My son is 7 and husband has only lived with us a total of 6 months and is soooooooooooo angry when it was his choice to leave in the 1st place and he has been given chance after chance....YET he still chooses to be a hateful, angry man
2006-07-12 18:15:47 · 17 answers · asked by jovibabe123 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
People do not change that way. They need something dramatic in their life. They will not change if there is no need to change. You can not change him. Change must come from within.
2006-07-12 18:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mark W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So why is it you keep taking him back? Take a pill from DR> Phil and send the dude back over the hill. Build up your own life for you and your son. There is no reason that your son should have to live in the turmoil that you as parents are putting him through. I have raised six kids by myself and no help from state or any one all of them survived and so did I. Not all men are awful you just mixed it up with one that the two of you don't mix well. I have been there girl..... get out while you can.
2006-07-12 18:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by iImbck2win 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself a couple of questions. Firstly, why are you letting him come back if he hasn't changed? Secondly, why are you attracted to this type of person in the first place? Answer yourself honestly. We aren't going to grade your answer, your future life will grade your answer. An answer of "I don't know" is valid here.
Lay down a couple of rules and stick to them. Hateful, angry people need counseling, and will receive it willingly before they come back into your life. People who accept hateful, angry people should also look at counseling to see if there is something they can do to not need this type of person.
Negotiate, then litigate. If counseling does not work or is not wanted, find a divorce attorney. You and your son deserve someone who is around.
2006-07-12 18:26:24 · answer #3 · answered by drslowpoke 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you say, he's a hateful angry man. As long as he can come and go as he chooses, he will do so. If you want to save your marriage, then I'd suggest counseling. If not, then speak with an attny, to serve your husband with divorce papers. Do NOT leave your home. Let him leave! Your and your son need to stay.
2006-07-12 18:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me they Never, Never Change, I have been married
for 14 years now and my husband is still the same miserable
bastar- as when I married him. Take it from me if you can get
financially stable in your life, you are better off on your own.
Why do you think so many women don't want to get married
nowadays?
2006-07-12 18:25:13 · answer #5 · answered by Zinderella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. He's got issues and won't change. How many chances do you plan to give him and how many times does your son have to suffer because his dad comes and goes as he pleases? You need to get him out of your life for good.
2006-07-12 18:29:53 · answer #6 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship will continue down this road until you stop it. my husband and i have been married for four years we have been separated for three. he has moved out then back in then back out again and now he wants to move back in he constantly talks bad about my boys and he wants me to be a swinger. he wants to see me with other men i am so grossed out by it. im telling you from life experiance he will not change and get out now. i wish i would take my own advise its hurting me in the end more by staying in a loveless marriage.
2006-07-12 19:26:33 · answer #7 · answered by medicdebbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
~*~ Do what you feel is right... None of us here can tell you what to do... Only you know what your situation is.. there are always two sides to the story... Most importantly do what is right for your son.. He should be your number one concern.. not your husband.. Good Luck.. I hope you make the right decision...~*~
2006-07-12 18:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by Mexitaliana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't change, maybe you can, and move on. It is very difficult, but you will regret more to spend your life we a person you are unhappy with
2006-07-12 18:20:45 · answer #9 · answered by rykkardo8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him out for good and don't let him back in again. It will be this way forever. He can only bother you as long as you let him!
2006-07-12 18:42:07 · answer #10 · answered by witchywoman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋