I am never happy, I am 14, and do not have many friends, how do I make friends?, What causes unhappiness?

Question

No details, I am never happy, I do not know why. only have two friends, home schooled. How do I meet friends, mostly girls.

Thanks, Brooke and Chloe.

Answer 1

go to a public school!!!!!play sports and be good at it. get good grades. wear cool clothes. be strong. remember u have more friends than that. like God and Jesus.

Answer 2

I think two friends are better than none, I think that the amount of friends you have should not be more than you can count with your fingers. I'm 26 and I only have 2 maybe 3 friends, all whom which I don't talk or hang out on a regular basis.

Besides you are home schooled, with that it makes it much more difficult for you to make friends. How about trying an activity after schooling. If you like sports then you could try soccer, swimming, tennis, softball so on and forth. I took ballet growing up and that was great. If you're not sporty you could try arts.

Now about being unhappy. Unfortunately that is not uncommon among 14 year old girls. I was a very scared, unhappy, confused and insecure girl almost all of my life growing up. You might be clinically depressed as well. Talk to your parents about maybe seeing a doctor about it. You could try an anti-depressant or therapy, which involves speaking about your problems in confidence.

I know it's not easy at your age, but I'm sure you'll manage through your young adult years and become a very successful, beautiful Young women.

Don't ever forget how special you are. There is always someone out there thinking of you and wishing you happiness.

Smiles. :D

Answer 3

The fact that you are only 14 intriques me, having lost my daughter to a wrongful death when she was only 23 (in 2002). The youthful (pubescent) age may have something to do with your moods, but there also may be an unanswered depth and sensitivity within you that goes unfulfilled even if you are with other people. Sometimes, the talented soul has a special kind of loneliness if creative flow is inhibited or unrecognized. Examine what you say, though. "I am NEVER happy"..." followed by "and do not have MANY friends..." --- This seems to say you have some friends, but that these friends have not contributed to your inner happiness to the degree that you want or need. What I am inspired to say to you is that you must first love yourself. Start counting your blessings each moment of your moods of unhappiness. Look around you (inside and out) and start making lists of that which is good about you or your life. I also recommend a wonderful book: "The Artist's Way", by Julia Cameron (I think her name is Julia). You have an unanswered artist you, I bet, that has a lot to offer the world---perhaps poetry, or humor, or sculpture, or painting ... wherever your talents lie. Happiness is found within. It begins with liking yourself, and then you begin attracting those who reflect your own positive sense of self. Hope this helps.

Answer 4

There are times when we have no choice,like the loss of a loved one,moving away from your best friend etc.But even then you have to make the choice live or let the sadness over take your life.Life isn't a bed of roses.We as Americans have the right to "pursue" happiness but there are no guarantees.Life is too short and I refuse to let a day go by without a smile sometimes it's not easy.And when you are sad that mood rubs off on others so then you're responsible for making another person sad.Stay positive!Smile,be happy and don't worry

Answer 5

I remember being fourteen and unhappy. I was pretty isolated because my family moved alot so... not alot of friendmaking on my part. It's tough. Don't let anyone minimize the difficulty of being in your situation. Just consider it your mission to get to that point where you can say "now I'm happy" it will come and it may take time. Until that time find things that interest you, drink plenty of water, exercise, enjoy sunshine, and whenever possible smile. Sometimes if you give someone a smile even if you don't feel it, they will smile back and you will definately feel it. And remember "smooth seas never produced a great sailor." Good luck

Answer 6

You are homeschooled. I am going to take a wild guess here that your family is pretty involved in religion. If you really want to make friends that will last a lifetime then you need to have the experience of a lifetime together. I would get as involved as possible in missions and service work. I say this for 2 reasons:
1.
I can pretty safely say that your folks would probably love to see that and encourage it.
2.
People who serve others and love on them are the happiest people in the world.

Also, there is one thing I really want you to do. Anytime someone asks you how you are doing, tell them OUTSTANDING. Your subconscious takes everything you say literally. So if you say it, your unconscious mind makes it so.

I am one of the happiest people on the face of the planet. God is good all the time.

Answer 7

I think our expectations are often the reason we are unhappy. What are your expectations for your life right now? Is there something you wish you were doing differently? Somewhere else you want to be? Define what you want your life to look like right now, and then think of things you can do to bring about those changes. It doesn't have to be threatening or scary. Sometimes making small changes starts the ball rolling. But be careful what you wish for. Sometimes the things we think we want aren't all that great. Sometimes what looks like the "it" thing is just a bunch of 'smoke and mirrors', or an illusion that looks better than it really is.

Answer 8

hey i'm 14 and homeschooled :-( (sadly) so i know what you mean...i used to have a really hard time making friends...mabye you just need to be a little bit more out-going...try and find people you have a lot in common with...like if you play an instrument or like the same bands, or subjects....be yourself...start a conversation out of the blue :-) that seems to work pretty well...as for unhappieness sorry but straight foward only one thing can give you true happieness...a relationship with Jesus Christ

Answer 9

Go somwhere where a bunch of girls hang out and try to make friends.As far as being happy,I believe that a person is tesponsible for their happiness.You may be faced with alot of situations but you also control how you react to the situations.Good Luck.

Answer 10

I am 15 years old now and i had a problem similar to yours up until 8th grade. (I'm going to 10th now) I was kind of shy and popular people intimidated me. I finally realized that people had to like who I am or i didnt care anymore.. i ended up with homecoming queen...

you're problem not quite like that? well, i have some home-schooled friends that i met through sports and my cousin is homeschooled and very involved with extra-curriculars.

i've learned that there are just a few important factors to making good friends...
1)be nice to everybody.. i mean EVERYBODY you're enemies, the "dorky" people
2)be yourself
3)dont be shy

good luck

Answer 11

Well as far as I can tell being 14 in general causes unhappiness. Just hang in there and be happy being 14. Things do pick up as you get older, I swear!