I want to move out on my own, but I'm worried that when I tell my mom this, she will be disappointed in me, but I really want to do this and I know that I'm going to need her help and I want her to understand, please help me.
2006-07-12 15:50:56 · 18 answers · asked by angel_19262006 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
ok just so you know, I'm 19 I have enough money to take care of myself, but my reason for neededing my moms help with this is I don't have a car and I don't drive. Basically all I need is a ride to where I want to live. P.S there is no guy involved, I just feel like if I don't do it now I won't ever leave the"nest"
2006-07-12 16:01:19 · update #1
If you are in a finacial situation where you can meet all your bills (Rent, insurance,gas, electric, Water, Landline internet and mobile phone, TV licence, Groceries, other shopping such as cloths etc) then just find a place you want to move into, then tell your mom your moving out with or without her blessing.
she will be happy and sad your moving out. happy that you have grown up and want to set up your own home. baut sad to for the exact same reason.
if you have a car or you like going to pubs and clubs well you have to figure that into your calculations as well. you also need to add a seperat pot of funds for removal vehicles and for household repairs and maintenance. also your decorating and furnishings have to be paid for.
Remeber your going to be possibly on your own so you need to be able to cook a little or you may starve if you can't afford to eat out. remeber it's always cheaper to prepare your own meals than eat out or buy take out or an oven ready meal.
good luck
2006-07-12 16:06:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
If you want to move out on your own, you need to start acting like an adult and convey your concerns to your mother. Have a mature conversation about your feelings. Also, don't move out solely because you want to leave the nest...are you sure you're really ready? It doesn't sound like your capable of complete indepence since you don't drive (unless you can take public transportation to work and to get groceries and to go out on the weekends). Think about it. You should talk to your mom.
2006-07-12 23:25:11 · answer #2 · answered by dayv 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend if you can support your self after making the move. Like do you have a job? Who will pay the rent, lights, gas, water, and of course food. Then there are the little extras that make things nice like entertainment and other things that my come up at times. Who will provide transportation for you. If you can not answer the above questions then I would wait until you can.
2006-07-12 23:00:24 · answer #3 · answered by mr. Bob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your mom is going to have to face the fact at some point. but if you need her help financially she isnt going to like it very much and it wouldnt be smart in the first place. check your options and find out where your thinking about moving to, the more you get everything together the better your mom will feel about helping you and seeing her baby grow up. do your research and she will see that you are ready for this.
2006-07-12 22:56:12 · answer #4 · answered by sroyals86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you, do you work or still in school... Of cause she'll be disappointed shes your mom..Shes your mother she'll understand, may not like it but she knows believe me..Sit your tail down and talk to her, shes not a mean oldgrump, give it a try but do it as a big girl dont act like some spoild kid... LOL ROB
2006-07-12 22:58:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her. I thought my mom would have a problem when I told her i was moving 2000 miles away. And she surprised me by saying "Do It I did it"
lol I have yet to make the move, i love my mommy
2006-07-12 22:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would a parent be disappointed about one of their kids wanting to move out? Is a sign of independence. Are you moving out with a guy?
2006-07-12 22:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by Private Account 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start casually bringing up the idea. Talk about it a lot. Let her know you are serious. Don't just move out and then tell her. My sister's son did that and it really broke her heart.
2006-07-12 22:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by ladysodivine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! Just be sure that you can afford it and not have to move back home in two months. Caculate rent, phone, elecrticty, water and any other expences and find out if you can do it.
2006-07-12 22:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by Crushed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well moving out is always hard at first, but just ask her to help you untill you can get on your feet on your own.
2006-07-12 22:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by WHO_WHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋