Have you ever known anyone who was murdered or a murderer?

Question

How did you deal with it? I live a "normal" life in a "nice" city....it is freaking me out!

Answer 1

I am a radio personality. I go to church almost weekly. I am well respected. I am also a volunteer social worker in prisons, counseling and mentoring killers, rapists and the like. One week after a man who murdered his fiancé publicly asked for prayers to have his generational curses broken --because his father had eventually murdered his mother also, another prisoner asked for the same type of prayers. The former killer came over to help to pray with the man, and I pretended I did not see him; I was being self-righteous. When I went home, as I entered the house, I heard "Come here to me: you thought Mr. "R" was not good enough to pray for someone I called--what makes you better than him? Do you know that you have murders that you have confessed? Yours are even worse than his because you killed your own children to avoid shame!" Yes: abortions are murders.
I was home alone and no-one could have known of my self-righteous show other than God, because I never discussed that with anyone, much more repented on such. The next week, I confessed everything and publicly asked God for forgiveness. I am now not only forgiven, but God has rewarded me for my humility by allowing me to pray for and watch Him heal thousands of people in Africa, Asia, Israel, and Oman.
Boaz.
In the eyes of God, as long as we sin, we are despicable. His word says that if we sin in one, we sin in all. Thank heaven He is a forgiving God. He says in Psalm 103:2 that when He forgives us, he removes our sins as far as the east is from the west.
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Answer 2

Yes, I know someone who murdered two women in a contract killing. He's got 51 years, so we don't have to worry about him anymore. I feel bad for the women and their family though.
I also had a 2nd cousin who was a DJ in Tennessee who was murdered. No one ever found out who did it.
I also had an uncle who was way cool. He had cancer. He did not want to die, and neither did any of his family except his wife. She was the one who was allowed the decision, and she made the doctors take him off life support. I guess it's not the same thing as murder, but it still hurts and ticks me off.
Stuff like that happens every day. It's really sad, and it sucks. But you have to realize that God sees it all, and He's there with us. It sucks too that God has to see His children acting like this all the time. I know it's got to hurt Him pretty bad. But then I realize that if He can still love us and deal with it, then maybe I can too. I just have to move on knowing that I'll be able to see my family again someday.
I hope this helps you. Don't freak out. You'll be fine. I promise.

Answer 3

I had a friend in college who was murdered by someone trying to steal his car. The murderer was only 17. The crazy thing was that this very friend was going to call me that night to make arrangements to get together and never did. I found out why when I saw the newspaper the next morning.

Answer 4

I knew a 5 year old boy who was murdered by his father's drug dealing buddy when the father didn't pay a debt. The mother wrote a book about it "Every Mother's Nightmare" by Charles Bosworth Jr.

My brother in law was also killed in a bar fight, but they called it self defense and nothing ever happend to the guy.

I mourned for the person knowing that people die and life isn't fair and tomorrow it could be me, so I will just enjoy today. When my time is up, it is up and there is nothing I can do about it.

Answer 5

Yes one of my best friends fiances is sitting 45 years right now on a murder case he came home and found his ex gf in bed with another man when he was dating her at the time. He stabbed the man to death and stabbed her in the back literally. I ended up living in the same house as him before he got sent away. He became one of my best friends and i really do miss him dearly he truly is remorseful for what he did and personally i think that he is a great person he used to be the only one that i could talk to when times got rough cause he really understood i dont think that people should be judged on their past but on what they are doing now to correct the wrong that they have done

Answer 6

yes - some time ago ( a few years) my boyfreinds brother was mugged and murdered for his money. It took a lot of time to put the pain behind me. I talked about Mikey alot & the situation, I had a good support system that listened to my feelings on what happened and as time went on the pain lessened, I never forgot Mikey - but I was able to go on with my life although the sadness is there. I also got involved in some community services (hotlines for troubled teens) and kept Mikey's memory alive to me in this way. I have to remember to count my blessings each day, that will help your pain heal also.

Answer 7

yes, my ex husband. he only got 7 years cause he testified against he friend that help him, I have a daughter by him to. she 12 years old. she knows what he his. and what he did. she don't want anything to do with him. He murdered a women that had 4 kids. that's a lot to handle, I was at home one day when two detective came to my door. It was hard to believe first, but the more i thought about it I could see it , When he would drink, he was not the same person. that's why I left when I did. Its hard but you have to go on. good luck. hope you feel better

Answer 8

Yes a friend of mine was murdered in a murder-suicide.
Give it some time. Grief process will take its course. Life goes on! Really it does!
good luck

Answer 9

i know someone who was murdered not a close friend though- but i also know a murderer he wasnt really a friend but i hung out with him a few times, well it was getting late one night and i was with 2 other girls and this guy, i wanted to go home because he was acting creepy.
i was scared but now he is in jail .
he murdered this guy and burried him under his porch.
it was scary and i cant believe i was hanging out with him.

you could always report it if you want? you may not b/c someone might hurt you .
just be careful and i hope god doesnt look down bad on you for not telling.
-Maria

Answer 10

Yes...my cousin murdered his wife back in '86. A friend I worked with was murdered back in '01. A guy I went to school with was just convicted of murder.