starting arguments during pregnancy?
I am 26 weeks pregnant. and my husband just started a new job working 12 hours a night 6 nights a week. hes been at the job two weeks. i have found that i start fights with him over absolutly nothing. is this normal or am i just losing my mind. PLEASE HELP
2006-07-12 14:51:56 · 12 answers · asked by mommy of 2.5 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he works from 6 at night till 6 in the morning i work from 8 in the morning till 4 in the after noon in an office. i only really get to see him for an hour cause he heads to work about 5:20 on his day off he has a drag car and we go to the track and he races and i'm left in the stands to see him between rounds that starts at 12:00 pm and goes until 10 pm and before we go race we have to get every thing ready to take to the track with us
2006-07-12 15:14:18 · update #1
One, you are pregnant and hormonal. Not soooo bad. My husband works 12 hours a day, but only 5 days a week, and sometime I am so lonely and miss him so much I just get a little crazy and pick a stupid fight. Just remember, if you have so little time together, try not to spend it fighting. Especially since once the baby comes along it will be a little harder, and you don't want the baby to have to hear yelling all the time. Good Luck!
2006-07-12 14:57:29 · answer #1 · answered by linds_a_lot 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your body is going through a lot of changes. Right now with your husband being gone at night, you may just be wanting his attention. Step back and look at what you are starting the fights for, over nothing you may just want to take a breath and relax, I am sure that he is tired working 12 hours a night 6 days a week. Hang in there and just start to relax when he is home, let him know that you need a little attention from him and maybe that will not trigger you to start any fight.
2006-07-12 21:56:45 · answer #2 · answered by tweeterbird73 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be because your estrogen levels are much higher than before you were pregnant. If this is your 1st pregnancy I could understand that the changes you are going through could be overwhelming to you. With your husband working 12 hours a day he is not around to give you much support and it would be human
(not fair or rational - but very human) to blame him and be angry at him for not being with you more. He also may be tired when he gets home.
Also, you could be feeling even more overwhelmed by his having to change jobs and be in a scary financial position while you are pregnant.
In this or a similar scenario, you might feel guilty for being angry
at your husband and think it is not fair for you to either tell your husband you're angry or "burden" him with your concerns. A person can not try to hide these feelings for long and they come out in other ways. Anger not expressed in a constructive way, will come out, but not the way you want it to.
Normally, all that is needed to turn things around is to tell your husband what kind of feelings (emotions) you are having in a way that doesn't blame him. Don't try to talk about this as soon as he comes home from work. Wait until he's had a chance to eat or unwind and then ask if it's OK to talk about something.
You can say something like, "Honey, can we talk about something?" --- "I know it's not your fault but I'm having these emotions about the pregnancy and your new job-----"
Some people may tell you that this is "normal" and to not worry about it. It is certainly is not unusual but it is hard on the marriage.
Besides telling him your real emotions, there may be some things the 2 of you can do to help you stop doing this. With your husband being tired and you being pregnant, you may not be having sex as frequently as you did before. This could also be a source of underlying anger that may be affecting you and that the
2 of you may have to have some creative solution to.
God bless the 3 of you. I also have found that asking God directly
for help with an issue and with my marriage was a huge help.
Remember, He loves you and knows what you are going through, and it helps to ask Him for for your needs.
2006-07-12 22:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Smartassawhip 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guessing this argument could be due to the fact you might feel unsupported and deeply miss the guy. Or the problem might be the hormones playing tricks on you.
2006-07-12 21:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by Adrian W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are all out of whack during pregnancy......just as when a woman's on her period.......so yes, starting so-called silly arguments over nothing is perfectly normal.....not healthy, but normal.
2006-07-12 21:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pregnancy makes yer hormones go all outa wack
it is normal...you are not losing yer mind
him working long hours doesn't help, so try a little more affection, it will help
also as yer pregnancy advances, this will pass
congrats and gl
be cool...
2006-07-12 21:59:45 · answer #6 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS NORMAL ITS CALLED HORMONES LOL
yes its normal see your hormonesmake you act a certain way and since your pregnate then of course your gonna be a b****! sorry 2 say its just comes like peeing more and swollen feet and an aching back it just happens all because of that cute bundle of joy inside of you
2006-07-12 21:56:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant, with millions of hormones nothing is normal when you are pregnant.
2006-07-12 21:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by Right Wing Extremist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this reminds me of a story with the loch ness monster. i got him pregnant and my wife was all like "HEY GERALD!!! IS THERE ANOTHER MAN YOU'RE SEEING????" But i told her i wasn't and i told the crazy old monster that i wasnt the father. he said he would drop it if i gave him TREE FIDDY!!!!!!
2006-07-12 21:56:17 · answer #9 · answered by pafpafpug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're haveing what they call mood swings.and yes its all normal.I went through it when i was pregnant.it will get better turst me.by the way congrats!!!!.and good luck
2006-07-12 21:55:40 · answer #10 · answered by Angel sent from heaven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋