I have two kids and the person I've been with for 3 years seems to become distant. I'm not saying I'm innocent in to all the wrongs in this relationship, its just that... We had no money, home or seemingly future. He wanted to get on disablilty and didn't seem to support my ideas. He would stay all day on his game. He has a problem with trust and now that I'm working and am going to college he complains about everything. I feel that he is holding me back and he blames me for not being there. I'm working in the morning and going to college at night. He saids I'm a bad mom and should move back home. Even thou I pay for most of the kids things and have the kids alot at the other place. We now live 4 miles apart and thats is due to lack of transportation. He lost his license and said he would but never taught me to drive. I feel the need to move on and get on life.
2006-07-12 12:20:23 · 7 answers · asked by confuzioncity 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not even really sure why you asked this question. Seems to me you already knew the answer. I guess you just had to have confirmation. You are bettering yourself and he is jealous being a thorn in your flesh. You have to leave him or you will never get your head above water cause he will drown you in his misery. It loves company you know and that is what he wants.
2006-07-12 12:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Dee76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you have been detaching from this person for a while, and it sounds like that's a good thing. Even though you have loved him for a long time it doesn't sound like it has been a healthy relationship. Now that you are becoming a healthier person and more fulfilled, he is threatened by that. If he truly was capable of unselfishness, he would be glad that you are doing good things with your life. Now that you have made that first big step out, don't let him drag you back down. Keep movin forward!
2006-07-12 12:25:08 · answer #2 · answered by keri gee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should continue to move on with your life but take time out for the children, setting times a dates are imperitive, Children need stability and when you have established yourself as a working mum and can support them then you can give yourself a pat on the back and say well done, as for parting from some one you loved for a long time, it will be difficult as you will feel sorry for the person, you will feel like going back lots of times, but stick to your guns and give yourself 12 months and you will feel a much stronger person, I hope this will help.
2006-07-12 12:29:52 · answer #3 · answered by mandy_reilly2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its very hard to part from someone you love so much because of everything you been through together. but some times you must let them go if they don't do nothing for you or your kids. find you a great guy that is willing to help you and support you on your dreams. don't let anyone put you down or take your dreams away from you.
2006-07-12 12:29:28 · answer #4 · answered by Annette A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that this man has been controlling your life. Get rid of him and move on with your life. You sound like you would be better off without him anyway.
2006-07-12 12:29:23 · answer #5 · answered by JUDY F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you need to seperate with him for now but still be friends see other people both of you even if you still love him
2006-07-12 12:27:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does sound like he's holding you back. you have a right to be happy, even if that life is without him.
2006-07-12 12:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Berry Picker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋