I am 26 weeks pregnant. and my husband just started a new job working 12 hours a night 6 nights a week. hes been at the job two weeks. i have found that i start fights with him over absolutly nothing. is this normal or am i just losing my mind. PLEASE HELP!
2006-07-12 14:50:44 · 14 answers · asked by mommy of 2.5 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
he works from 6 at night till 6 in the morning i work from 8 in the morning till 4 in the after noon in an office. i only really get to see him for an hour cause he heads to work about 5:20 on his day off he has a drag car and we go to the track and he races and i'm left in the stands to see him between rounds that starts at 12:00 pm and goes until 10 pm and before we go race we have to get every thing ready to take to the track with us
2006-07-12 15:13:11 · update #1
yes its normal.
its just apart of being pregnant..hormones are nuts..mood swings suck
2006-07-12 14:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by mommy2savannah51405 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal. Your stressed out.. he's gone more than normal.. your not used to it. Thats bound to cause a few arguments no matter what. Now you have pregnancy hormones on top of all that... don't worry about it. You probably resent him a little bit for being gone so much...but you know he is doing it for you and the baby so you don't want to fight about him actually working. So deep down in your mind you find other things to fight about (even if they are totally not worth it) He's stressed too from so much working, so he does not have the energy to avoid the little arguments, like he did before. You probably did not notice but you were nit picking before.. he just side stepped the bate. For every time you have an argument that you can't figure out why you started, try to do something nice for him.. even if it is something really small. It will make you feel better, and make him feel like he is still loved. Remember, your pregnant if nothing else, break down and tell him you are sorry, you don't know whats wrong. He's bound to forgive you.. just on those grounds. Best of luck.. it will get better I promise.
2006-07-12 21:59:31 · answer #2 · answered by manderstwin1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several factors going on right now:
1) Your hormones are whacked from being pregnant.
2) You are not getting quality time with your spouse.
Because of 2) you are not getting your love tank refilled by him very much. This makes you touchy. Add in the hormones and you probably feel like a b*tch.
Take some time to be with him after he gets home from work. Do some extra stuff just to be nice to him. Work at this. Then you will get the quality time you need to keep your sanity and cool.
I did the 12-13 hour day thing for 2 years. Its hard on both of you.
2006-07-12 21:58:18 · answer #3 · answered by lovingdaddyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 37 weeks and my husband has been working 12 hours a night, 5 days a week. It was hard at first and I was very grumpy but I am used to it now. I wake up sometimes at 3a.m. knowing he'll be home soon. It is normal in pregnancy. My husband gets frustrated but he always says " I know, I know.. It's because I'm fixing to be a daddy and your hormones are raging..." There really isn't much we can do about our hormones, although sometimes I wish we could. I didn't like the fact he works so much because he sleeps during the day and I felt like I would have to take care of the baby and the housework by myself but he has been very good at helping around the house.
2006-07-12 21:58:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21 weeks pregnant and I have fought more with my bf in the past 5 months than I ever thought was humanly possible, he works and goes to school at night so I definetly can relate to your situation, just try to remember that he is stressed to and try to be grateful that you have a man in your life that is working so hard for your family, e-mail me if you need to chat.
2006-07-12 22:16:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is all normal, your hormones are out of control. I did the same thing while I was pregnant. Alot of it is probably nerves especially if it is a first pregnancy. After the baby is born everything will return to normal. Then you will have a baby to worry about.
2006-07-12 22:00:18 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal,called hormones...but cut it out, cause you have a long way to go...now that you realize your mood swings try to control them....
let this be a memorable occasion,it can be beautiful and these are the moments you remember during life...I have been pregnant twice and I remember being super sick but then when I look at the pictures,it makes me miss the specialness of the moment...as women we are very lucky to be able to experience this,though you may not feel it at this time...lol...best wishes...
2006-07-12 21:54:06 · answer #7 · answered by crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not one to say, but if a monthly cycle can cause a change in attitude, then I'm pregnancy definitely can in it's own ways! Just keep reminding your hubby that in several month that will be all over...then other fun begins that you both get to share. ; )
2006-07-12 22:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by Indigo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a man who is married with children I say yes
You are under stress and hormones can kick in. You want your man home to be with you. That's normal, BUT he is doing what he needs to do for his FAMILY. So if you realize this you can fix it.
GOOD LUCK
2006-07-12 21:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by danzka2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal. Try to step away, count to 50 in a locked room. And try again. It's hard but when you are not screaming at him, reassure him that you love him and blame it on the pregnancy.
2006-07-12 22:03:03 · answer #10 · answered by JulyBaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are irritated because he is working so much and you are probably wondering if he will be doing this when the baby gets here, also I bet you are having to carry the burden of all the housework etc.
2006-07-12 21:55:43 · answer #11 · answered by Kryztal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋