I've been with my boyfriend for almost a year, I'm 5 months pregnant and miserable. In the begining my boyfriend was amazing, everything I ever wanted in a man, he smart , funny, romantic, loving, you could tell he wanted to give me the world, he would say things that melted my heart. There were some red flags I over looked though; He lived with his mom, he liked to spend alot of time on the computer, he didn't have a job, oh and he just got out of jail for felony robbery. But in a very short period of time he got it together and now hes working and owns his house which I just moved into. We found out I was pregnant very early and pretty much from the moment he found out things have been rocky, i found out he was cheating on me with his best friends girlfriend and all of a suddenthis retired partier wanted nothing more than to go out partying, I have tried to forgive him for cheating on me but I'm having a really hard time trusting anything he says, i want to be happy. can I be?
2006-07-12 14:06:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
this guy doesn't "do" responsibility unless he gets to choose which ones he will take.Tell him life is NOT a buffet and you were NEVER on the menu as his own personal appetizer! See a lawyer about child support.And run-do not walk- away! Many women raise their kids alone these days. He will not stop cheating,no matter how bad you wish he would.Is he REALLY the guy you want as a role model for your baby?
2006-07-12 14:17:45 · answer #1 · answered by Maw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lovely when others judge.....
However you have made some big decisions that now will follow you for life. But you are soooooo not alone. I have a 17 year old daughter that came about in a very similar situation. All I can say is he may get better & grow up later (seriously don't count on this), but you have to take steps to take care of yourself now. Check with your good friends or family that might be willing to take you in until you can get out again on your own. Yes someday you will be happy, especially with the wonderful life coming to you. But also let yourself be sad & know it's the end of this relationship so you can get on with the rest of your life.
2006-07-12 14:21:47 · answer #2 · answered by Erika F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you have learned a valuable lesson the hard way. It is abundantly clear (and you should have seen this long before now) that he dose not have your best interest at heart. In other words...HE DON'T LOVE YOU! Even if he did...who needs that kind of self gratifying love?
Now comes the hard part. You are going to have to pick yourself up and began to start loving yourself. More than that, you now have to prepare yourself for your upcoming child. This is where your attention and responsibilities are most important. If you continue with him, you will always be mistreated and under appreciated.
You absolutely cannot settle for this.
Please,for your child's sake, wake up . Be determined to begin upgrading your life for the better. It is not too late. You can do it For your sake, you must.
2006-07-12 14:26:53 · answer #3 · answered by Robere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply..........NO!!!!!!!!!
you will never be happy.......not with a person you cant trust.
and where is the RESPECT in this relationship.
He has none for you.
And he will have none for the child.
Have your child....be happy that you have a healthy child.....take care of that child
the right man WILL come along.....really he will
one looser doesnt make them all that way
and by the way.......stay away from the inmates/offenders
you have nothing to gain at all by being with someone like that
but you DO have alot to loose
child being the number one thing
2006-07-12 14:11:16 · answer #4 · answered by sapphirenplatinum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will when your ready to fight for your family or walk away as a single mom these are two really tuff roads you have here , you don't need stress now
2006-07-12 14:11:11 · answer #5 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh well
Shoulda married him before letting him in
No surprise he wants out now
2006-07-12 14:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad for you.
seems like everytime it gets rough, he wants out, just out.
all you have to do is move on. be happy with what you have, your baby. if he matures with time, realize what he has done, he might come back to you.
HUGS!
2006-07-12 14:13:57 · answer #7 · answered by muah12000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it about the kid now, so let him go and prepare to take care of the child.
2006-07-12 14:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by cmac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
apparently he's a loser!
Leave him. The kid deserves better. so do you.
2006-07-12 14:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by james h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not nice of him sorry
2006-07-12 14:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by Harold T 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋