We ended a 2yr relationship when I moved away from college. She is now with someone else but still calls me every now and again at random times. I never pick up because I feel like she f-ed me over. What is her motovation for calling me when she knows I'm still pissed at the situation. Is she trying to keep me around when her other relationship falls through. Or is she just wanting to be friends. Because I really have no desire to be friends with someone I once loved its too hard for me. Any advice? Talk to her? tell her again I don't like to talk to her? Don't pick up the phone?
2006-07-12 12:00:35 · 22 answers · asked by sackingsfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She is probably just trying to make you jealous. Get with a girl, take some pictures, then send them to her. That should be the end of that.
...but seriously, keep doing what you are doing and not answer the phone.
2006-07-12 12:05:29 · answer #1 · answered by Low Key 6 · 11⤊ 3⤋
Get your balls back. Pick up the phone & tell her to leave you alone & that you'll call her when you are no longer angry & hurt over how she treated you (never?). She is playing a dangerous game with herself & with you. Tell her that you are prepared to get a restraining order against her if she doesn't stop bothering you & the next time she calls, you should call the Police & press charges on her a*s for harassment. She is Stalking you & it will only get worse. She is the worst type of psycho & she is in need of a wake-up call that a few days in jail should cure! First, call your local phone company & ask them to put a trace on your phone line, this way you will have a record of how many times she is calling you when you ask for a free restraining order. She's not going to stop, trust me, I'm a Woman. You need some legal paperwork on this one! She needs the crap scared out of her...she has boundary issues, also known as OCD (Obsessive, Compulsive Disorder). If you really do not want to talk to her, then at least have a Detective call her & read her the riot act!
2006-07-12 12:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. she wants to make sure you are still around when her new relationship is over, or, she feels guilty and won't stop calling you until she knows you have forgiven/forgotten what happened between the two of you.
If you are still pissed at her, just ask her nicely to please stop calling you, that you have not quite gotten over your feelings and that rather than calling you, she should leave you alone, and who knows, maybe one day you will be able to answer the phone and talk to her like nothing happened.
And tell her exactly that, that you can't be friends with her, it might hurt her feelings, but she needs to understand and leave you alone, plus, she has a bf now, what would he think if he knew she is calling you here and there? of how would she feel if it was you doing it to her? maybe meniton that...
2006-07-12 12:11:06 · answer #3 · answered by TANIA M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she is having trouble seperating from you. You were together for a long time and you were a huge part of her life and now she feels lost without you. She may still have feelings for you and if u dont have those feelings be completely honest with her and tell her so! You cant worry about hurting her feelings cuz she will feel better in the long run that u were honest and didnt string her along! if u have to change your phone number! That should give her a clue!
2006-07-12 12:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U better pick up the call once and tell her firmly that U further dont want to get her call anymore and just tell her that there is nothing to talk between U and her. Remember one thing, U dont make a call to her. U just pick up her call. b'coz this type of girls will blame others for all the cause. As you feel it is right, she is trying to keep up with you when other relationship falls down... Surely, once if U've made it clear there'll be no problem. tell her strongly that U are not ready to hear anything from her and just inform not to make calls hereafter.
2016-03-27 03:01:34 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than likely she realizes she messed up when she broke things off with you. She probably still has feelings for you and her attempts to talk to you are to find out if you would want to get back together. If you really feel that strongly then don't take her calls, but don't allow the situation to make you bitter, don't give her that kind of power over you.
2006-07-12 12:09:16 · answer #6 · answered by onlygroovychick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one. if you no longer have feelings for her then dont pick up. let her move on and deal with the decisions she makes with the current guy. she probably realizes u treated her good and wants that again. maybe the new guy isnt providing it and she wants to escape her reality of a bad relationship by talking to you. i think she wants you back. Id be blunt with her. Ask her what shes getting out of your conversations from time to time. im just guessing what it is but i bet money thats what happened.
2006-07-12 12:06:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has another boyfriend and she is calling you it seems you are right she wants to keep you around in case they have a bad day and she needs someone. I would answer the phone to find out why she is even bothering to call, answer what she has to say and ask her not to call you anymore. She has moved on and so should you.
2006-07-12 12:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Dee76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know exactly what she's doing when she calls you.
If the fact is that she does still have feelings for you then she's trying to restore her place in your life.
Of course you could be also correct in assuming that she just wants to keep you around for her "just in case guy".
I have an ex, that I broke up with, that I speak to on a daily basis. I keep in touch with him because I still want to be with him. I broke things off with him months ago b/c he was not being very boyfriend-y. I imagine this made him pretty upset with me, and he still speaks with me, goes out with me, but he refuses to be my boyfriend any longer.
I'm telling you this b/c perhaps you could speak to her, but simply not allow her into such an important role in your life.
Good luck figuring this one out!
2006-07-12 12:09:26 · answer #9 · answered by teressaprincess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would pick up once and see if she wants to work things out if thats what you want. If not then do not bother picking up I went through this same thing and it always made it worse everytime I would tell her not to call me but then later on I would pick up. Just do what you want to do and do not worry about her.
2006-07-12 12:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by yeeeehaw4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to cut her off,just don't answer when she calls.
Eventually she'll get tired of calling and will give up. If she persists
you can tell her straight out you don't want to keep in touch with her.
2006-07-12 12:32:57 · answer #11 · answered by Alion 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋