Why do men only see women as SEX objects? Why not the special gifts we are from GOD?

Question

I have been married for 9 years! I am thinking back to dating etc. That is all a guy wantes! Why?

We are specail precious gifts! Why will guys not wait until you are married to be with a women? Why do you always look to do it before you are married?

Answer 1

i totaly agree with you!!! as a message to all you guys out there were not sex machines for your pleasure...were gifts just as you are gifts from God to us......

Answer 2

Because we're not, we're equal.

The logical answer that doesn't involve higher powers is this.

Men started out as hunters/protectors, way back at the dawn of everything that's what men did. And it hasn't changed for ages. Only in the past few centuries has there been any type of shift in the position. Think about it for a moment, a man is geared to:
1) hunt for food.
2) Protect territory.
3) Insure his genes survive (ie: Breeding)

And for you boys who wonder why women talk so much here's a tidbit. For ages while you were busy doing the above, we were stuck with:
1) Preparing your food
2) taking care of your territory
3) Insuring your genes were worthy 'too' survive.

You put them together and that's what you're stuck with. Women don't need men for food we can go shop or get jobs. We don't need men for getting a home or an apartment so all that's left for a man to see us as 'is' a sex object.
You got to remember that women were raised to have social graces, we hold parties, entertain guests, raise the kids. These are all activities that require communication first and foremost. It's been bred for generations and because of that we're more geared to 'wanting' communcation with our mates.
It's occasional but for the most part men don't love you period. You're only there for sex and nothing else, so if you leave it doesn't matter to him because he'll replace you in a few days with some other woman.
Then again here you are asking an online community when you should be asking your husband.

And you shouldn't ask questions like this and evoke god themes. Unless you forgot that God created us to 'be' Sex objects for men. Haven't you noticed how in the Bible women are the source of all evil? We're just a warm place for boys to keep their ***** at night and that is it.

Answer 3

Why do women, when it comes to men, over-generalize and stereotype them? Maybe it's because they like to over-simplify things and would rather throw the blame on the evil ~man~ than confront their own individual insecurities.

Most women don't see that getting too caught up in fantasies and fairy tales is immaturity. How do you expect a man to respect you as a grown woman when you talk and act like a silly little girl/child?
You say u'r married for 9 years, so that must make you, what, about 29 years old? And still you have that mentality.

You are not gifts. Nothing is. Gifts from who? what a silly thing to even think. There is no God. Men and women were ~evolved~ (not created) simultaneously. If you believe that foolish story about Eve being created from Adam's rib as a gift and companion, then God help you.
No wonder they're gonna lie to you when you refuse to leave your dream world which you have so elaborately constructed and refuse to accept reality.

And it's natural that sex would be, most of the times, the only thing that makes a guy talk to a girl? It's not gonna be an intelligent conversation when most women are so hopelessly drowned in their dreams and it is easier to have an intelligent conversation with guys, you know because they don't give him that sh** about "what is meant to be" and "love forever" etc
If the individual woman is capable of an intelligent conversation (ie she's not plagued by fairy tales) and of being a true friend, the guy should be her friend and respect her. And if he doesn't respect such a woman, and only wants her for a f**k then and ONLY then he is a pig. To be honest, the guy should marry that woman.

You are special no more and no less than every other human on the planet.
Precious my a$$. Just being a woman does not make you precious. To be precious is to be a great woman. One that can raise her children, AND hold a job AND have a successful career AND keep a great, helpful, and mature man AND cooperate with him in all things (raising children, running the house...) AND who can influence him and make him change his behaviour and correct his mistakes very subtly AND respect him and not treat him as a child AND righteously earn his respect and get him not to treat her as a child... THAT is precious.
Gifts? Nothing and no one is a gift from nobody.

As for the second part of your question:
Because marriage is a piece of paper. If they love each other then they are already "married" and need no signed paper to say so. Personaly, I'm an atheist so I don't believe marriage is getting God to bless your relation. Proof: a lot of unhappy married couples. To me, there is no such thing as marriage. Their is only the relation between the man and the woman which concerns them only and no one else, not even God. However, I am a partisan of civil marriage because society stupidly stereotypes women who cohabitate with men as sluts and and I don't want anyone saying anything bad and false about the woman I love, let alone do so because of me. I have to protect her reputation, her "honor" if you will.

What is it that makes men? Since our childhood we are told that a man is only as good as his f**k count (ie his "score").
But I disagree.
Let's get back to marriage. Marriage makes it difficult, at ~least~ financially, for the person to fall out of the relationship. While this has its benefits, it also makes the choice in that person's stead.
A true man is he wants and can have and keep a woman totaly free, in a relationship where both parties each day make the free decision of staying in the relationship or of leaving it. A man that loves a woman wants her to be strong, free, self-sufficient (though he should do all he can to keep such a woman). He wants her to be happy, whether it is with him or not. He wishes her the best.
A true man is one can keep such a woman. And one who does not wrong her not forfear she will yell at him or they will get into a fight, but because she is independent and the only way to keep her with him is by his true qualities.
Now that that's said, very very few people are able to have such high quality relationships this is why there is a swarm of lower-quality relationships.

And L. Phoenix is right, "God" and "women's rights" can't make sense in one sentence without "against".

Answer 4

I think all the men who have given their answers on here 1 Don't love themselves 2are immature 3 have no morals or values they.follow the crowd. are empty mentally emotionally spiritually and I am not talking about religion.you all don't know the meaning of what love is./none of you respect yourselfs because if you did you wouldn't write this garbage and really it's about RESPECT no matter what gender you are .plus I am a very attractive women however I no what the word no means .I am not going to go around sleeping with every man because that's what I call respecting yourself taking care of yourself and loving yourself .there are emotions that go along with sleeping together and your body is your body .looks are shallow and when that's all you see then it's not worth taking the other step .intellectual conversations and taking your time to know someone is more important then that because looks fade and that goes out to all the men who wrote their opinions on this if you are a *** then it really doesn't matter what you look like .I will just walk away .lessons to both genders here .

Answer 5

They do see women as special gifts from God.

Sex objects.

Answer 6

I really understand where you're coming from. It is hard to find a woman that exemplifies what the Womens' Rights Movement was truly about. It seems as if there are two extremes of women--the "stupid girls" or, as you stated, the "'fem nazis'". I hate watching most of the shows on TV, especially MTV, because most of the women perpetuate stereotypical female behavior (i.e. "the b*tch", "the slut", "the narcissist", etc.). Even women that seem to have it together do things that set women back a few decades like take care of a mooching man. I try not to be too down on today's woman though. There are some strong women out there; they just tend to get overshadowed by the "silly girls".

Answer 7

First, there are no gods. Grow up and get over it.

I assume from the details you've given that you are at least in your 30s. If so, you are past your expiration date. Most men want younger women, and you're lucky if any man pays any attention to you at all. So, the only thing you've got to offer is sex, and if you're not offering that, why would any man waste his time on you?

Answer 8

You yourself have noticed that men's primary reason for being interested in you is sex.

You believe God created women, so I assume you also believe God created men.

Why would you not believe that God created men this way?

Men seriously are not trying to disrespect women...we just have different interests and priorities than women. We get just as frustrated with you as you do with us. It's just part of life. Men and women have to compromise with each other to keep our relationships going (and therefore our species alive).

So, I encourage you to do two things:
1) Respond enthusiastically to men's needs, and
2) Demand that men respond enthusiastically to your needs as well!

Answer 9

Some truly devote christian guys (like me) do see you as gifts from God. Then those that don't see you as sex objects.

Answer 10

Tool is right when women start that "sex object" crap that's when we start to lose respect for them.
The problem with guys being to horny to think straight is common among teenage boys.
That's what you remember from your early dating experiences. We outgrow the raging hormones stage. Some sooner than others.

Answer 11

ha thats the question its because through the media we have become sex objects clothing styles, music videos and so on.
so then when a man is around a real woman its hard to know the difference.