what I really want to know is why dont people stay head over heels in love with the person they are with. What is it about time that makes people fall out of love? How can we prevent this from happening?
2006-07-12 10:58:11 · 8 answers · asked by Hmm... 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think if two people are right for each other, they won't fall out of love. I married my ex-husband when I was just 18, and I thought I was totally in love with him, but looking back I realize I wasn't. Don't get wrong, I did love him, but I know now it wasn't the kind of love that keeps a marriage together.
I'm remarried now and we have been together for eight years. I married him when I was 24, and I was way more ready the second time around. I knew he was the one for me, and we are still crazy about each other.
I don't believe any stable person would go out and marry someone knowing it was going to end in divorce. But I think for many, especially really young couples like my ex and I, don't realize all that goes into a marriage. When you get pass that honeymoon phase where everything is wonderful and great, and you enter the real world of marriage, bills, responsibilities and realizing this person you're with isn't totally perfect like you thought, it's very overwhelming! But if you are meant to be together, you'll stay together.
2006-07-12 11:47:03 · answer #1 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has nothing to do with time. There's infatuation/lust, and then there's true love. The head-over-heels love that lasts comes when each person's happiness depends on the happiness of the other person. Your own happiness doesn't exist, or it exists only if it is linked to the other person. When two people feel this way about one another, time stops seeming like an endless journey and more like a vacation that will end much too soon.
2006-07-12 11:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by intuition897 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gotta be friends with your spouse; You can't expect to remain 'head over heels in love" forever; So once you get used to each other and all those things that bug you about your spouse start to pop up, just ask yourself; overall, is this person the best person for me and are we a pretty good match?
2006-07-12 11:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Centaur1174 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't stay that way because they start to take each other for granted. Relationships need lots of work either good or bad. People tend to look at others in a wanting way. There are very few people out there that are willing to keep the flames going. Some just need a slight breeze while others need fuel to keep it going. Wish we could find out what it is and then these poor broken families can live happily.
2006-07-12 11:31:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't hard. People don't seem to realize that you have to actively participate in keeping love alive. When you are in the pursuit/courting of your spouse, you both work at coming together and being in love. Why does that end when you have caught each other? If you will continue on courting and working at being in love throughout your life. The same way you did before you got married, every day of your life can be a honeymoon.
2006-07-12 11:11:56 · answer #5 · answered by oldman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The communication stops as the discovery stops.
By this I mean that once a person gets to know another really well, they stop discovering new and exciting things about each other.
Sadly this is why so many people cheat on their loved ones, a new and exciting chapter is presentee to them,so they get tempted and stray.
The only way to stop this happening is to keep the communication lines open 24/7.
2006-07-12 11:08:45 · answer #6 · answered by sameasyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people don't stay 'head over heels' because the relationship gets comfortable. everyone falls 'head over heels' in the beginning because everything is new. you're trying to get to know the person and find out everything about them. over the years, you know everything. you know what salad dressing they eat to what they are going to say next. it's gets boring. the only way to stop it is to find ways to keep the relationship 'new'. trying new things, ect.
2006-07-12 11:08:48 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they find out their spouses isn't as perfect as they thought they were and will do things that will kill that love.
2006-07-12 11:18:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋