I can't seem to carry a good conversation for a long amount of time, we'll say a few things then we'll have one of those awkward silent moments. How can I be more interesting so more people will want to talk to me? what kinds of stuff can I talk about?
2006-07-12 14:55:57 · 19 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I have this problem sometimes, too. (Who hasn't?) One of the best ways I can think of to rid that horrible "silence" is to ask better questions. Sometimes people ask questions that only require a yes or no answer. The person being asked really doesn't have that much else to say but yes or no (usually). However, if you ask questions that require more of a response, you're more likely to show that other person that you're interested and want to continue a conversation. Some questions like where were you born (pretty obvious), to asking if they know of any good restaurants, or even engaging them in questions about their work or hobbies incites people to want to respond. The questions don't have to be elaborate or cute. Just be engaging and interested in the other person. They'll most likely return the questions to you, and before you know it, you're rubbing elbows!
2006-07-12 15:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by Playwright Extraordinaire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well when ur with ur girlfriends talk about guys u think are cute and new clothes and lets say u are out and you see some one u think is cute (alwayz wear a cute outfit no matter what) "accidently" run into them and be like im sorry and if he looks at u just be like hi then he will say hi then you say you come here alot? then he will answer then u will say i come here all the time i live right down the street or something like that then he will b like oh really then you be like so are you orignally from here or... then he will answer if he says that he is from here than be like oh what highschool did you go to? then he will say then if u swent there u say stuff about it if you didnt then just say where u went. if he isnt from there than after he tells you where u are from then u should say really ive always wanted to go there (make sure you really know the place so you dont look stupid)... then the rest is history this also works for making frineds but NO FLIRTING
2006-07-12 15:04:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy I can tell that in the beginning it's all about the style, not the subject matter. If you seem really confident and appealing (smile, have a lot of energy/emotion, look good, etc.) then you won't have many awkward moments, because other people will think of things to say to you.
2006-07-12 15:00:38 · answer #3 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to have the same problem. i have always been extremely uncomfortable with people. (and still am)
what i do now is release some tension with a joke. something off the wall to make the other person think. i get quirky so they will remember me. ask random questions, talk about the news...there's old reliable, the weather. just keep it light until something strikes a cord to serious conversation.
eye contact is a big thing. it makes me very uncomfortable. but a trick i use is to "blur" my eyes (like you are looking at one of those 3d art poster things) so you dont have to think about it........the biggest thing is stop thinking.
just BE =)
2006-07-12 15:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by Miss A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just seem not to have an interest in what the conversation is at the time. Change the subject to something you know about.
2006-07-12 15:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by mustanglady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at more TV do more reading find out what peeks that other person's interest...See what they are into and try to keep them talking or make them bring up a conversation.
2006-07-12 14:58:17 · answer #6 · answered by ♫†☼☼♥Natasha♥☼☼†♫ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have that problem too, It depends on the person your talking to, a good conversation should just flow.
2006-07-12 15:05:19 · answer #7 · answered by PYT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to listien more and talk less. Mainly because people love to talk and if they think you will listien they will want to talk to you. Most people shy away from that one person who always must command the attention. Aside from that tidbit, try to become a very observant person. Get to know what they like and they will want to get to know what you like as well.
2006-07-12 15:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by hunteeer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depending on your personality... but im a very outgoing person...i just do and say random things...change the conversation around alot just talk about absolutley anthything..most of the time when you get stuck talk about sumthing that just happend around you..or a show you watched...pick things that will lead to another topic..so it just keeps flowing...hope that helps...
2006-07-12 15:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by curious cat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be like that to..just go with the flow or something..talk about things that your interested in whatever..
2006-07-12 14:59:07 · answer #10 · answered by j_grandison643 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋