Do you think women are taking too much power away from men?

Question

I'm really not a feminist. I'm glad women can have jobs and vote, but sometimes I think we lost a lot in the women's movement too. Men don't seem to know what their place in society is anymore. Maybe I'm just a romantic or a traditionalist, but I think that men should be the heads of the family. They should be the spiritual leaders of their family and if they are good men they will know to listen to their wives and respect them, anyway. These days women ask men out, some even propose to them. Women chose to have children even if their spouse isn't ready yet. Is this productive? Why not let men have control of certain things? Society seems to be imbalanced the other way now, where women have too much power and men feel powerless. What do you think?

Only thought-out responses please. If you just want the points, just type "pass".

To answer someone's question: I'm 28 years old.

To clarify on a few other points: I just think women are trying to do too much. Not that they shouldn't be able have all the freedoms that we have gained through the women's movement, but that we shouldn't take all the power away from men IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.

Answer 1

I have to agree with you.

I notice men getting a little confused about where their place is. And unable to make decisions for their families and whatnot. Almost like they need to have someone else pushing them along. I’m not saying all men are like this by no means, but I notice it happening more and more. I think men being able to make independent decisions in the best interest of their family and spiritual things, is very important.

Respecting their wives and talking about decisions is great, giving both the man and the woman a chance lay their idea’s out and compromise. But nowadays it almost seems like some men are afraid of making wrong choices and mistakes, to the point where they give up and don’t make decisions at all.

Hope I’m not sounding too confusing, nevertheless, I definitely agree with you. Men need to have a stable place and be exactly what they are, MEN. Both are very intelligent beings, just at different things huh?

Answer 2

Women Have Too Much Power

Answer 3

I say women or men, whatever the gender, may the best person win. It is irrelevant who is in control, matter of fact nobody should feel POWER over another. Women have really reached hard and far to achieve and we still make less in our salaries, get put down for wanting to raise our children. Nobody should dictate to their partner, love is a two way street and mutual respect. Men have had control for hundreds of years, they need to pull their egos out of their butt and realize we are just as capable in many areas. There should be NO HEADS OF FAMILIES. If the world concentrated on treating all the family members with dignity, respect, kindness and love there would be less problems with divorce and kids running astray! I don't feel just because a man brings home the paycheck he is the boss either, it is a full time job taking care of a home, kids and life daily. I say equality is the answer to a lot of problems!

Answer 4

Yeah, my dad has said the same thing or along the same lines, and I kind of understand. Well, also his point is that for some reason people feel like they have to have more money than they did in his time, so women go out and work, and the kids have to be watched by someone else or not at all. Then more stress is added to the family. I kind of understand his points. If I were more of a 'family oriented type of person' then I would take his words to heart, but I'm just a wandering stone....so no big deal to me.

Answer 5

You obviously have a Biblical perspective on things. I've never heard anyone in the U.S. argue that men should be the "spiritual" leaders of the family unless they're Christians.

Aside from the fact that many people don't believe in the spiritual "law" supposedly set down by the Bible, I believe that men are more likely to be abusive with power than women. Men are more prone to use power for the purpose of acquiring more power, while women are more prone to use power for the benefit of many people. History shows that it really is true that men tend to enjoy asserting power while women tend to enjoy nurturing.

Given that, I would say that women do not have enough power. If they had more power, the world would be a much more peaceful and healthy place.

Answer 6

Well, here's the sweet part for you. The feminist movement, while fraught with propaganda, has given you the option. If you would like to find yourself a manly man, who will tell you what to do and somehow still listen to you, you can. Other girls are similarly free to find men who will treat them however they want. Back in the day before all this began, the options were more limited.

On the other hand, I don't for a minute believe that the Women's Rights movement is responsible for weak men. There have always been more weak men than strong men (emotionally and physically, even less who are strong in both). There always will be. Weak men would like to blame their weakness on their mothers, but that's just because it's a trait of their weakness not to accept responsibility for their own actions. Look for stronger men, they're out there.

Answer 7

You make some good points. The problem is that too many men do not respect women in the first place. They grow up taking women for granted, acting like women were put on this earth to give them everything they want. Is it any wonder that women take whatever control we can get? Women were created equal not inferior.
On a personal note, my husband makes twice as much as I do but is really bad at budgeting so I am the one who controls the check book.

Answer 8

We dont want respect. We want to be equals. Why do men need control of certain things? Equality is still a long ways off. Woman bring home 50% of the income, and stilll are responsible for 90% of the housework and all the cooking and most of the childcare. But I have hopes for a more equal tomorrow.

Answer 9

Wish I knew how old you are.. I'm a 65 year old man and you sound like you just about my age.....Read This (WEMON ARE PEOPLE TOO!!) I think wemon have the right to do anything they can..wemon are just as smart as men and in some cases alot smarter..Sweetheart men dont feel powerless they are jellous that a woman can do things with out them..For years men could tell wemon you do this or I'm cutting out, Now days the woman can tell them tough crap, take off, I dont need this..GOOD FOR THEM My wife and I are married 45 years and I never thought of her anyway except as my equal...I could be all wet but sure think your living in the past and very very wrong... ROB

Answer 10

Only if the man allows power to be taken from him. The men I know have no misunderstanding about their place in society. The family as a unit requires both male and female have equal footing and common ground to build on. Woman that take or attempt to take control over a man usually demasculate him and are only interested in what they need or want!