-12 19:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Ugly" is subjective. Your definition of ugly is different from anyone Else's.
People have personalities and souls, morals, values, and all sorts of things that make them individuals and beautiful in more ways than just physical appearance. I guess the word I am seeking is depth-which you seem to lack.
2006-07-13 00:28:29 · answer #5 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's kind of odd how you say all that, and yet say some of it so harshly, it's like a fake ingenuine sympathy... Your like one of those catty people who has to act nice and stab someone in the back, or talk about other people being so mean so you can look like a hero.
2006-07-12 18:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you just said is not always true. AND J.K. Rowling isn't the one...Hollywood, society, and you have it in your head that only the beautiful has everything.
2006-07-12 19:03:05 · answer #7 · answered by carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋