and is this thing healthy or not ?
2006-07-12 10:47:56 · 18 answers · asked by aurora442x 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Yes. Trust me on this one.
But...
All relationships evolve, and this one will also. It could become emotionally treacherous for the both of you. Best advice: Keep your distance, and if things begin to change (in a not so platonic sense), then END it.
2006-07-12 10:53:06 · answer #1 · answered by stevenB 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes. If a strictly platonic relationship between a man and a woman can ever exist, it can exist at any age.
Friendship is always healthy as long as it is honest. You both may have a lot to offer each other in friendship. I have many MANY older friends 20+ years older than me, and several 5 - 8 years younger, of both genders on either side.
If you are worried that he wants more, then I'd tell him very clearly that you don't - or ask him if he does... make sure the boundaries are set. After that, assuming you are both more than happy with those boundaries everything should be ducky.
2006-07-12 10:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by sarahforever82 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very unlikely that a forty-year-old man wants to be your "friend." Maybe a friend "with benefits."
If he is healthy, hetero, and normal, he is after booty (eventually.) And why not?
Why should you want to be platonic with him? Do you find him at all attractive? If not, you might think of him as your buddy, but chances are, he will be acting buddy-buddy to you for a pay-off of some kind. You will have a weak moment and he'll be standing there, arms wide open. Big msitake!
If you find him a little attractive or a lot, you are playing with fire. You will end up in the sack, and he will be mad about you. When you are in your prime, he will be in a walker.
What do you want from him, if not a man-woman relationship? Are you trying to get him to support you, listen to you, be your buddy, without sex? Why should he?
Somebody's lying.
If he is a one in a million guy, he will keep hands off- and you will appreciate it.
My advice? Hang with people your own age, and have platonic friendships with straight 40-year-old women or kids.
2006-07-12 11:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it. There may be some unique situations - such as that between a young professional and a mentor, or a professor and a promising student - but I would think that most of these situations ultimately don't work. You'd grow closer, a thank you hug or peck on the cheek would be misinterpreted, and soon the relationship would change. Don't count on this working out.
2006-07-12 10:54:34 · answer #4 · answered by digitalrancher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want to say yes, but when I look back at when that happened in my life, I realize that there was an attraction there. Neither one of us did anything about it and were friends for a while, but it didn't last. Why wouldn't it be healthy? 20s and 40s aren't as far apart as, say, 20s and 60s.
2006-07-12 10:53:16 · answer #5 · answered by Who, me? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CAN it? Yes. Is it likely? Not so much. If you are asking, you probably have an intuition that it is not as platonic as you would like. Trust your instincts.
2006-07-12 10:51:32 · answer #6 · answered by oohhbother 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure if youre looking for a sugar daddy and hes having a mid life crisis
2006-07-12 10:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could, but it is unlikely, especially if the girl is hot. However, any relationship CAN be healthy.
2006-07-12 10:51:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's likely he's looking for more, unless he's gay. Is it possible/ yeah, but i'd tell my daughter to run the other way from somebody that disingenuous.
2006-07-12 10:52:20 · answer #9 · answered by Nowayjose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet he's wanting to have relations and is working on her one day at a time.
2006-07-12 10:51:05 · answer #10 · answered by Joey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋