I recently found a "Burn Book", where she and her friends were making fun of other girls and being very cruel. I'm trying to think of a way to make her see how wrong this is.
2006-07-12 12:59:35 · 8 answers · asked by missymoomer1 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
maybe you could make a book about her. have things in there like, 'she can't controll herself, too bad she doesn't have true friends, i hate the way to walks, she wears ugly clothes....' they don't have to be true, just partly true so they hit close to home.
i know this sounds horrible, but maybe she needs a bit of her own medicine? often you can't understand how nasty your behavior is until someone else delivers it to you.
maybe you could make the book and leave it around somewhere that you'll know your daughter will find it. then maybe you could have a little sticky note in it on the bottom of the page explaining what you've done, that you don't mean it, and that you hope that she's learned a lesson. then i would sign it with love and an invitiation to go get ice cream or something? while you're with her you could explain that hurting others isn't only bad for others but it's bad for her. people don't like other people if they think that they are slicing them when they turn their back, and it's usually easy to tell when something like that's happening, explain that principle to her.
finally, i might make a book with her about other people. but make this one about positive things.
just an idea.
oh! you don't have to use my idea, but i would confront her on her behavior somehow. people may say, 'she'll grow out of it.' she won't! she'll stop making burn books, instead she'll be reputedly known as the harsh gossip.
2006-07-12 13:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk to her. Make her feel guilty. Punish her for it.
A kid looks to a parent for guidance. If you don't put your foot down, shes gonna keep up that behavior. I know I sound like a very conservative christian old lady, but thats pretty true. Whenever I look back on my childhood, I notice kept doing the wrong things that I wasn't punished for. Maybe she doesn't know just how wrong this is. Perhaps you should have a bonding night and watch mean girls? I believe theres a burn book in that plot and it causes alot of trouble. Once you watched it, try to guilt the fact that she has a burn book outta her (if she doesn't know you know) if you do know, try talking to her about how bad it is.
2006-07-12 20:11:14 · answer #2 · answered by Donnie Dragon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried asking her how she would feel if she was on the other end of the cruelness? There is also the good old adage from the bible about Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. It seems that raising children in this day and age is one of our biggest challenges if not the biggest. I commend you on asking for help.I have gone to my pastor many times for advice it helps. Ask her if the other girls eat dog doo would she too. I have done that with my ten year old to try and make the point it does help to a point. It is harder when they want to feel a part of the group. What about if they jumped off of a cliff? Just some ideas I hope it helps even a little bit. Good Luck and I will keep you in my prayers.
2006-07-12 20:09:15 · answer #3 · answered by wolfy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she suspect you are on to what she is doing? Try talking to her about hurting other people's feelings and ask her if she would like someone else to write bad things about her. But don't say anything about the burn book or else she might get angry before you can help her get out of the problem.
2006-07-12 20:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Jina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her to a homeless shelter or food kitchen and make her volunteer a few hours a week. Show her there are less fortunate ppl and having this and that and being popular doesn't mean crap compared to the lives of the ppl she'll see. it will wake her up and make her appreciate her life more and look differently on all ppl.
2006-07-12 22:31:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can teach her a lesson by giving her cheaper things to wear. She would learn her lesson in the long run through Karma. She would therefore grow out of it.
2006-07-12 20:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think promoting empathy is very important as children grow. Maybe talking to her about the other side of bullying and abuse would help?
2006-07-12 20:08:38 · answer #7 · answered by She 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
smack the hell out of her. may do her some good.
2006-07-12 20:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋