He does not work, because he "cannot find a job" Its been 4 months since he has worked. I work a full time office job and a weekend waitressing job. I STILL clean the house, take the kids to and from the sitter everyday, cook(sometimes) I dont get to bed until 2 or 3 am....he stays up all night on the internet and I am always tired and running late in the mornings. He doesnt lift a finger to clean or help out when the 2 and 4 year olds are crying, or hungry or needing a diaper. Im going crazy...What can I do to let him see how stressed i am?
2006-07-12 16:44:59 · 9 answers · asked by ♥NICOLE♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow, that would really make me irrate if I had to do all the work while my husband sat around and did nothing. I would simply tell him how over-worked you are, and that it would really be nice if he helped you out a little more(hint hint hubby). If that doesn't work, I would say you could probably do better without him.
2006-07-12 16:51:21 · answer #1 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered that he might be having an affair? The only reason I'm bringing it up is because my father fell into a similar pattern about a year and a half ago, and a few months later, left my mother, sister, and I. Even if he's not having an affair, he is an adult and so should be supporting himself. Kick his lazy *** out for a while and see how he likes it. If none of this is anything you're willing to do, then read "How to Remodel a Man" by Bruce Cameron and laugh. Strangely, I have found his methods to be effective in many circumstances.
2006-07-12 23:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by Cat Loves Her Sabres 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs his *** kick. I understand it hard to find a job these days. But if your willing to work, even cleaning up horse **** paid something. Sounds like he is comfortable, and don't won't to get out of it.
He needs to get up and help around the place. Don't let him be a leech, stand up and run your mouth off at him. Cut off sex for a while, make a list of what duties in the house, that he must do before you get home.
Cut his internet time off. Hide the computer somewhere. Make a password for it. One that he would never think of. So he won't be able to log in. You can do that, by going to control panel and go to user account. He is not the king of the castle. Untill someone kicks him in the *** to get up. He is going to be that way.
2006-07-13 01:00:37 · answer #3 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question here is why are you still with him? and please don't say for the kids sake. If he doesn't contribute to anything then trust me the kids are better off. But ofcourse thats not the right answer. So I would take away the things that he uses the most, take away the internet and you tell him if he wants it he'll have to work for it. Don't forget to set up some rules in your household. If he follows them kudos to you, if he doesn't then...the question still remains why are you with him? Hope that helps you out.
2006-07-13 00:23:02 · answer #4 · answered by deais74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better sit down and talk to him, with a marriage counsler. Go alone if he won't go with you.
Sorry, but this guy sounds like he is taking advantage of the situation. Without counsling you will soon need to sit down by yourself and weigh all the advantages and disadvantages of life with him or life without him. Which way will you be better off? Be as objective and honest with yourself as you can be. Make your decision and keep to it.
2006-07-12 23:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by wires 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think you really need an answer, you should be able to figuere that one out by yourself... he is obviously a lazy good for nothing idiot who is using you for a free ride... cut him off ... tell him if he wants to make the marriage work then to get off his lazy but and do something... if he dont then tell him to hit the road.... looks like you doing it all anyway, what you need him for the sex cant be that good....
2006-07-12 23:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by monie99701 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny plz, tell his not good for anything *** to get the hell out. Plain and simple or he will continue doing what hes doing cause you let him see men are like children they are only going to do what you allow them to do.
2006-07-13 00:26:20 · answer #7 · answered by Pinkdragon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not working or helping you with housework, he has no right to be on the internet. Unsuscribe the internet. Tell him to help or you will kick him out.
2006-07-13 03:27:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know yourself and your relationship better than anyone else, just keep this in mind in solving your problem: "Destress yourself in a healthy way." Talk it out and make sure he listens.
2006-07-12 23:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by pink_heart18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋