i turned 15 in may and have been engaged since january most say its CRAZY i wanna know everybody elses opinion

Question

personally i think its ok as long as u love them i was just wondering how many others think it is or how many think its not!

Answer 1

I really hope you are joking. I would hate to be married at 15. Think of all the things you will have to give up. And what happens when you are 17 pregnant and your husband decides he doesnt want you anymore???

Answer 2

It's okay to be engaged at such a young age, but you should wait a while before getting married. A marriage is a very difficult and serious commitment and most people who get married so young do not stay together. Plus, there are so many opportunities you have yet to experience and you probably won't if you are married and have kids. You should experience those first before getting married (finishing school, going to college, traveling...all things that would be difficult to do after getting married and having kids). Hopefully the person you are engaged to is around the same age, otherwise, you may not get along so well as you both get older, mature and change. However, to each his own, and good luck to you and your fiance!

Answer 3

At the age of 15, I do not belive that you are even able to experience the type of true love that a marriage requires. That is an age where you should be figuring out who you are as a person and what you want with your life. I think its absurd that your parents would even consider letting you get married at this age, certainly if you're not wise enough to know how much work and effort goes into a marriage, they should. It would be my suggestion to hold off on getting married for quite a few years, till you are at least in your 20's- figure out what you really want and they if you still feel the same way about each other at that age, then get married.

Answer 4

Statistics show marriages at age 19 and younger have a very high divorce rate. (I had 3 siblings get married at 18 and 19, and they have all been divorced!)

To make a marriage work you need a lot more than just love: you need to be able to maturely work through arguments without help from the rest of your family or friends, you need to have the same core values, you need to agree on how to raise children, you need to agree on how you'll budget your money, you need to have money to budget, you need to agree on your relationships with the original families you came from, and since your under 18, you'll need your parent's permission, and I hope they don't give it to you.

Really, I was so in love with the guy I was dating when I was 15. Now I'm 24, I'm married, and I'm so glad I didn't marry the guy I was dating when I was 15. I've changed so much since then, and so will you. If he really loves you, he'll wait a few years to give you the opportunity to grow and change into the woman that you're going to be that will make for him a wonderful wife.

Good luck!

Answer 5

You may love him now but you both will grow and it might be in different directions honestly I do not feel that you are mature enough to make that sort of life long commitment most adults have a hard time until they are almost 30. There is to much to exp.. as a teenager and young adult. If you remain engaged through graduation I wouldnt get married until you are done with college or are at least 23.

Answer 6

As hard as it is to see, at 15 you don't have any idea what true love is. I know at that age you think you do....and you think it will last forever, but let me tell you from experience.....it won't. You have the best years of your life ahead of you...in the next 10 years you will learn so much about the person you are and your outlook on things will change a lot....mark my words. If you do choose to get married, you will most likely be divorced within 5 years tops. Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce, and marrying when you truly don't know what you want due to lack of experience just ups your chances.

Answer 7

First let me ask you a question-- then maybe it will answer yours.

When you go into a store do you buy the first pair of shoes you see? or how about the first dress, maybe the first pair of jeans? I am guessing that you don't -- So why are you engaged? because you feel love for the first time? well that's nice but is it the first time you have 'ever been in love'?--if it is true love then this fellow will be willing to wait right?
If not ask your self the question about the store and what you choose? Why you choose! is it because you don't want the first thing that comes along??

Answer 8

You are only 15 there is no need to rush into marriage at such a young age.

I personally would wait. Who I was at 15 and who I am now are two different people. I think it is best to wait to be in an engagement when you are older because you are going to be doing a lot more growing and maturing between now and than.

Answer 9

Yeah because you are only 15......how do you know you going to love this man (because I don't believe he is 15 as well). You have your whole life ahead of you. Enjoy being a teenager and a young adult before you start running off getting engage and married. Can you all just go together or something. What happen to a promise ring?

Answer 10

It is crazy. At 15, you might think you know everything, but Honey, I've got news for you. You don't. I didn't when I was your age, and no one ever in the history of the world knew it at that age either. You will only set yourself up for a life of disappointment if you try to grow up too quickly. There is plenty of time to get married. At 15, you should be focused on getting a good education, making friends, dating a variety of guys (note, I said date, not sleep with) and finding yourself. When you hit your 20's, you will go through a lot of changes and do a lot of growing up. That's where it happens. You might love him now, but how about in 10 more years? You might hate the very sound of his name. Please, please, please take your time and enjoy your life. If he is the right guy, he will still be the right guy after you take your time and live life a little.

Answer 11

Take this for what you will... I was married at 16, mother at 18, and raising a 3 week old baby on my own while my husband screwed around. The sad part is, I was to young & dumb to do anything about it for the next 5 years. Sound Fun? If you think so, then go for it- but don't think that everyone was full of sh*t when you are looking back on their opinion when you are 30.