I have never had a orgasm what do I have to do to get it,someone help me please?
2006-07-12 11:00:36 · 38 answers · asked by Tash x 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Think of sex, of things that you'd like someone to do with you and your body and the things you'd like to do with that persons body while playing with yourself. Keep it on till you start experiencing one of the greatest feelings in the world. You'll know when it happens.
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2006-07-15 02:50:17 · answer #1 · answered by Starreply 6 · 12⤊ 0⤋
You'll need to give more information, such as whether you are male or female, what you have done to try to reach orgasm, how much have you studied your anatomy both on a personal level and academic, how old you are, if you have had sexual trauma or if there are any emotional or physiological reasons why you might not have been able to reach orgasm.
Masturbation is always the first step, although some people do have issues with this due to how society teaches us it is wrong, masturbation is very important to understand your own sexuality and sexual anatomy, finding out how you work. Sex comes naturally, however socially a lot of things are not talked about or taught so it also pays to research and learn about sex and your body yourself through books and web sites – a lot will teach you things that you may not have found or known about on your own.
For example a lot of women don't realise that penetrative sex only brings pleasure to around 30% of women, men and women have sex differently so if you are a woman looking at penetrative sex alone it is no wonder you have not reached orgasm - learning more about your body will mean learning things such as how to have sex without vaginal penetration (most women orgasm from g-spot or clitoral stimulation), learning that there is quite a delay in the time it takes for a woman to be aroused to the point of orgasm, as well as many other things that honestly most people do not know about.
There is then also the fact that orgasm is not the be all and end all of sex, sex can be just as fulfilling and enjoyable without orgasm, it is just a matter of how you go about it, there are a lot of sexual teachings where orgasm can be seen as far from the aim of pleasurable sex.
There are a lot of good sexual health sites around, of course again I say it would help if we knew the above mentioned things, you could however try taking a look at more general sexual health sites such as;
http://www.sexuality.org
http://www.infosex.com
http://www.sextutor.com
http://www.sexology.org
http://www.sex-project.com
2006-07-12 11:14:49 · answer #2 · answered by Kasha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've never had an orgasm with another person? Or you have never had an orgasm at all?
Very big difference. If you have never had an orgasm at all, I also wonder how old you are. If you are old enough to even worry about it... you should also know how to get yourself off. Just keep doing whatever feels good to yourself.
If your problem is that you can get yourself off, but your partner does not get you off - you need to help your partner out a little. Tell him / her what feels good and what you need to make your "O" face. Everyone is different; what worked on one person may not work on you. It's up to you to coach a little. Once your partner gets you there - they will never forget it.
2006-07-12 11:41:05 · answer #3 · answered by snapshot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? If you're legally old enough to be having consensual sex, and you've had more than 1 sex partner(protected of course),and you've tried self pleasure(we know exactly how to please ourselves) you may be suffering from a rare disease, I don't know the name of it but you really want to search the net with certain key words in your search engine such as.... "no orgasms", or "can't have an orgasm" etc, just do not put " .com" behind them just press search/enter. I really hope that you find a solution to your problem. Good luck.
2006-07-12 11:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by jusb4dawn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A comic once asked his audience, "What is the one thing you think about before you go to bed each and every night"...
An 88 year old lady sitting in the front row yelled out, "Masturbation".
We don't want to go there.
2006-07-12 11:03:59 · answer #5 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ann Summers - Rampant Rabbit and plenty batteries. This is guaranteed. Have fun and many long lasting Os!
2006-07-12 11:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Allasse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to relax and not get so stressed out about not having one!
Talk to your partner and tell him/her what's going on.
Try different positions. Get the book "Kama Sutra" and give that a go!
Just remember - Relax and have Fun!
Aloha!
2006-07-12 11:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first are you male or female. as a female go to an adult store and buy a vibrator and figure it out from there and you will never post this question again you will be too busy making up for lost time.
2006-07-12 11:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by donna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...........I totally recommend that "Rabbit" !!! Go online!!!! That sucker does the job for me in like 10-15 seconds....for u probaly will take longer...but use lots of lube and you should be fine!!!!!! And a pic of Johnny Depp!!! And ur good to go
2006-07-12 11:05:57 · answer #9 · answered by devilishdame1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your partner what you like. Try not to worry about it too much because this only makes it worse. Relax and enjoy.
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2006-07-12 11:05:54 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't say how old you are,so I will say this.
Learn to find your own pleasure spots,do this until you know what can make you lose it,then teach your partner this so that he or she can do this for you.Then relax and hold on for dear life.
2006-07-12 11:03:45 · answer #11 · answered by sameasyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋