My husband and i have been married for 5 years and i love him still. But i know that this process is going to tear my heart apart. What can i do to get my life on track?
2006-07-12 15:45:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course it will tear you apart but if you have done everything to save your marriage, counseling, separation first, and that did not rebuild the relationship, then you need to sit down with your self and lay out all of your bills, assets if any, children if any, etc and determine what you make and what it will take financially for you to make it. If you have not tried counseling, you should do that for yourself, meet with an attorney or two for the free consulation and they can give you a head start on what you need to start the process. It will take a while to get used to being apart but you will survive and you'll heart will eventually stop aching, but it takes time to heal. As for getting your life on track again, have patience and believe in yourself and know that your strong and you'll be ok.
2006-07-12 15:54:03 · answer #1 · answered by goobette68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it sounds like he wants the divorce??? First of all, realize that you are a person and you have needs, dreams and all the above. The next thing is to take time for your self, I know that is hard because nobody really wants to be alone, espically since you were married for 5 years. But honey you were fine before him, and you will be even better after him. Take the time to reflect what possibly went wrong. Sometimes people just change and there is no saving it, I am in the same situation, well the one thinking about leaving. I am not doing it for anyone but me.. When was the last time you lived for yourself?? BE YOU for a change, it feels really good.. Do the things that he never wanted to do with you or thought was foolish.. Best of luck..
2006-07-12 15:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no preparation for divorce. It hurts like Hell!!! When I went through it I just contacted old friends and started having some fun to take the edge off. I lost 40 pounds and looked and felt better than ever after just a short time. It has been 10 years and I can finally say I'm over it for the most part. Life does go on and there is someone better suited for you out there. Keep your chin up and remember your not alone....
2006-07-12 15:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by hippychic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. I suggest marriage counseling with a marriage therapist
or with a priest or pastor or minister. Perhaps just for you. This will give you objective input on your situation and perhaps help resolve your differences and prevent divorce.
2. Additionally, I suggest you attend a spiritual retreat where you can examine yourself and listen to God's input on your situation. It'll help you put things into perspective.
3. If all else fails, obtain a lawyer to assist and counsel you in the process of divorce.
2006-07-12 15:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by Ivy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient with yourself and try not tp dwell on the pain. There is no easy button when it comes to this subject and you are just gonna have to deal with it as it comes. Don't anticipate anything because your assumptions will always be wrong. One good way to deal is to fall on your family's shoulder and find someone to vent with. If you can't do that then find a support group and talk about it with people who are going through the same things. Good luck.
2006-07-12 15:51:50 · answer #5 · answered by mlminter73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to a dentist and have him/her pull a tooth out of you without any freezing or pain medication. Then, in the darkest times of the divorce ask yourself "would you rather be going through this divorce or having another tooth pulled?" and then the divorce won't seem so bad.
2006-07-13 09:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by jerryg1212 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure the divorce is going to happen, the first thing you need to do to prepare is get a darn good lawyer.
If you still love him, why not try counselling? Even if he wont go with you, you could go by yourself.
2006-07-12 15:49:25 · answer #7 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a break.. go away with friends/ family or just by yourself depending on your personality... make new friends, get a new atmosphere this will help a lot for you to stop thinking of the past and moving on with your life.
2006-07-12 16:14:48 · answer #8 · answered by Sheila 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you.If divorce is coming start doing things that you enjoy.I know how painful it can be but your life may just be being.This may be best for you because when one door close another one open.I'm not just talking about another man either.Take time to please you after you cried and vented start to enjoy life and all it can offer.Don't let him still your joy.
2006-07-12 16:40:26 · answer #9 · answered by missmadhatter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of your finances. Find a good lawyer (deposit may cost about $3K).
2006-07-12 16:53:13 · answer #10 · answered by RunSueRun 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋