Would you have plastic surgury if your lover suggested to you that you'd be more appealing to them?
Would you lose weight?
Would you take up new hobbies or interests to suit your lover?
Would you change your physical appearance? how would you change your appearance?
2006-07-12 16:52:14 · 10 answers · asked by prettycoolchick38 4 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
To be my lover, that person would be the most important person in my life. I find pleasure in pleasing her, no matter what or in what way.
The things that you mentioned are trivial and meaningless next to the happiness both of you can have. Romeo and Juliet, probably one of the greatest romantic tragedies that has ever been written. They gave up everything in the end for their lover. Family Friends Wealth and in the end they sought death because they could not be together. Most people can achieve that kind of connection, but justify reasons not to.
A bit of common sense is needed and I don't think that it would be offensive to tell your lover that you cant afford plastic surgery, or that you have had a special reason for not changing that part of who you are. Or you may come to realize that she may be right, and by doing such you can improve your self confidence, it just may be the reason she is asking. But yes I would do it if that is something that we both wanted.
I would be skin and bones and sinew if that pleased her. I would also be a Roley Poley fat man if that pleased her. Because it is simple enough to be loved by someone you love than everyone you don't know.
I would expect to share and learn new hobbies with my lover. WE would fast become bored if we didn't.
I think that the physical appearance is important, you do want to be attracted and attractive to your lover. It is what most people look at when they see you. It would make me incredibly happy to hear some one say Who is that gorgeous woman with? and say some very lucky guy. Even more so if some one said that about me to my lover.
If you love someone nothing else matters but your happiness together, isn't that why your together?
2006-07-15 06:27:21 · answer #1 · answered by thomas a 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not have plastic surgery unless I was displeased with the way I looked. Yes, I would lose weight but only because it would make me healthier and increase my chances of having more years to share with my lover/mate. Yes, I would take on some of his interest and hobbies to the extent that he wanted me to and to the extent that he was willing to do the same for me. That is part of coming together as a couple and sharing each others lives and interest. AND, would I change my physical appearance - not for him but because as a woman we tend to do those things all the time. You know, long hair this year; short next. Guess what? He does the same thing. Mustache this year, beard in the winter, clean shaven in the spring and fall. But we do it for ourselves out of curiousity and because we get bored with the same old things.
2006-07-13 02:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plastic surgery? Absolutely not! Obviously there was appeal to begin with. Losing weight.....yes, as for taking up new hobbies and interests, yes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
2006-07-13 00:00:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd never go under a knife to alter my body for another person. I would however exercise or diet, but I'd be doing that as much for me as the other person too. As far as hobbies or interests, I think it's important for each person in a relationship to consider the other persons interests an try them at least once to know the other person better.
2006-07-13 00:00:00 · answer #4 · answered by Richard L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no I would not have plastic surgury.
I would however lose weight and try new hobbies and or interests.
Depending on what physical appearance she wants me to change will depend on if i change it or not.
2006-07-13 01:03:50 · answer #5 · answered by pestilence65536 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no to all of them. I would NEVER change for anyone but myself. If I am happy with who I am and what I am then so should my mate and if he is not happy with me then he needs to move on. So many relationships fail because people think that once they get involved they will be able to change the person but you cant change people they have to want to change for themselves and I would just end up being angry and bitter if I were to alter my appearance to please my mate. If I am not happy with who I am then how can I expect others to be as well and if I am happy with who I am then anyone else who isnt has to go.
2006-07-13 00:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by tysha30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes...I am going have plastic surgery for someone very close to me.....me.
I am going to do everything possible to pay off my credit cards. Get rid of all that plastic.
I need all the plastic surgery I can get, to separate me from Chase Visa !
2006-07-14 05:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by marnefirstinfantry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt change at all. That is not what love is about, changing for someone elses pleasure.
2006-07-13 05:41:00 · answer #8 · answered by jack f 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to put it simple,, hell no
if he does not like you for who you are than why is he with you, no one is worth changing for, any woman who does change herself for a man is plain feeble. you would just be missing out on your soul mate for a man who doesn't even care about you
2006-07-13 00:29:14 · answer #9 · answered by ana_n_jason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't change a thing because than i wouldnt be myself
therefor i wouldnt be happy trying to be someone iam not
2006-07-13 00:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by ate up 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋