me and my Ex. have been broke up for a long time now. but i like him again and i think he likes me . well we talked and got in a fight b cuz he wuz flirting , so i flirted back and well all the sudden he said , hey meet my girlfriend. and my heart automaticly stopped and i felt horrible , now every time im signed on the yahoo messenger and he signs on i get exited ( dont ask me why ) and then when he signs off with out saying sorry or even hi ! i get sad. and i dont know why of that either b cuz he already broke my heart ... i just cant stop caring for him ... can you help me ?
2006-07-12 14:28:57 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have to cut yourself off or you will never get over him. Believe me. The sooner you let him go, the happier you will be.
Stop trying to make contact with him.
You deserve better.
Get a new yahoo name for the messenger and don't let him know what it is.
You are only prolonging your pain. He has already let you go.
2006-07-12 14:54:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all I jus wanna tell u that you're not alone! I know people in your position and this is perfectly normal! I think that u and your ex should just take a break 4 a while. You've been hurt so many times and u need time to heal. You have 2 decide if u really love him and if it's all worth it. If he does love u than he'll fight 4 u and he'll go that extra mile just to show u that he does. So try the single thing 4 a while or jump back into the dating pool with a better understanding of what needs 2 be done. You are worth more than this and u don't need a man 2 make u happy!
2006-07-12 14:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by sweet1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to my ex. She cannot get over me. Freaks me out because I am just a man like any other man. Nothing more, nothing less. Our relationship was good in a lot of ways but far less than what either of us deserve in many others. I love her and care for her but the relationship has definite limits that are preventing total intimacy.
We have hooked up for physical intimacy a few times since we've broken up and it is amazing when we do. But that doesn't fix the parts of the relationship that don't work.
I took her to liunch a couple of weeks ago and told her that her problem is that she is counting on me to make her happy. And that is impossible because ultimately she is responsible for her own happiness. She actually thanked me for the honesty and seems to be doing better without me.
2006-07-12 14:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but no. It sounds like the relationship is in the past. Now you've just got to give it the time it needs to start afresh. Easier when you take a break from messenger maybe and any other little trigger reminders. Good luck and hang in there.
2006-07-12 14:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by dignifiedcollapse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a player. Delete him from your friend list so you won't be put through those emotions. He probably gets a rise out of messing with you. If he's flirting with you while he's got a girl, he'd probably be flirting if he was with you as well.
There was a reason you broke up in the first place. Can you remember what it was? Could you live with yourself if the same thing happened again?
Life is too short to be stuck on ******* who get off on messing with you!
2006-07-12 14:34:01 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds immature, and insecure. You don't have time to be dealing with his lil boy games.Love him from a distance, I know it would be hard. It take strong girl to this, you have to love and respect yourself. Some guys know what to do to hurt you. All you have to do is act like you don't care know more. When you see them together speak to both of them. Then he will see that you don't care. This will tear his insides up. He probably try to find you what you are too. If you he stills like you. Don't give in too easy, because he might just be trying to see if you still have feelings for him.
2006-07-12 14:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, I have had alot of experience and i have read this really great book that might help you with guys. its called "hes just not that into you." it will explain alot of situations to you about relationships and what to look for. and by experience i have to say if he has a girl friend he is off limits. you wouldnt want another girl after your guy would you? but until then if he becomes single again watch and see how interested he acts. and dont call him. if he actually wants you he will call you. well... this is all im going to say for now but i really recomend all girls that is dating or crushing on a guy to get that book. it helped me so much. good luck
2006-07-12 14:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by spastik_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one he doesn't car about you. It seems to me he wants to use you for when the other girl is no where to be found. Trust me move on. He probably knows that you still care for him and will take him back. Don't fall for victim because guaranteed he will brake your heart again when it's time for the next girl To appear. Try introducing him to your new boy friend.
Good Luck on your decision.
2006-07-12 14:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound awfuly young. You need to let go and occupy yourself with your friends and other activities and you need to delete him from your online message board what you can't see won't bother you. Stop obsessing over him it only interferes with your life. Love yourself enough so you can be happy with you and everything else will fall into place. If this is interfereing with your life you may want to consider a counselor there may be other issues here
2006-07-12 14:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by Shellie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The things we want most out of life are sometimes the things that are not at all good for us. It seems to me that each of you are not ready for each other but at the same time do not want the other to be with any one else. It is hard letting go but it could be for the best unless you want to go threw life fighting with each other all the time.
2006-07-12 14:34:28 · answer #10 · answered by justduh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋