decisions to be made and scared to make them?

Question

is it fair to have a child when the father doesnt want you to have it yet thats all youve wanted for as long as you can remember?
let me kno your opinion

Answer 1

I 100% agree with sparklingdiamonds, that's the cold hard truth.

Answer 2

When I got pregnant with my first son, the father at the time i was seeing, didn't want me to have this baby so I went to clinics and they have you go through 5 steps before getting on the table, I made it to the 3 when they drew blood from me, and I went to tears. I changed my mind, and told him to deal with it or stay out of our lives, and he was very angry. and didn't have anything to do with our son for the first 9 months of his life, then he started to come around trying to do everything hateful to hurt me in every way using the baby. .well now my son is 9 and the father is no longer in the picture for 3 1/2 years now. He just stopped calling and coming around but It was the best decision that I ever made to keep my child. And now i am engaged to a wonderful man that accepts my son as his own and we are having a baby in january. What I am saying here if you, in your heart want this baby more then anything and go for it. It will be a blessing. And no matter what there will be a man out there that will take the whole package deal with you and the baby. And don't settle for less. Or you could just pray and hope the father of your child will come around but only for the right reasons not the wrong. good Luck!! I hope this helps.

Answer 3

Unfortunately, If he wants no part of the child you had better make damn sure you can bring up this kid to be a productive member of society. Look I don't mean to scare you, but look...

So you've wanted a child for a long time now... Are you really ready for it? Especially without the support of another person? Can you handle the burden of a child in today's society? Don't get me wrong, If you are a strong woman (and there are many out there) then raise your child with pride and joy. If you're asking this question however, I kinda don't think you're that type of person yet. If you really want it, take responsibility for it. Don't go looking to the government for help or trying to get child support from a guy who already stated he wanted no part of it. You know where you stand...

Question is...
Are you strong enough?

Answer 4

It's the one area in which the woman has 100% of the vote. And he has to pay for 18 years whether he wants to or not. I can understand his point of view, but I can also understand yours. I personally am against abortion, but it's such a personal issue. If you believe you are able to raise the child without his support, alone or with the help of family and friends, then I would make that a serious part of your decision. Also, almost everyone I know who had an abortion suffered regrets later ( I knew three friends who went through it.) Good luck to you. And try to listen to your own heart rather than to all of the answers here on Yahoo.

Answer 5

I believe that you have the right to have the child, as it is yours as much as his. If he didn't want a child, he shouldn't have had sex and/or should have used protection of some sort. Don't let him decide what to do with your child, because it is your child as well. He had his chance to not have a child, and he didn't do anything to stop it. Now is your chance to be blessed with a baby, don't pass it up for someone so selfish as to want you to murder your unborn child.
Also, a lot of people are saying that if you do have the baby, you will have to do it without his financial support. This is 100% wrong. He helped make the child, so he must help raise it, whether he wants to or not. If it was as simple as saying I didn't want her to have it in the first place, 99% of the deadbeat fathers out there wouldn't be paying child support. Your body, your baby, your choice.

Answer 6

This should not be what the father wants or what you want.
You two have come together, made a beautiful child.This is the way to look at it. Now who is going to speak for the child. The child should have the option to live. He/she did not ask to be born..but is has happened. Baby says you are giving me up because he doesn't want me? you say what???? Are you gonna give up too?
So if you are not pregnant now and you want a baby, find someone on your level who wants the same.
In case you are pregnant, go it alone. The child maybe better without him.

Answer 7

Yes it is fair!! If the father really didnt want a child, he should have thought about that before he laid down with you!!! He should have made sure to use protection for himself to ensure that he would not get you pregnant!! What IS unfair is for him to ask you to abort the baby that HE helped create!! Ditch him and keep the baby, you are both better off without him!! Good Luck!!

Answer 8

It's far more fair than him forcing you to terminate a pregnancy or give your baby up for adoption. If he doesn't want a baby, then he can have nothing to do with it. My best friend's mom was paid by the father to have an abortion, but she instead used the money to buy baby clothes and such and didn't inform the father. She grew up just fine, and only want to know about what medical conditions might be on her father's side. Other than that, she doesn't want to know about her father at all.

Answer 9

Why does he not want a baby? Financial too young irresponsible...Have thababy you will regret it for the rest of your life...If it is what you want then it shouldn't be a question. Give that baby a chance in this world.. It may be unfair to the father but you created life...

Answer 10

No it is not fair, but then life never is. Are you old enough and secure enough for this responsibility? We are not talking a few months here, but a lifetime. Answer this question for yourself, and not the man.

Answer 11

Your baby, your life, your decision. It's not like the father is the one growing a whole other person inside his uterus. Tell him to go f*ck himself. Do what makes you happy.