i've never had an orgasm before and im afraid ill never have one. is it normal? I feel that when it comes to sex im closed off and i dont know what to do
2006-07-12 16:50:45 · 21 answers · asked by ana p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to do some experimenting by yourself. After you figure out the best way to give yourself an orgasm, you'll better be able to tell your boyfriend what he can do to help you.
2006-07-12 16:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Friend all you have to do discuss to your boyfriend, sometimes in sex we should be open, and just relax ya, and talk to him in gently ya. There is many ways out. For instance, if He had orgasm befor you all these time, so now try for him do foreplay to you longer than usual before intercourse.
When you feelquite close enough than he could doin intercourse.
Dont worry, when you do that, you`ll get one.....
2006-07-12 17:02:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was something in your past that makes sex offensive to you then you should get help right away. This can haunt you for the rest of your life if it is not addessed now. On the other hand if sex is just scary to you then you have to let your b/f know that to. Do not be afraid to discuss things with your guy. ( we can be sensitive to! )
2006-07-12 16:55:23 · answer #3 · answered by diggiddydank 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-01 04:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a book, "For Yourself: The Fulfillment of Female Sexuality" by Lonnie Barbach. My wife and I have both read it. It helps explain female sexuality to women and the men they're with.
2006-07-12 16:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had girlfriends that have orgasmed and some that didnt. I think its just based on your body make up and its nobodies fault, we are just made differently from each other.
2006-07-12 16:53:27 · answer #6 · answered by rizzlejizzle16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about perfection and orgasms. Just have sex with him, and just worry about being as good as you can be. It's a waste of time, to strive for aboslute perfection. It's also stressful and not worthy your time.
2006-07-12 16:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are books that you can read that can help you to understand more about you body. If you relax and just let what happens happen then you would see that you can and another thing is that you need to make sure that he knows what you like.
2006-07-12 16:53:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're not alone, many girls feel that, and you may not have an orgasm the first few times. but the more you stick with your partner and the more he learns what you like, you'll get there
2006-07-12 16:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by Chris K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not abnormal. But you have to be able to discuss this with your boyfriend. He can't help you unless you tell him what the problem is and what you like.
If you are uncomfortable talking to him... try to experiment on yourself, if you get my drift. Once you have it down, you and your boyfriend WILL NOT be sorry.
2006-07-12 16:53:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋