I'm afraid of taking to others in general, I lost my girlfriend because I was to afraid to stand up to my mom and the others that got involved. That was 4 months ago that I lost her and I still get crap from my mom, I need some way to find courage and not let everyone have their way with me and walk all over me specially my mom. For her to come between me and my girlfriend was the most pain I've ever felt, there's nothing I could do to get her back. So I'm back where I started, with my mom, no job, and without the one and only person I really loved. Now what do I do? How do I fight back? Living any longer doesn't sound so good right now, why keep living like this? I'd like to have the courage to go crazy and stand up for myself, and punish the people that made me how I am now, and after I do, I'll just take myself out.
2006-07-12 17:55:06 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
OK. I guess you just need to take a step back and calm down.Life is a lot harder than you think. At least you got your mom still on your side. I know you think she is ruining your life but think if you were by yourself in a big city without job, your parents thousand miles away, broke and only a boyfriend who breaks up with you because he is a freak. Well I went through that. What it did for me is to say "No more.I will stand up for myself and fight." If you are old enough get a job.It's easy in US to get a job no matter whether you talk or not.After a month or so when you have enough money, get your own place (if you don't have one). At first I had only a room but I had a roof over my head.I was very lonely for a while.Eventually, I met the right one. We got our own place.We even got married. Seven years later, I am a successful professional and business woman with my own house, husband and son.My parents never ever liked any of my boyfriends but when you are independent they almost have no say. You don't have to listen to them.Hopefully, you will make the right choice for yourself.But trust me, I always liked the shy, not so talkative, and mysterious guys.It was never hard for me to get a boyfriend and have a long relationship. So that should tell you something.Cheer up, you have a lot to live for. You will be happy again.
2006-07-12 18:14:10 · answer #1 · answered by Donna M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of darkness no doubt about that. Every experience that we have in this world will either make us stronger or break us. Right now you are in a period where you have no idea to where you are headed. Like one person have already said try looking for a job and see what happens. Once you find a job try to get involve in something that will bring you close to others. You just need to have a goal and pursue it and things will fall into place. Do not kill yourself because you cannot be absolutely sure that you will like where you end up after you die. Also I find that reading God's words and praying helps me, but you have the choice with how you live your life. Remember you only have one life, make the best of what you got. There is always someone who will be worst off than yourself. Don't give up and allow your life to be taking away that easily.
2006-07-13 01:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Contesta 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a very stressful and discouraging period in your life and I can very much understand your reasons for feeling this way. We all go through at one point or another in life through a time of questioning why we continue to live due to the dissapointments and pain others have caused us, but it is in our weakest times that we must realize that there is a God that loves you and He has plans for you. Trust in Him and pour out your heart to Him, he promises to hear you. Start by declaring to yourself everyday positive words such as "I am strong, I am healthy, I have a future", even if you don't feel or believe them after time you will start to believe them and feel more confident. Build yourself up by exercising, reading and investing time in yourself right now that your not working or have a relationship. Remember to take life a day at a time and don't get overwhelmed about your future there is no sense in worrying because each day has enough troubles of its own. Keep busy and when you feel ready start researching for job opportunities and within time you'll find something good. Revenge is not in your hands and nothing is worth killing yourself over. Girlfriends come and go but you only live once on this earth so make the best of it and God Bless You.
2006-07-13 01:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by Larry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Things happen for a reason.............I think the best thing for you is to focus on yourself for a change....>
Are you still in school? If not, then try to find a job at night to where you sleep during the day, work at night , then you won't have to see your mom for her to put you down.>>>>Hey McDonalds pays well, you get insurance, bonuses, etc. .Most McDonald work around your school schedule also, just don't let it interfere with homework..School comes first...
One more thing Robert.....People are ignorant, don't need to punish any one.Hold your head up high..You are more intelligent than they are(just don't tell them) Don't ever take your self out.
That special girl is out there. Maybe you will meet someone at your new job at McDonalds!
Many famous and rich people worked at McDonalds! That has to say something...Good luck! The right girl will come along for you. Take things slow,,,first things first. (you)
2006-07-13 01:05:51 · answer #4 · answered by mom of a boy and girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
join the army they will build your courage and give you the best opportunities for many jobs.it will get you outta momma house and headed down the right track.
2006-07-13 09:11:10 · answer #5 · answered by miss v8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just start with getting a job for YOU .
2006-07-13 00:57:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋