My mom just had two babys in the past two years. I love them with all my heart, but I feel like I am the oldest one's surregate mother or something. I get her up in the morning, I change her diaper, I feed her, etc... and I help out with the the newborn too. I just want my life back, I am 16 years old, can't I have some time for me? I know my mom needs help and all cause my Dad's gone to Iraq, but can't I have a life?
2006-07-12 10:44:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Okay to the first person who answered, she didn't have an affair. She had the babys when my Dad was here. She is extremely faithful, I am with her alot, I would know.
2006-07-12 10:56:04 · update #1
I think you should have a talk with your mom and just tell her how you feel and let here know that you don't mind helping with the babies but you would also like to have some time to be 16 and that you're not ready to take on this kind of task just yet. Make sure you also let her know that when she needs you that you will be there and you love helping her when you can.
2006-07-12 11:09:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
this sucks, i know. i been there. my mom decided to be single as soon as I turned old enough to be left at home with my sister. Does your mom work? part-time? full-time? this is all part of the wonderful reason why you are the oldest child. it bites, i know. Tell your mom you don't mind helping, but you would like to have a few days off once in awhile. Keep a chore list of all the things you do. then write down all the things you wan to be able to do. Come up with a solution to have both. Does your mother have a schedule as well? Don't talk to her with a "cinderella syndrome". just figure out a way to be helpful along with having your own time.
Good Luck. May this experience teach you to be careful and not get yourself into trouble such as getting pregnant. Think of it this way, all the fun stuff starts after you are 18 anyway. And believe me, if you do it right, THOSE ARE THE YEARS YOU WILL ENJOY AND REMEMBER MOST ANYWAY!
2006-07-12 18:32:36 · answer #2 · answered by Bella 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right. It doesn't seem fair. But your dad has given up so much to serve our country. Your mom needs your support to make the family work right now. You'll have a chance to be a teenager again when your dad comes home. Plus, nothing is better birth control for a teenager than having the responsibility of an infant/toddler around.
2006-07-12 17:54:23 · answer #3 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her know you are the child and she is the parent and all of those duties are hers. I assume you have to study and get up in the morning yourself and go to school. I'm sure you need to not only keep a social life, but be worry about teenage things like SAT's, what college to attend and your latest crush. I know it is probably hard on your mother but she needs to find another support system that involves adults. Also tell her to use protection when your dad in home so she doesn't get pregnant every time.
2006-07-12 17:59:34 · answer #4 · answered by Kenya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think that is a great question and personally my answer to your question i would have to say that maybe you should sit down and have a talk with your mother and most likely parents are problably going to say to they work and its your job to stay at home, or that it gets you ready or helps you be responsible but one thing that i noticed is that parents have excuses to to me if a parent said something like thator even similar to something like that i think its an excuse and another way to saying they no they are wrong but dont want to admitt it actually its not your responsilbility to take care of them two, especially the one that you get up and get dressed and things like that you have to make your mother understand that you are a teenager you want to do teen things and taking care of a baby isnt really a teen thing. you can learn responsibility from
watchiung her do it not doing it for her, you should also really importantley let your mother no that the children could get to attached too you if they arent already this could hurt all of you in the long run what is they stop calling her mommy, or what if they repsond to you and not her or what if eventually although right now you may not feel like you will but you eventually loose respect for your mother what if she tries to take control like you have and they just dont listen im sure none of you want this to happen even little things can be painfule in the end let her no you want a life make her understand that you dont have one. parents are parents they are our authority. but the both of you need to realize that that doesnt mean parents cant be in a wrongful doing. so talk to her.
2006-07-12 18:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by maleaqe16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once the baby is sleeping through the night ask your mom if you can go spend the weekend at a friend's house. I'm sure she appreciates all that you are doing for her and I'm sure she knows how hard it is. Just hang in there and think about how much bonding time you are getting with your sister.
2006-07-12 17:49:07 · answer #6 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, how is she having children while your father's deployed? anyways...just tell you that YOU are the child and that SHE is the mother. She's the one that got pregnant and had a child so it's NOT your responsibility. Oh ok, I was confused at first but I know a lot of military wives that have became pregnant everytime their men were brought home. Just explain to her how you feel
2006-07-12 17:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to ur mom about this and see if yall could get a nanny or something and if not just talk to ur mom and ask her if u wouldn't have to take care of them so much.i wish u lucky
2006-07-12 17:49:59 · answer #8 · answered by Aliesha B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do about it - YOU'RE STUCK! Life aint always fair... Now, do your duties and help your MOM out.. Its not forever!
2006-07-12 17:53:08 · answer #9 · answered by johncharlesrealty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋