Guys-How do I get over the now EX?

Question

Guys,

today my now ex physically hit me and said that I was a right prick and she couldn't take it anymore, we broke up but the thing is that it (our relationship) has been gradually going downhill ever since we returned to college.

Thing is I'm still pretty upest and supprised that she broke up with me in public like that, could've done it in private, then at least we could've talked about things.

So does anyone have any advice for me on how to get over it and also is it normal to have a drink in order to begin to cope? because I just had a shot of whiskey.

thanks blokes.

Answer 1

I've been through a breakup, it's been a year since the break up and it's really hard. And i mean HARD especially if you have personally invested too much on the relationship. And more especially if you're already looking forward to a future together. It was also my bf who broke up with me. I even begged him to stay but he did not. Until now, i still love him very much. But you know sometimes.. breakups give us a different look of the relationship that we have. Breakups let us step back a little to see the whole picture, and it becomes much clearer. It just TAKES TIME. A whole lot of patience.. with her and with yourself. Women and men vary in coping. Men would often go to the "drink-immediately" approach. Let me tell you.. suit yourself. But from my own experience the best way to BEGIN TO COPE is to start from where the relationship began until how it led to the breakup. Consider why she was like what she was during the relationship and consider why you were like you were during the relationship. Then consider what could have been the right thing to do. Then ask yourself.. would her personality and your personality.. blend in such a way that the "right thing to have been done" will be done.. if not.. then maybe your self-issues and individual differences would never let you build a good relationship. Another thing to consider is, do you still love her?

It takes so much time. But nobody knows. Maybe with time, you will see things more differently. It changes everything you see when you're on step back from the relationship. This is a good opportunity for both of you to evaluate yourselves individually and the relationship itself. Not because you intend to make it better when you get back together if you will but because you both have to be better individuals, and believe me, this will make you both better if you have the right attitude towards it.

Another.. when it hurts.. let it hurt.. it has to hurt right? Do not suppress. NEVER hasten your recovery. I've tried that. You just have to go through every step..

God bless you..

Answer 2

Well it's a little late to ask about the drink seeing as how you've already had that. As for how to get over her; how about taking it all in first of all. You have just been hit with a major blow both physically and mentally therefore, you may want to take some time to just sit back and reflect on what's happened over the past 24 hours. Don't do anything but think.......Haste makes waste....also, are you sure that the two of you are done? I don't think so, because just as you are feeling something--so is she. That outburst of anger came from somewhere deep inside, and has probably been brewing for awhile. Whatever she is feeling is not new, and she may even need some time to cope and digest what's happened as well. Accept the situation for what it is, and see if she cls you within the next day or so. If not, give her a cl just to let her know that you're sorry things ended up the way they did, and to let her know how much you still care.....Best wishes....

Answer 3

One drink is definitely ok. One evening of drinking is also ok. But limit it to that!

You must give yourself time, you cannot pretend that you will get over this immediately. Could take a week or a month or 4 months. When I got divorced, it took 4-5 months of adjustment for me, even though I had fallen out of love and we were both ready for the divorce.

As for how, spend time with your friends, keep on top of your hobbies, try exercising if you don't today, watch your eating, drink more water, etc. All of that stuff will help.

good luck! And in my case the better gal came along so I am sure she will for you too.

Answer 4

i imagine you should got here back with your ex, because you suggested that you 2 have a lot of issues in uncomplicated. try not no be inspired with the help of your people, make your own judgements. i know it should be very confusing, attempting to get your life settled, and to be in love with someone who does not look to opt to calm down an same way you do. it really is necessary that you arise for what's nice for you. It appears like you've executed a fantastically good interest of that already, so kudos to you! you do not opt to be cruel or nasty to him, yet purely tell him gently that even as you want him, you actually have plans on your life If he's not waiting to dedicate, then you truthfully favor him no illwill, and also you nevertheless care about him, yet you should do what's nice for your self, and enable him go. you should enable your self time to locate someone who's good for you and in a position to dedicate so that you may have the life you want. tell him if he desires time to make sure what he needs, that's superb, yet that you're literally not likely to anticipate him.

Answer 5

Look man, if she doesn't want to be with you and (that's a messed up way to break up by the way) you don't live together. No worries. Just take time to think through what it was she was mad about. If it was your fault own up to it, learn and move on. (be honest with yourself) If not she has her own problems to sort out, not your fault, not your problem. Let it go and be done with it.

Answer 6

Well all I can say is just keep your head up bro. You will find a chick who ISN'T physically abusive and you will eventually realize how shitty your ex was. Good luck.

Answer 7

is gonna sound a little weird but...try to remember the bad things, like how she made you feel, the things you didn't like about her, or something like that...don't think about the good stuff..that is..if you don't wanna go back with her

Answer 8

It depends on if you were in love and how long you have been together.

Answer 9

lots of fish in the sea.

Answer 10

start going out with her room mate.