Does anyone's parents actually accept who they are? Or are you rejected like myself once they were informed?

Answer 1

My parents are both deceased and have been for many years. However, when I was 14 I came out to my parents and they reacted with "we thought you might be." My father's only request was that I take care of and love other people, which I always have.

Jonathan did not come out until his parents were already dead, but his aunt, who was like his second mother, and his uncle did not hesitate a moment (though they took 15 seconds to accept that I was not Jewish *grin* -- gotta love it) to accept that he was gay. He told them when he was 17 and we were just then together.

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Reyn
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PS Please ignore the mentally ill -- like Stacy. If you even for a moment think her type of theory might be correct, please visit the website I maintain and read through it, particularly the three pages on "the Bible," listed on the menu.

http://www.rebuff.org

Answer 2

I am sorry to learn that your parents rejected you. If it happened recently, just give them some time, maybe a lot of time, and they may come around. If it happened long ago, then I really feel for you. That is hard to take.

My experience was one of being "accepted" but judged. As Jordan reported above, my parents also ignore the fact and fall silent when I bring up the subject, which I sometimes do just because it is natural to do so OR because I feel that I need to emphasize that I have a different perspective on many things.

Good luck to you!

Answer 3

My parents didnt like the idea but they were quick to get over it as they know how I feel about my girlfriend! A parents love for a child is unconditional and shouldnt change because of their sexual preferance. The only thing you can do is to talk to your parents about it.. tell them that this is who you are and you havent changed. If they dont accept it (or even pretend.. its better then not at all) they musnt care about your feelings, because this has nothing to do with them.. they should be there for you.. There child that they brought into the world and they cant bail now that things arnt going how they planned!

Answer 4

My parents accepted me. Actually, I figured they already knew and I was right (after all, they are at least as intelligent as we are for the most part) and have more life experience. When I met the man who would become my life partner I had to tell them because we would be living together and doing things together in a way that two roomies would not be, and I wanted him to be loved by my brothers and sisters and family.

He was. His family still calls me and visits me, and I still call and visit them also, even tho he died almost 10 years ago now. We were together 8 years and both of our families are very close even tho they are both christian, his uncle is a minister and gave his 2nd funeral (we had to have 2 in 2 different cities because of his popularity) and I was mentioned quite often in both ceremonies and me and my mother sat with his family during both ceremonies. It was wonderful to be accepted at such a difficult time.

Answer 5

My parents were pretty cool. We live in NY state, and they're Catholic. They probably reacted worse when I didn't want to get confirmed, but...they're weird like that. More and more, people are being forced to realize that this is something that might happen to their kid, and that they'll have to deal with it. The good news is, most parents who do something like that DO come around eventually. Good luck.

To the first person to respond, I'd point out that no matter what you think the Bible says about homosexual acts, nowhere does it say "thou shalt reject your family". Are these the family values that need protecting?

Answer 6

Accept it, no. Reject it, hmm. I think my parents just Ignore it. They both know - I told my mom flat out, and my dad asked my mom and my mom told him, but they act as if they don't know at all. They don't try to set me up on dates or get me to notice people, which is good. But if I start talking about my sexuality or someone of interest to me, they act as though I'm not talking at all and don't start responding to me again until I change the subject. It bothers me a bit, but I realize it could be a hell of a lot worse, so I just accept that that's probably as good (or as bad ) as it will ever get. (They've known for years.)

Answer 7

I am truly blessed. Everyone in my family (even extended family included) have all accepted me. My mother is wonderful about it, and I cried the day I came out to her because the words she said to me were so amazingly beautiful.

I have three older sisters who adore me, and stick up for me every chance they get.

Recently, my oldest sister decided it was time to tell my 8 year old niece/godchild that I was a lesbian and to tell her about my partner. Immediately, my niece said she was going to start calling Mary (my partner) 'Aunt Mary' from now on, and she did/does! It was so cute.

Even my step-father who was a racist/homophobe has seen the light and cried the day he thanked me for opening up his closed mind and heart and showing him that gay people are just as beautiful as anyone else out there.

I could go on forever about how great my family is ... but I'll stop! Sorry! I'm just really lucky and loved.

Answer 8

no im a gay boy and my parents are trying every thing they possibly canto change save abuse and paying girls to see me besides that they cut my hair and make me dress like a prepy rich white boy all the time ill be luck on the days my dads not home then i can pull out the choker and the tight jeans make up and grab my phone and go

Answer 9

One rejects me and one accepts me. Too bad the one that accepts me lives 3000 miles away from me and the one that rejects me lives 2 feet away from me.

Answer 10

Not mine, Dad thought God had put a curse on him when he found out I was TS, Mom accepted it for a while, then changed her mind when my sister announced she was a lesbian, that was the last straw for her. And Dad couldn't handle Sis's coming out at all.