I wanted some suggestions for my wife. I cheated on her and she found out, so I want to know how to tell her to forgive and forget.
2006-07-12 13:35:33 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You guys misunderstood. I don't need things for ME to do. I need things to tell HER to do.
2006-07-12 13:46:39 · update #1
Does she not realize that the only reason you did it was for her...? So you could learn new things to keep her happy and satisfied... What a cruel woman she must be to not appreciate the effort on your part to keep her happy. Some women are so selfish! You poor man!
2006-07-13 06:29:40 · answer #1 · answered by Pat 2 · 4⤊ 8⤋
She is still with you, so that is a good sign, she will never forget, but in time she will forgive, you have to make her trust you again, and thats an effort, a woman needs to be reassured that she is loved, take it slow, if you both love each other time will eventually heal the wounds. Best of luck.
2006-07-12 20:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jewell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First things first, you can't tell her to forgive, or forget what you've done. That's something she has to choose for herself, and pressuring her into it will only make things worse in the long run.
I suggest that you consider couples counseling, you've broken her trust and the only way to begin to regain it is if you show her that you believe what you did was wrong, and you're willing to do whatever it takes to ensure that it doesn't happen again.
But if that's not what you're looking for, I strongly suggest that you both read David Lieberman Ph.D. The site for, I believe, his newest book is:
http://www.makepeacewithanyone.com
Good luck, hope this helps.
2006-07-12 20:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by B_O_C_K_S_C_A_R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, cheating is not something your forgive. If I were her I would not forgive you, I would advise her to leave you. Sorry if this does not help, but I believe if you play you pay, and once a cheater
always a cheater.
2006-07-12 21:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mx2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are in the position to tell your wife anything. You might ask that she forgive you but I doubt that she will ever forget.
2006-07-12 20:40:16 · answer #5 · answered by mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok my husband cheated on me. do NOT tell her forgive and forget she will never forget trust me on this one. just make sure you are not being a jerk about it. that being said the only thing you can do is rebuild your relationship and give it time. good luck. hope you learned your lesson.
2006-07-12 20:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't going to help the situation if you "tell" her to forgive and forget. Apologise, tell her you're sorry. Don't do it again and tell her that you won't.
It is up to her to forgive, and she may never forget.
2006-07-12 20:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From one that just found out my own husband is cheating although not sexually, it is going to take her time. Let her vent, let her cry, let her yell, but make sure she knows that you are there for the long haul if that is what you want. She is goign to be suspicious for quite a while, bear with her, she has to do what she has to do......
2006-07-12 20:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by crazy J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You betrayed her and stabbed a "knife" deep into her heart. Forgive? You think a simple "sorry" fixes that? The truth is, and you know it is true, that you would have continued if she had not found out. You are not really sorry you hurt her. You are sorry you got caught.
2006-07-12 20:41:17 · answer #9 · answered by pshdsa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her im so sorry for what i did i love you more than the person i cheated on and say i wish yuo still love me because i love you more than anything in the world i hope you forgive
2006-07-12 20:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you want is a way to tell your wife to get over it without having to face the punishment for your own crime. Really crappy way to treat a relationship.
2006-07-12 20:50:34 · answer #11 · answered by Jylsamynne 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋