What if the one you loved was of a different race than you?

Question

Would you change your race if it was the only way you could be with them? Not because they were racist, but because of some crazy, out of this world circumstances, it was the only way you could be together. Or is your ethnicity so much a part of who you are, that you couldn't change it for anyone?

I appreaciate the feedback, but the question wasn't does race matter. The question is, would you change your race if you had to just to be with someone you loved? Thanks anyway to the few who get it.

Answer 1

OK, AS I READ OVER YOUR OTHER ANSWERS, I NOTICED MOST DID NOT ANSWER YOUR TRUE QUESTION ON YOUR LAST SENTENCE.
IF THERE WAS NO POSSIBLE OTHER WAY AND I KNEW BEYOND ANY DOUBT THAT THE PERSON WAS MY TRUE LOVE... MY OTHER HALF THAT MAKES ME WHOLE. MY ANSWER WOULD BE "YES". THAT IS THE QUESTION YOU ASKED FOR AN ANSWER TO. I COULD GO ON FURTHER INTO THIS, BUT YOU DID NOT ASK FOR THAT. MUCH LOVE TO YOU!

Answer 2

Inter-racial relationships are fine. Everyone is one race anyway. You would never see a cat mate with a dog but you will see a black cat mate with a white cat or an orange one. What I am trying to get across is that its not like the one that you love and want to be with is a dog they are a human being just like you. Its not about race any more it is about respect. If the person you love loves you back then your race should not make any difference. They should love you just the way you are. You should never feel the need to change who you are for anyone regardless of the out of the world circumstances. I have found in my personal life that different cultures only enhance who you are. Good Luck!

Answer 3

Who cares what race they are? Love is a GIFT - in whatever form it comes. How could someone be so arrogant as to think that they need to have the same colour of skin, hair, eyes, ethnicity or religion to be able to love someone.

You cannot change your race - you are what you are so I am not sure what you are asking by that question? Are you asking if we would you give up a religious affiliation or our citizenship to be with someone we loved?

I can also understand "old world" customs but you said "out of this world circumstances" - now I feel like you are joining a sect that will blast you up to the mother ship! LOL...Thoughts of Scientology spring to mind here.

Ethnicity is the central core of who one is but you don't need to change that for anyone. It is not the end all...be all! Who are you trying to please, anyway? Your parents? Friends? Religious leaders? Extended family? Community? Society? Who are you living this life for anyway? Nobody knows a love like you and the other partner know it. Nobody else is with you in all those intimate moments. Maybe you can learn to accommodate this other person / partner in your realm of love. Ethnicity is not what solely defines one!

The way I see it, love is love. It is a gift - whatever form it comes in - and you don't just throw away a gift!! Wouldn't you rather have love in your life than not in your life? When you think about it that way, the question is not so difficult......Good luck to you & live your life...FOR YOU!

Answer 4

I think most people misunderstood the question. I think that you are talking about cultural pressures that your potential mate is going through because of the difference in ethnicities.
As far as I am concerned if your ethnicity is so much a part of yourself that you could not change it then you are racist to a certain degree, again, this is just my opinion...
But to answer your question, if his/her culture requires that you change your ethnicity to be with that person, then go ahead and do it, but be ready because the change of your race might not be the only cultural barrier between the both of you.

Answer 5

I would still love the said individual regardless, but I would never change anything about myself because of someone elses disproval. It's not a question of ethnicity or culture for me, but self respect. If I have to change who I am in order to satisfy someone else or circumstance itself; then I am in fact degrading my own personal being, ethic and natural purpose in this world.

If the feelings were the same from the other individual, then regardless of circumstance, they would be willing to give things a shot. If you really love someone you're willing to love every aspect of that individual (even the annoying habits you don't like about them).

If someone doesn't respect me enough to accept me as I am, I would move on with my life.

I'm personally against almost any form of body alteration (plastic surgery, breast implants etc..) for aesthetical use, unless it's medicinal or under the rare event that the individual cannot lead a normal life because of his visual appearance (id est - someone got burned in a fire/born with a rare disease etc.).

Answer 6

I would change for him but would i accept the religion from my heart? If i would change who much and for how long ? Well everything i ever believed in from the day i was born would change? Is it only love or my whole life with that person? I think i would cz Love is just so Crazy but i dont think ill be fully happy there alwayz be this little voice in my heart. Especially if i dont learn about the religion and what it actually means and what it stands for. Depends on the person too. :) If you can sleep at night with it why not :) Love is Love

Answer 7

Watch "Something Different" it is on target with your question.

My answer is a question, "How?"

How can you be what you are not?

I know you can.

You can turn your back on your past and think it is for the best, but how can you forget who you once were?

I have known many who have tried and all I can say is they were incomplete afterwards.

Whats more you may resent later having done this.

If ethnicity is a problem for you then it is a problem you should face and be strong as you do so.

I hope this helps.

Answer 8

why does it matter if you love someone of a different race? Are you so worried what other people will think?

It is fantastic that people are different. It would be boring if everyone were the same.

Enjoy and treasure the differences. Raise your kids knowing both ethnicities, languages, cultures, etc.

Answer 9

Race doesn't matter unless you let it matter to YOU. Is there some sort of invisible wall between the two of you that is stopping you? Or is it someone's belief that they cannot marry outside of their race? If your in love, you'll bring out the best in each others ethnic habits.

Answer 10

Are you trying to change because the person you love doesn't want to be with you because of your race, or is it someone else? If it is someone else then I say "who cares", they will get over it as time passes & they see that ya'll really love each other, but if it is the person that you love then i'm sorry to say that person isn't really meant for you, if that person loved you they should of never asked that of you!