whenever a guy asks me out i get really happy and excited and i like having a boyfriend and kissing them and stuff, but the thing is i think guys' genitals are disgusting. i mean i think girls' is gross too! what the hell is wrong with me??
2006-07-12 17:57:03 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
im fourteen
2006-07-12 18:03:55 · update #1
You answered your own question - you are fourteen.
At fourteen, you are not ready to be excited about either males nor females in the sexual sense.
When you are older you will feel differently and will be drawn to one sex or another, or maybe even both.
There is nothing wrong with you, just give it time and don't worry.
2006-07-12 18:11:00 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_leaf 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No that doesn't make you a lesbian. What makes you a lesbian is the strong and persistent erotic thought of imagining yourself having sex with another woman as well as being sexually attracted by the curves of girls and women you see in your daily life and beign aroused only by women, and the total absence of erotic thoughts about men.
As to why you don't like the looks of genitals. Maybe you've seen too few. If you're asking this after you've seen a penis for the first time and it was surprising, then it is understandable and nothing you should worry about. How many times have actually seen human genitalia (on TV or in real-life, doesn't matter)? If only a few, then it's just because you didn't get used to their rather uncommon shapes. Watch some porn. Wierd can be either repulsive or funny. In time, you'll start to smile when you see a naked penis or vulva. And feeling "giggly" when you see another woman's vulva doesn't make you a lesbian either; it makes you "slutty" (NOT the same as "slut") and this is a major turn-on for guys.
Maybe it's just that you don't like hairy genitals, then perhaps you should date a guy who shaves his genitals.
I'm a heterosexual guy, but I don't think every vulva is the most attractive thing. Some of them are wierd looking.
And for what it's worth, I think the most beautiful thing in the world is
PS: Jocelyn, get a clue.
Sweet Leaf: a girl at 14 is aroused and attracted by the body (not necessarily the genitals tho) of the opposite sex.
Ellie: you're full of sh**, and just because Taylor seems young doesn't mean you have the right to scare her into being religious.
Taylor, don't take religion as something you must do because grownups say so. When you have grown-up, you'll be mature enough to make up your own mind on how the world works and how the universe is, and about morality. Don't inherit or copy-paste your mind from your parents or your society.
Personaly, I wouldn't advise that you masturbate for years. Just for 2 months or so as a preview and a buffer for becoming sexually active and because you can't have sex right away when you think genitals are disgusting. Unless of course you want to try if sex gets rid of that disgust. Being sexually active while practiving safe sex is better than masturbating.
If you choose to be sexually active, then it's better to have exclusive sex with one person who respects you and doesn't tell everyone about his sexual exploits just to increase his popularity.
Keep in mind that this is just my opinion and that you don't have to do anything I say just because I said so. The decision is up to you entirely.
Try to learn from others' mistakes.
2006-07-13 01:58:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At ur age, its not all that strange. I am a boy and till the age of 15 I was all for boys and now I am 18 and the boys who r my friends say that I run too much after girls. Its probably u don't like looking at genitals. The same was with me. I couln'd talk about sex, look at photos (even in my bio book). But as I took the medical steam in higher secondary all became alright.
2006-07-13 01:24:53 · answer #3 · answered by know it all 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too young and getting pressured into sex eventhough you don't have a true sexual desire yet. Sure you may think it is fun or interesting or whatever but you aren't actually turned on by it. You have probably never had an orgasm or you would be addicted to trying to have another and another and another. And if a male was what gave you that orgasm you would do whatever he wanted in order to have him give you another orgasm.
You will figure it all out in another year or two and then you will be addicted to sex like all other 15 - 35 year olds.
2006-07-13 02:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by Payne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all HOW old are you and second of all sex should not be an issue when you are dating , Sex is for the married folks, that is 1 MAN & 1 Woman. I know it seeems like it is the way it is now and everybody does it. But that is sin and sin will send you to a devil's hot hell. You need to get your head on straight and focus on what is important and live for God because that is what matters MOST. Believe ME, on judgement day you will remember I told you this.
2006-07-13 01:15:18 · answer #5 · answered by Ellie Grace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you.. Both male and female parts arnt the most attractive things in the world lol.. If you are only young, its normal to not like them, and its a good thing!
If you are attracted to men and only men in no way are you a lesbian.. If you feel some slight attraction to women then your probably just bi-curious! its normal for teenagers to go through that "phase" as ppl call it! dont worry your fine!
2006-07-13 01:02:59 · answer #6 · answered by Jade H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to think about their body parts right now anyway. This is the time for you to kiss, hold hands, cuddle. Don't worry about their body parts for another few years.
But - you should know, there isn't a part of any genitalia that's not disgusting. It's what they pee from, it really shouldn't be attractive, should it?
2006-07-13 01:06:58 · answer #7 · answered by Jocelyn L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You just don't like the look of people's genitals. A lot of people don't. And age could have something to do with it; although you have not said how old you are.
2006-07-13 01:00:16 · answer #8 · answered by hopflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys genitals ARE disgusting,lol. But at 14,you shouldn't be worried about sex,or what your preference is. You shouldn't be having sex anyway,so,don't worry about it,and focus on other things
2006-07-13 14:07:33 · answer #9 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Penises are gross. Doesn't make you a lesbian. Personally, I think the male form from the waste down is creepy. Just turn the lights off...
2006-07-13 01:44:19 · answer #10 · answered by stowchick01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋