I have problems w/ my mom...?

Question

i have had only one bf, and i am still with him, and i get good grades, gpa is often around 3.9 -4.0 but my mom is always pressuring me and i have come to the point where i am debating whether or not i want to live, the only thing holding me up is my bf. and i have tired to ignore what my moms says but it isn't working.
i'm gonna be a juinor in high school, and i need a way to cope with my mom for the remander of the 2 years without killing myself((yes i have issues but i have been facing abuse from her since the 7th grade)) so can u guys give me sum advice PLZ!!!

Answer 1

wow. you sound a lot like me. im going to be a sophmore thought. I go through the same things with my mom. only its both her and my father. Whenever i feel like killing myself or hurting myself i call my boyfriend. crying. and im like baby. i need help. please stop me. Your the only one keeping me alive. and he helps me get through it. just knowing hes there makes me feel better. and when i cant find him. i sit and listen to music and try to get away from my family. or just write it out. and if you ever have a day when you need someone to talk to, you can email me, or if you have AIM msg me. shrtnsweet542

<3 Ally

Answer 2

Well, you're still very young and you have alot to look forward to in life. Death is not a great choice at all. Have you tried sitting down with your mom and talking with her? The key word in that sentence is "WITH" her ... not to her. Ask her if the two of you can sit down and discuss your grades and other things going on in your lives. Let her know that you're working hard in school and trying to make her happy and proud. Does she know about your boyfriend? If not, tell her a guy asked you out and you told him yes and let her know you want to talk with her about that. Let her know that your not interested in becoming "active" you just want a boyfriend, you are at that age now. Ask her if you can have a boyfriend as long as your grades stay up. Explain to her that you will continue to work hard and will try so hard not to let the guys get in the way of that. If there are other things ya'll are having problems with, you need to talk about those too. You will be surprised at how much you can solve by talking and compromising. If you start showing her that you're are maturing & being more responsible, maybe she will start letting you do more things. Help out around the house and don't yell or talk back. I know that's so hard sometimes... trust me! But it really does work. Maybe your mom keeps after you because she doesn't want you to fail in life but doesn't realize that she is pressuring you. Stop ignoring her because that right there is part of the problem. If none of this helps you any, maybe you two need to see a counsler... even if it's the school counsler.

Good luck girl and PLEASE don't choose death as an easy way out!!!!!

Answer 3

If you are that smart then you must know what abuse really is, and wanting your children to do well in school and keep their marks up and "pressuring" children isn't abuse.

If she really IS abusing you (physically as verbal abuse is very hard to prove) you could call Social Services and have them place you in a foster home. Make damn sure that's what you want before you make that call though cause once you take that step there's no going back.

If she's just annoying then you better find a way to get along with her and deal with her cause I can guarantee you that you are going to run into a lot of people in your lifetime that are WAY more difficult than your mother is.

Answer 4

This, my friend, is called life. Most of use went though it when we were your age. Don't kill yourself. That would be kind of silly, because if you have good grades and a good b/f then it sounds like you're doin' okay. Moms and dads can be annoying and REALLY irritating. Just go with the flow and continue to do good in school. I couldn't wait to get away from my step mother either. She probably sees that you're doing good in school and socially and she wants to make sure you stay on track. Parents are like that. Just take a deep breath and take everything in stride. Life only gets more stressful so learn to roll with it and appreciate what is good.

Answer 5

Honey I'm sorry to hear about the abuse,Don't give up on your life you are here for a reason so let me give you a few scriptures okay


Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,saith the LORD,thoughts of peace,and not evil,to give you an expected end.

Psalm 90:12 So teach us to number our days that we may apply our hearts unto wisdom.

Psalm 71:5 For thou art my hope,O Lord GOD:thou art my trust from my youth.

And Know everyday won't be the same,just hold on chance & change is coming for the good of you both. Plus we parents aren't above mistakes try to forgive & Love regardless of our many faults {SMILE}

Read Your Bible Everyday.

Answer 6

My thing is this. Don't hate her for the way she treats you but try moving out with a relative or speaking to her about the problem. Make sure you tell her how you feel. If she can't understand maybe try something else. Killing yourself wont solve anything. You won't be doing anything but hurting the ones you love and the ones that love you.

Answer 7

talking to your friends helps me a lot and even talking to your mom should help too. do things because YOU want to. write a letter to your mom explaining EVERY thing you have been feeling in detail. you do have to live with her being you mom for . . . EVER! try writing a book or poems (they get a lot out of your system and help to cope). always remember to have fun and how you wouldn't want to miss collage. Those years truely are the best years of your life. dance and sing a lot. stay close to your bf and make a stand in your life. i hope this helps a little.

Answer 8

if you kill your self then how do you think your boyfriend would feel/???It would be easy for you to leave this life but your boyfriend will be left with out you in his. and your mother would be heart broken as your boyfriend and other people;
give it a real good thinking over.
I feel you don;t have a bad life as much as you think and say you do. and I don't think you can handle pressure very well either.
Think about your boyfriend .. please..
And your family . you may not care for your Mother but you have other family also ..

Answer 9

Hang in there, you only have a couple of years left of school. Maybe, you can talk to a counselor or therapist to get some help.

Answer 10

Oh sweetheart,

have you talked to a counselor?? or someone there like a womens group for abuse?? that can help you with your issues too and with your mom as well. no one has to know your going and it free. just check under domestic violence groups and it wi;ll help you too. it hard being a teenager.