why is it that when you have been abused as a child, you tend to get involved in abusive relationships?

Answer 1

Lots of people get involved in abusive relationships. If you have been brought up in a fairly normal home then tou will realise that the treatment you are getting is not right and most people will opt to get out. If however you have been brought up in an abusive atmosphere it is possible that you could see that as normal and just put up with the abuse.

To be abused is not the norm and should not be accepted. As somone has already said if you are talking about yourself get some counselling.

Answer 2

As a child, we learn things fast and unfiltered.Similary, behaviours are learned in that manner.
Depending on whether you are involved in an abusive relationship as the abused person, or as the abusing person.
If you are still being abused, likeliness is that you had adopted the behaviour of being a 'silent sufferer' when you were abused as a child.
You may not think it is normal to be abused, yet you do have a problem in expressing this 'pain'. Perhaps that is the only response you know.
There is a known behaviourial pattern that repeats itself in my life, until we truly break that pattern. We seem to attract the similar group of people to our lives (as much as we resented it) until we decide to break that pattern and learn the lesson.
Decide what you want in life, and move forward from there.

Answer 3

That isn't entirely true for all people. I was abused until 9 when I was adopted and have yet to stay in any abusive relationships. I've only been in one incident in my first (and only) marriage, at which time we were close to separating and that put the icing on the cake. I feel as if I put up with enough abuse until I was 9, that I don't deserve any more. I suppose it all depends on a persons self-esteem.

Answer 4

I suppose that up to a certain phase of our life we are bound to suffer the sequels of childlhood abuses, if any. We tend to enact and relive particularly painful events due to some obscure sense of guilt. A case of self-inflicted pain really. But with an effort of our will we should be able to overcome such emotional handicaps and seek and establish relationships based on love, respect and affection

Answer 5

Probably because if you are abused in your formative years this is what you know as being normal, both my mother and I were emotionally abused by my father, I have noticed we both have problems with relationships.

Answer 6

You return time after time to a scar in thought that has healed. Yuo either try to relive the experience to fix it or teach that you survived it. The bottom line is that you end up in this situation and want to teach how to survive it. Take a new course in life. Learn to ride a bike or something take a risk and return to teach another lesson.

Answer 7

If you have put up with abuse at one period in your life (and you can't really avoid it as a child in an abusive home), you are more likely to be willing to put up with it in a later period in your life. You have to remain vigilant and keep your eyes open, have faith in yourself and be willing to remove yourself from an abusive situation. Nobody will do it for you.

Answer 8

I think it is because when we are abused as a child we were so little we could not fight back, and that anger stores inside of you, and when you get angry you let all of that anger out, from your childhood.

Answer 9

I'm not sure it could be for a lot of reasons but in my mind i think it has something to do with associating this sort of treatment with care and love .the strongest emoting you learn when small is supposed to be love but if instead you learn fear, could be sub consciously that's what you go looking for

Answer 10

Talk to a counselor or a Doctor!