Following on from first question 'is she right to be upset'?MEN ONLY TO ANSWER?

Question

Well I think my sis is being too sensitive. She expects people to do everything that she wants. I am not going to fall for her tears. She has been a disgrace to this family. She nearly got sent to prison cos she got obsessed over this white fella who was twice her age and had sex with him too-dirty cow. Then she kept attention-seeking by overdosing …was in a ward of nutters for a few weeks. My mum trusts me; I feel I earn her respect and trust. I can go off traveling as my trusts me…no one can trust my sis. Her problem is that she expects too much of people. The other night she presumed I purposely banged the door and that was whining to me. She really pisses me off so slammed the door again. My sis is a liar, manipulator. I will never forgive her when she punched my tooth out when I was little. She said the other night 'I can't remember doing that we were kids we are adults now’..Yeah Right! I don't trust her. I refuse to lend her my stuff now. I hate her.

I deserve the money…mum swiped money of my three sisters and put it in an AXA account so according to my mum they get that split between four of us. I get the houses to keep as my mum says the ‘boys ‘ family strong. My sis shouldn’t even be talking about this. She should be grateful for what she has. No one forced her to pay. Once she gave my mum £3K for some dogy Indian priest to pray for my dad who is dead. She gave my mum money on her own accord. My mum use to get annoyed with her as my sis use to work in Mcdonalds cleaning toilets and handed the money over to my mum. When she got her first wage packet …she kicked up a fuss as she wanted the money but mum showed her.....that as a family the money should be pooled she was 16 then….I was 10. I don’t give my money away although my mum never asks but always asked my sister. My sis can’t do anything right. A few weeks ago she brought a £5K cross trainer on credit. I said it was a waster but she insisted.

i'm asking this question again...as I would like to get a broad perspective and have a few males answer this as most people answering are women

Answer 1

So WHAT exactly IS your question then? All I've read is whinging about your older sister, but guess what, things like that happen in families, and as the old adage says, 'you can pick your friends, but you cannot choose your family'.

Answer 2

You sound like a git.
I've had a very difficult upbringing with some terrible and abusive family members and quite frankly your attitude sends me back to a very dark place that I spend most of my day trying to just avoid thinking about. So your case sounds like nothing to me.
Maybe you just pleaded your own case very badly but all I hear is an attention craving child who thinks that the world owes him a living.
You call your sister dirty for just having sex with a man.
You have a go at her for giving money to your mum.
You insist that things should just come your way and fall into your lap.
Why.

You make yourself sound like the disgrace.

And the fact that you only want the opinion of men on this speaks volumes.
You're just scared that you may actually be told that you are wrong.
Which makes me think you very probably are.

Answer 3

A family is not what you have there, mate. People in families love each other for a start. You may be related, but that is were family ends for you, because none of you seem to care about each other at all. Maybe you should all just get out of the house, go your own separate ways, and start your own lives without each other. As to money, I hope all the heartache between all of you is worth it in the end.
You know, most children grow up; the others just get taller.
~Because sometimes it is rocket science.~

Answer 4

If this older bloke had not been white would her having sex with him been ok? I really do not know where you are at or what you expect people to say as a reply yeh she knocked one of your teeth out when you where kids ! big deal get over it mate.My mate broke one of my front teeth about 25 years ago but that was an accident mostly my fault but we were just f******g about so that sort of things happen if your brother had knocked it out would that have been ok ? are you just embarassed cos you got a proper slap off a girl so what ? I am three years older than my sis ! she made a fool out of me in front of my mates when I was about 17 years old at that time our house was the meeting place for me and the blokes before we used 2 go out on or bikes for the night this evening I had been having friendly little digs at my sis about her 1980,s hair style it was the 80,s so she did look quite good as at the time she was a double of the blonde singer out of human league but being me and trying to give it large in front of my mates I went 2 far no probs normally but! My friend little sis was like a small she tiger it had never crossed my mind that because I was her brother it would not stop her doing a tasty little sequence of round kicks the first 2 at head high the3rd at lower leg high I went down like a sack of sh*t in front of my biker mates man that is embarasing but she was a black belt in karate & judo and our counties under 50 kg champ which was well over her weight at the time we laugh about it now and did about ten minutes after it happened and she at least helped me up of the carpet but I still love her cos she is my sis so do yourself a favour mate grow up! And think if she has got or has kids in the future you will be their uncle and nephews & nieces can be great fun and if you carry on this feud you will miss out on all that

Answer 5

your hate will consume you from the inside out. causing damage to mind liver kidney's Bowell's and neck and back ache will set in. Not to mention tearing the family apart causing the air to thicken at family gatherings. I think you need to allow compassion into your life. Ya "sis" sounds like she has mental & emotional probs so why keep kicking. And what is your prob with the colour of the mans skin, sounds to me that you have your own personal issues hidden in your text that you need to address. US black excussed.(not excepted but proudly pledge to the flag. spending most of there time doing the work of 3>k)
racial,trust, jealousy, insecurity and a struggle for parent's love over ya sis,
Sort it out,
who is the pretty 1. the darkest. who streightens there hair. the text of this question makes you sound ugly,
jealousy is ugly.
just read someone elses answers and they imply that you are a man. I visualised 1 sis bitching about the other. Is your name myrvin.

Answer 6

Well, if that's the way you, her brother, talk about her, no wonder she's such a mess, she should get lots more love and help from you, no matter what she has done, she's your sister, part of you, part of your mother

AND the male answers thing,well, I just had to say what I think, that's the point of this website.
Seriously, help your sister, you should wonder why she's doing that. ( she's not doing it to you) You'll miss her and feel incredibly guilty if something happens to her, even if it's only for the pain that it will cause to the rest of your family, specially MUM

Answer 7

Wow, you have a great deal of anger. All I can say is no one on the Internet should be answering that exact question and I presume that you did not like what the women had to say to you. You cant live with anger like this forever. You own you're emotions no one else makes you feel them if you choose to hate then hate. I choose to forgive........ and i don't have questions like this one because of it.

Answer 8

Your sister could be suffering with Bi-polar disease. Usually it requires meds from the doctor. People with that problem usually do sporadic things and jump the gun on the simplest of things without thinking them through. Unless they seek treatment, which they will not do, life living with them is like being on a biiiig roller coaster.

Answer 9

How many time do you have to post this question over a week?

Answer 10

ye don't let her be spoilt and end up doing you're chances in for you.but don't be so hard on her either she clearly has mental behaviour problems and she is your sister after all.ezzenow.