If you have been with a man for seven years, have lived with him for four and have a three year old. Do you think he should of poped the question and made it offical yet?
2006-07-12 10:47:45 · 18 answers · asked by fairylandk 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have a child together - that is the greatest commitment you can have made together.
I've been with my man for 7 years too and I'd love a proposal but I know its just for the effect of the thing, there is no real reason for wanting it, it would just be to show to other people. I know what is in our hearts.
I suspect its the same with you guys, the commitment is there in flesh and blood - do you really need a ceremony to make you more together? Rubbish!
2006-07-13 03:35:09 · answer #1 · answered by Leapling 4 · 12⤊ 2⤋
Some women find it "safer" with a marriage certificate but legally you are entitled to all the benefits as a marriaged couple should things go wrong...
The question is, are you happy with him in this relationship, and will the certificate make you happier?
I think life is full of uncertainties and surprises that no legal document will truly protect you for the future.
2006-07-12 18:28:59 · answer #2 · answered by godfather 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why..he has all the advantages of marriage and none of the junk of divorce should the marriage fail. You have misplayed your cards along the line if you wanted to get married. I strongly suggest YOU ask him to marry you before the sun sets. Why waste another minute if this is going no where? Good luck
2006-07-12 17:52:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been with a asshole for 6 and a half years 3 kids 5,2 years and 5 months and he ant got no intention of doing the decent thing!
2006-07-12 19:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by somekindsupastar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to talk to him about it. Perhaps he sees a marriage as just a paper and there be no need for it. And for the record, if the both of you do want to get married, I still believe the man should ask properly.
2006-07-12 18:05:28 · answer #5 · answered by LOVE2LD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some states it becomes common-law after 5 years. Look into it.
However, what is the point? Have you needed it so far? Are you going to need the piece of paper for your child's sake? Do you think he's going to think of it on his own?
Talk to him. Tell him what you want and why, ask him what he wants.
2006-07-12 17:59:32 · answer #6 · answered by Sara B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you feel you have to make it 'official'? Are you not happy with the fact you seem to be in stable, loving relationship? Is it for the 'big day' when you get to wear a big dress and have a knees up?
Its an old cliche but its SOO true..."if it ain't broke don't fix it!"
2006-07-12 17:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by aurora_xtc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that it would have happened already. Hae you two talked about it? He may not know that that is something you want. If you have spoke about it then it may be time to let the relationship go. If he won't make a commitment to you after all you have together.
2006-07-12 17:54:07 · answer #8 · answered by dkhae1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you both happy with the way things theres no need to change it. Obviously your not though otherwise you wouldnt be asking so sit him down and talk about it with him see how he feels and why he feels that way.
Depending on his answers - stay or walk
2006-07-12 17:57:56 · answer #9 · answered by LifeChange 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all the time its only a piece of paper whitch costs thousands and they always change youve got your independance at the moment when they take you down the isle they think then that your their property they always mostly change keep him on a thread good luck
2006-07-12 18:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋