my bf is acting really possesive scince we moved back to my home town and he gott in a fight with an old ex what do i do ?
2006-07-12 12:05:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Other - Arts & Humanities
DUMP HIM. You don't need jealousy and possessivness. It's going to ruin your relationship in the long run anyway. End it now. It will end sooner or later anyhow.
2006-07-12 12:09:07 · answer #1 · answered by bittersweet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with him. Ask him what, exactly, has got him all tensed up? Has he decided he cannot trust you? Is he concerned that you two have not made a specific, understandable commitment to one another? Does he feel your love is a sort of contest prize which is constantly up for grabs?
And be sure you ask him for specifics about what behavior he finds acceptable and what not acceptable, because these are not worldwide assumptions. For example, if he is the sort that does not want you to even talk to any male except himself, then he had better earn enough money that you can stay home instead of having a job, because a woman must speak to other men in the course and scope of most jobs.
Does he have a definition of "flirting," and can you pin him down on it? If you are constantly running into old friends from high school, how does he expect you to behave with them? It may be enough if you make a point to mention him (i.e., you are no longer available), and you do not do the hugs and kisses many people find so casual with men, but only with women. You may squeal and hug your old girl friends, but turn and smile and say "good to see you again" to the old boy friends.
Many men are heavily possessive and jealous because they have a guilty conscience. He knows how easy it was for him to find a woman who would be unfaithful to her husband or lover with him, and so he needs to believe all women are like that in order to excuse himself from his guilt in that affair. A man who lies to his woman will often believe she is lying to him. It's a clear case of what goes around comes around.
Don't accuse him directly, which would only make it worse, but listen for symptoms of this sort of thing in the reasons why he is so tense about you.
2006-07-12 12:20:22 · answer #2 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and figure out a bit more
it might be more then it seems
you have to talk with HIM and then ask the outside world
try it
if he's not that kind of person then what are you guys doing together?
a relationship is about being open to each other
if you guys can talk easily, thats great, go for it
good luck
i dont know what to say now
if anything else happens or if i get any details i'll probably think of something for you to do
2006-07-12 12:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by skatergal01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your bf is obviously insecure with himself to be acting like this but also shows he obviously may not trust you. There's being possessive and over the top possessive, Talk to him about it do reassure him but am afraid if he still doesnt change then he certainly needs to look at himself and deal with issues he may have or had in the past.. good luck
2006-07-12 12:13:13 · answer #4 · answered by clubbinbabe30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him and find yourself. Possessive types find weak girls so they can boss them around. Use this as a learning experience 1)to know this type of dude, 2) to not be the kind of girl to attract this type of dude, and 3) avoid this type of dude!
2006-07-12 12:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Pekoe90 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously got a problem, talk to him and try and find out what it is. MAybe he's afraid of losing you? Remember if you cant talk to a partner openly and honestly, then what is the point in being together?
2006-07-12 12:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him reassurance. Let him know how you feel about him. Whenever an old past lover comes about it always is going to make your man jealous. Just let him know that things in the past are going to stay there and that he's the one for you.
2006-07-12 12:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
# 1 you don't need possiveness in a relationship. that's a bad for the relationship. # 2 there's nothing you can do about his ex. watch out for yourself with this guy!!!!
2006-07-12 12:10:51 · answer #8 · answered by susta1951 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him, ask him why he don't trust you, then ask him to trust you let him know exactly how you feel, don't cry or yell,let him know that he can trust you and to give you a chance. if he still doesn't change after you talk to him, then maybe it's lime you let him and found someone that will really appreciate you.Be strong girl
2006-07-12 12:12:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show him back to his old town curb em'
2006-07-12 12:09:38 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋