2006-07-12 11:42:05 · 9 answers · asked by mrsoscaralvarado 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Some women have a tendency to focus on the baby and neglect the father. That is understandable. Right now pregnancy is a very big part of your life (play on words intended). There are things you probably can't do now that you could do before. You are feeling aches and pains. It sort of dominates your thinking. You will be thinking of the baby's future. Plans have to be made. A baby changes a lot.
But it need not ruin the relationship you have with the baby's father. Make sure he knows that he is still number one in your life. Emphasize how important he is to you. Give him of your time and thoughts.
If you have done this right you had a commitment from him that he would stay and support you for the rest of your life, and that he would be a supportive father. That kind of a commitment is called marriage. It is a formal thing, and is designed to weed out the guys who are only into the relationship for the sex or other benefits. If you haven't done it right, and the father of the baby is not your husband, you will have a harder time in life than you needed to have. You have messed up your life. You can get back on the right track if you begin to do the right thing now.
2006-07-12 11:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Doctor 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OUCH!Just at a time when you need love and support he shows his true colors...I say let him fly his kite elsewhere!Collect as much love and support as you can from other sources.keep in mind while this isn't what you planned,what's around the corner may be even better-it's just impossible to see it thru all the pain.Twelve years ago I was there.Firm up a verbal agreement with a male role model for the baby,find out how you can initiate support/custody proceedings(be sure to list him on the birth certificate),and find out what he is willing to do for the baby and NEGOTIATE all aspects!Ultimately,you may feel overwhelmed now,but he is missing out long term.Also,maybe his family could enjoy this childs life and encourage him to do the same.Let them know the situation so there is an open door.Finally,take a deep breath and let the immature jack@*s go.GOODLUCK!
2006-07-12 12:00:41 · answer #2 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
better now than later, I hate to say. But please encourage him to keep in contact with you and the child, and pay child support! Find out the guidelines for support by contacting a social worker and have it deducted from his paycheck. You may have reasons for not wanting to do this but if you wait it will be hard later. Hopefully though he'll change his mind once he's a daddy. And best of luck to you! Don't let him ruin your happiness with that little one.
2006-07-12 11:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is acting that way now, you are better off without him. If you force him, it will only get worse. Unfortunately, I guess you have to wait and see if he comes around. I know it sucks but if you force him, it will just alienate him and that is not good for the baby. He is the one that is going to miss out. How selfish of him. The baby is the one that is really going to miss out. Every child deserves a mother and a father.
2006-07-12 11:49:15 · answer #4 · answered by cawecm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl. Do you have a back-up plan.
But to be positive, when the baby actually comes his feeling might change. He can be nervous or scared about being a parent. It is a big responsibility
2006-07-12 11:53:38 · answer #5 · answered by RONNIEKAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Singles do exactly no longer comprehend what it fairly is go with to have youngsters. particular, your friends won't flow out with you as plenty; the youngsters require a super variety of interest and capability, better than you are able to think of, and of course they gained't go with you getting inebriated at a toddler's birthday celebration. in fact, you mustn't settle for those invites in case you sense the ought to get inebriated there and make an a** of your self. you mustn't ought to convince everybody which you do no longer go with youngsters suitable now, it is your determination. there's a definite form of closeness you have got with mothers and fathers of alternative little ones an identical age as yours, and it fairly is effective to be waiting to proportion that along with your friends. yet once you go with acquaintances to party with, then flow out partying or everywhere and strike up conversations with human beings you think of could desire to be reliable buddy cloth. it fairly is perplexing to make new acquaintances besides the fact that it feels like that's what you should do. Oh, and it would not harm to easily be straight forward along with your friends with youngsters: you should provide them area yet additionally say which you need, besides the fact that if it fairly is basically as quickly as in a protracted on an identical time as, to flow out and have relaxing the type you used to. That way you have got of undertaking of conserving those acquaintances, interior the long term a minimum of.
2016-12-14 07:22:58 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he can not get out of it. he should of thought about that months ago. Everyone knows that children changes things in your life. If he wants out let him out. But i would see to it that he is responsible for the baby when it comes to helping you out.
2006-07-12 11:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by freebirdat2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no, he got u pregnant now he can pay for it! when your baby is born put his name on the birth certificate and get his as.s for all the child support you can leech out of him. his "new" life should be including you and your baby but if he wants to play that game get him back where it hurts = his wallet!
2006-07-12 11:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, what an upstanding man he is! You're better off without him.........
2006-07-12 12:18:01 · answer #9 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋