see my paents r getting a divorce and I have to choose which parent to live with but dont know how to choose which one!
2006-07-12 12:36:29 · 16 answers · asked by love_basketballgurl09 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would like to know what is your age. Try choosing the most responsible. I wish you luck.
2006-07-12 12:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You DON'T need to choose one over the other. Have them both. Tell them both that you don't want to make that choice. You should not have that to worry about with all that is going on in your life. Divorce is very painful at any age. I am divorced and my 13 year old didn't want to make that choice so I didn't make her and now she's as happy as she ever was. He father and I would fight over her until we realized how much that hurt her. It all worked out for us in the long run.. Good luck!!
2006-07-12 19:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by mandmhill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No child should ever be put in this situation.. tell them u dont want to chose.. that u didnt chose for them to get married, u didnt chose for them to get a divorce.. so this is one they need to chose that you will not hurt either of their feelings because they want to be selfish and not realize how badly their hurting your feelings by 1. getting a divorce and 2. putting the stress and pain on you to have to pick between the two of them.. if they cant willing decide, then they need to have a judge decide that you are tired of being trapped in the middle of their divorce.
2006-07-12 19:44:02 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm guessing it is not a civil split? If I were you, I would choose whichever one would cause less disturbance to your life. You need as little change as possible to get through this hard time.They will probably each hate the other no matter WHAT you choose---don't let them play you.
Good luck to you, from a divorced Mom.
2006-07-12 19:44:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this must be really hard for you and im sorry you have to go through it. But like its been said before, follow your feelings. Although it will be hard for one parent to understand why you chose the other, it doesn't mean you love them the less or that you dont care about them. Follow your heart, think about what parent will provide you with more stability ..
2006-07-12 19:54:55 · answer #5 · answered by GC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should choose based on what you feel is BEST for you. Not what is right or wrong. Don't worry about hurting someone's feelings, they are the ones putting you in this situation in the first place.
2006-07-12 19:43:09 · answer #6 · answered by Cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would look at your life first, where you want to go to school, where you want to live. Then explain to the other parent why you made that decision and spend the summer with them. They should consider your best interest first. Wish you all the best!
2006-07-12 19:45:37 · answer #7 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on several things, 1st how old are you? you cant go by
who do you think loves you more, because im sure they both love you. i suggest that since you had no say for when they got married or divorced --let them choose one more thing for you, who you live with.
2006-07-12 19:44:57 · answer #8 · answered by ecatrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which parent do you feel loves you the most? Which parent do you think is most stable? Which parent do you think is least crazy? Which parent has been the most kind to others?
THAT IS THE PARENT YOU SHOULD CHOOSE!
2006-07-12 19:40:05 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My firend's parents are divorced and they are having turns to meet my friend in the summer he stays with his mom for school..
2006-07-12 19:42:04 · answer #10 · answered by Danny K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋