Is it better if you didn't have any kids?

Answer 1

Not in my opinion.
People who raise children have a subtle but definate depth and sense of priority that people without children just don't develop, and most of the time, it makes them a better person as far as being concerned about others, about the world, culture, etc.

Answer 2

First off, the people that immediately bad mouth a person for not having kids or suggest that people that do have kids are somehow better people, have to be completely discounted. They are building themselves up by putting down people that are different than them. That is just ridiculous and ignorant. However, that opinion is rarely discounted because most people have children. You'll find the same phenomenon goes on when discussing only children, because most people have brothers and sisters, and have mutliple children themselves. It is just ridiculous ignorance.

Fact is, everyone creates his or her own reality. Meaning several things, but, most importantly in this situation, it means one doesn't miss what he or she does not have. People that have kids say that they are the best thing that ever happened to them; can't imagine life without them; they love them more than anything; everyone should experience the joy, etc. I completely agree with them. They speak the truth. Other people say the same sorta things about their dog. Sure, the feelings cannot be as strong, but hearing one talk you would think so, right? People could say the same thing about their relationships as well. Some people grow up real close to their grandparents, live close, spend a bunch of time with them. Those people could not imagine life without that, but that isn't the case for most. Friends are the same way. Some people have life long friends that mean as much as family. Others never connect like that. Do the people that don't have that know the joy they are missing? What about the kids that don't experience the joy of growing up so close to their grandparents? I could go on and on.

There is no right or wrong answer to your question. One has to live with the choices he or she makes. Whatever choice that is, does not make one any more or less of a person. No one should be looked down upon because he or she does not have children. People that do that are ignorant.

Heck, reading the posts of all the people that cheat and divorce their spouses after they have kids, it is a wonder intelligent people are even willing to have kids these days, especially men, because, unless the mother is a complete messup, the dude doesn't get custody...even if the wife cheats!

Answer 3

What do you mean by "better"?
Depends on what you want out of the marriage.
My philosophy is that there's no point in being married unless one wants children.
I raised a son and it takes an extraordinary amout of effort, money, responsibility, tolerance, and a big lesson in selflessness to raise a child well. If one isn't willing to make a lot of sacrifices, then yes, it's better not to have kids.

Answer 4

I assume you are talking about marriage...

NOT Better, different...very quiet. You would have to be very focused on each other as a couple or just completely absorbed with your work. My husband and I have 6 combined, our best times are from when they were all little!
It would not be better for us...
Having kids does create new issues about morals, values and money...but not better with out them. Have never wished - not to have kids. They are what makes me laugh! Kids cause me to make BETTER decisions!

Answer 5

NO!!Not every woman was made to be a mother,but I was.If anything,I would say that was and is my sole purpose in life.Along with the sadness comes way more joys.They teach me something everyday.They brighten up my day,when I think that things are so bad and I didn't know how to go on.They are the reason that I am alive and the reason that I fight everyday to stay alive.I am lucky enough to have 4 beautiful,healthy,happy kids.Three girls,ages 14,10,& 2 and one son,age 8.God has blessed me in ways I never thought possible and wouldn't change it for ALL the money in the world!!

Answer 6

hell NO

Having children will be one of the best things you could ever do seeing how they grow and move through out there life and then having children of there own its a once in a life time thing and all the memories you get from it are priceless

and not only that i believe life can become very boring kids just bring a whole different type on entertainment to life one you can NoT buy....

Answer 7

everyone is different when it comes to kids.some like some don't.
some would rather be selfish and focus there life on there own personal being, others take pride in being able to nurture and
guide a child through life. personally if i hadn't kids,i'd probably be
dead from over indulgence in numerous and various activity's.
so from that perspective, no it's not better. but everyone is there own.

Answer 8

I think this might be interesting to ask of your own parents.

For me , I loved being single - until I got married. Then I could not remember why being single was so fun. I would miss my husband to much. Then we loved being married with out children - until we had our son. It's like waking up into a world of sight after being blind for a lifetime.

Answer 9

Yes, it is way better. Who wants to wipe poopy diapers for 2 years. Who wants to wipe noses for 10 years? Who wants to teach a little brat how to read and write and make sure it gets to school so early in the morning? Who wants to pay for college for most of their lives? Not me!!!

Answer 10

Even though kids are annoying, they keep you occupied for 21 years until they move out. By then you look forward to retirement.