My wife just caught me with another woman. But the way that she found out I was with her is that she showed up at her house so that SHE could sleep with her!!!
Is it cheating if my wife is cheating on me with the same woman?
2006-07-12 13:42:49 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did it feel like cheating? Was it something you felt you should hide from your wife?
Yes?
Then yeah! it's cheating.
What she was doing was besides the point...it doesn't excuse you from doing something that you KNOW was wrong. Just as your behaviour doesn't excuse her from doing what she did. I don't even want to speculate about the moral fibre of the mutual "other woman". Twisted little minx, isn't she? lol
Anyway. You should both be ashamed of yourselves. Just both of you say you're sorry, kiss and make up. Start over from the beginning. I have no idea what issues you both have that has caused you to seek an answer outside of your relationship, but if you strip away all the crap that you've done to one another - cancel it out and never hold it agains one another again - you might find that you still love the person inside. If you don't, then consider yourselves lucky: you just saved yourselves years of pointless mediocrity, because you can go your separate ways. But if you still love one another, the only thing limiting your marriage's ability to heal is your own stubbornness and pride. If you can both agree to truly LET IT GO, and just get back to the basics [just stick to the golden rule...get honest and stay honest], your relationship can heal.
2006-07-12 14:32:17 · answer #1 · answered by intuition897 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It's cheating. And when it comes to feelings, forget your heart. What does your stomach, your gut, tell you? Better an honest crappy grade than an A received by cheating. Even if you knew the answer, the intent and the action were both still there. The good news is you don't ever have to do it again. Good luck, and learn to love knowledge :) it is a friend that will always be with you.
2016-03-27 03:06:08 · answer #2 · answered by Brianna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you call it a three some no, if it was just "the other woman" and your wife or you then yes! I would say if all three of you are already doing it with each other why not try all three at the same time? You never know you may like it and it might help your relationship at the same time! Enjoy!!
2006-07-12 13:48:37 · answer #3 · answered by ~Amanda~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both were cheating on each other, I would suggest that you to have a long talk find out why each other strayed , if its excitment you both need and this other woman is all for it then bring her in the picture for both of you to enjoy Good Luck
2006-07-12 13:58:19 · answer #4 · answered by twistedsingle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, Yeah! You were cheating on each other. Doesn't matter if it's with the same person. Unless you have an "open marriage" or are swingers or something, you two are both cheating.
2006-07-12 13:46:28 · answer #5 · answered by fiestyredhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-12 13:50:01 · answer #6 · answered by adkfoaiefnafedw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2006-07-12 13:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by alexandriasam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose technically you are both cheating. However, if you both like the same woman maybe this is an opportunity to invite her to join the both of you :-)
2006-07-12 13:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by CP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You still cheated. That does not dimish her wrong doing though. If you want out now is the time. If not, you two need some serious counseling.
2006-07-12 13:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Jo Mo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah because my definition of cheating is when you are not with your mate whether boy or girl.
But I honestly do believe thats cheating and thats just my opinion
2006-07-12 14:27:56 · answer #10 · answered by K.L.C. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋